I'm the same way, except I don't use candles. I use aroma therapy with a diffuser and different scented oils. I have five aromas I like: Rose, lavender, lilac, radiant orchid, and my favorite - Tranquility. All are from Walmart. They make the entire house smell good.
I always wait until my household chores are done, everything is clean, and I can really relax for the afternoon and evening.
For music, I love light classical. Sometimes I'll put on relaxation music which is a bit different from classical.
To really get in the mood, I'll have a glass or two of Riesling wine, close all the blinds so it's a bit darker, lock the doors and turn off the phone, and keep the A/C on a bit cooler but not cold. This sets the stage for an uninterrupted romantic interlude with the enema bag even if it's "romance for one". Sorry, I'm a hopeless romantic! LOL!
Speaking of which, the enema bag awaits, the mood is set, and I'm off to enjoy a good, relaxing bowel cleansing, followed by a really strong orgasm and a shower at the end. Then it's time to enjoy jumbo shrimp cocktail (thawing in the fridge), a trip to get a pizza, and a good movie on my big-screen TV. The day's planned.
Alex