Hand on throat

Many of you may know (of) this already, but in perusing the Web recently with 'throat' as a key-word (!) I came across the site called 'Dominant Soul', sub-titled 'The Erotic Art of Sensual Domination'. It's extensive - and informative.

In particular, I was impressed by an entry called 'Masculine Hand on a Feminine Throat: Universal Sub Arousal'.

https://dominantsoul.wordpress.com/psychology-of-submission/masculine-hand-on-feminine-throat/

The gist of it is that a hand on a submissive woman's [or guy's?] throat is a sure-fire means of having them melt for you. 'It is about deep intimacy and incredible trust.' A warning is added: 'Do not attempt this with a new or occasional partner [or a non-submissive one].'

I liked the readers' replies, among them this one: 'There is nothing sexier and more intense than a strong man's hand on my throat while he stares into my eyes and tells me what he has planned for me.'

We all understand that, don't we?!

- Ken

We all understand that, don't we?!

Meaning, there's a universal principle here, isn't there? There are situations where most people are happy to be 'bossed' a little. (I think the movies of Hitchcock were like this, and many of us were happy to 'submit' for a couple of hours to his 'control'!) And obviously it's a principle with an erotic dimension. I read an article recently on lecturer-student romances in tertiary institutions, where the lecturer's authority is potentially like an aphrodisiac to both parties.

The hand-on-throat situation is just an extension of the principle into the bedroom itself. (My other thought was that the throat, like virtually any part of one's partner's body, is potentially erotic, but the throat is also particularly vulnerable so there's a double-whammy involved.)

I thought I'd post my thought in the Dominance/Submission thread!

- Ken

No way, too many other areas to dominate

No way, too many other areas to dominate

Thanks, toshe63. But note: I was referring to a universal principle, not to the specific hand-on-throat instance of it. You seem to be agreeing with me! Yes, you, an avowed submissive! Q.E.D.?!

- Ken

SPOILER ALERT: If you are a weak hearted, easily offended snowflake social justice warrior or have been molested or raped or know someone, especially a close friend or relative who has been molested or raped do not read this. 😁

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A hand on the throat, especially while the submissive person is lying supine against a surface like a bed, floor, table or whatever is a tremendously powerful act. The submissive has no where to go to escape being held especially if they are already restrained on all their limbs. Even a small 115 pound person like me can give quite a throat crushing. It is almost a strangling position. The dominant can use considerable force and their weight to hold the submissive in position or to close the airway. It is one where a real dominant/attacker/molester has real power over the submissive/victim.

It gives a great sense of power to the dominant.

I LOVE IT.

PLAY HARD.

Curious if any of you dominants out there have ever considered Waterboarding?? Complete power and control over your sub.

I have given powerful hand sprays to the face in the shower.

This summer I'll have to tie someone to our diving board and pour buckets of water over them.

I really don't relish the thought of cleaning a flood of water inside the house.

I probably would do it, but in another life my wife was a cop, and she still has an acute sense of danger. Anything that resembles a chokehold would trigger that sense and absolutely spoil the playtime.

So, no.

Great topic, Ken! I can't say I'm involved in the master/sub stuff, but the tittle of this topic 'Hand on throat' is actually one of the things that I adore doing to my lady. And, much to my delight, she too adores having it done to her. I can confirm from first hand experience that placing my hand on her throat indeed makes her switch into full-body submission mode.

And btw I think that guy is absolutely right: It is never about choking. It is about deep intimacy and trust.

@SwitchableSusie I am a little bit more afraid of you now Susie......

Great topic, Ken! [...] I can confirm from first hand experience that placing my hand on her throat indeed makes ['my lady'] switch into full-body submission mode. And btw I think that guy is absolutely right: It is never about choking. It is about deep intimacy and trust.

Thanks, hbplay!

And, yes, zaboots (n.b., different post), Susie IS fearsome, isn't she?!

- Ken

Oh hell yes. I love love love when my husband puts his hand around my throat when he’s fucking me hard and fast. Yes please!

Susie says:

I have given powerful hand sprays to the face in the shower.

This summer I'll have to tie someone to our diving board and pour buckets of water over them.

I really don't relish the thought of cleaning a flood of water inside the house.

Susie is really a softy waterboarding and whippings aside. She is just misunderstood. Don't be afraid.

Curious if any of you dominants out there have ever considered Waterboarding?? Complete power and control over your sub.

Omg - yes!! Love the idea of waterboarding....whilst being masturbated / stethed (or both...).

And also, to answer the original point of this thread.....a strong masculine hand round a dainty feminine throat....squeezing, controlling / restricting her oxygen supply, her carotids pulsing wildly under his fingers.....soooooooo damn sexy ???

Omg - yes!! Love the idea of waterboarding....whilst being masturbated / stethed (or both...). ???

My idea of waterboarding might include an enema bag and a paddle

@SwitchableSusie I am a little bit more afraid of you now Susie......

Be afraid. Be very afraid. 😈

Thanks, hbplay!

Thank you too, Ken! It's good to see that your thread got revived. I hope it will keep going.

Interesting and totally different from what Perry does to Celeste in Big Little Lies where his throat move chokes her but she, in therapy, can't admit she ever felt in fear for her life. That whole relationship captures the clear line between abuse and play, consent and force, and how muddled it can get in the mind of a victim like Celeste and perpetrator like Perry who can't separate love from violence/control.

Interesting and totally different from what Perry does to Celeste in Big Little Lies where his throat move chokes her but she, in therapy, can't admit she ever felt in fear for her life. That whole relationship captures the clear line between abuse and play, consent and force

I haven't seen Big Little Lies, happy2bhere - although I just watched its trailer and an excerpt called 'first day at school', and read a synopsis, on IMDb.

It's a 'clear line' in one way - one to be understood by every responsible person towards a partner - but in another way it may be far from a clear line insofar as personality and the psyche are informed by both tendencies, IMHO. That's a reason why TV shows and movies are ambiguous in their appeal: for example, there's something sexy about guns and violence! In an earlier post to this thread (post #2), I referred to Hitchcock movies where audiences willingly 'submit' for two hours to the director's 'control'. Interestingly, I have read that Hitchcock enjoyed (!) being photographed with his hand on an actress's throat, and he included 'strangling' scenes in his movies. (STRANGERS ON A TRAIN has two: one 'for real' and one at a party where a mock strangulation goes wrong.) He must have felt that such content was engaging rather than just abhorrent!

- Ken

Kenneth has a good point and part of what's creepy about Hitchcock's choking scene "gone wrong" is that it is his own daughter who plays the victim.

part of what's creepy about Hitchcock's choking scene "gone wrong" is that it is his own daughter who plays the victim.

Just noticed something, happy2bhere, in your description of that scene from STRANGERS ON A TRAIN. It's not quite accurate. The victim of the mock-strangling that goes wrong at a society party is a dowager (Norma Varden). Her mock-strangler is the flamboyant and psychopathic Bruno (Robert Walker). When something causes him to freeze, with his hands on the lady's throat, and he nearly chokes her, the incident is witnessed by a horrified girl with spectacles, played by Patricia Hitchcock. I'm not sure that this is 'creepy', just plain terrifying! It takes place in a crowded room, yet at first hardly anybody else notices what is happening. The dowager nearly gets strangled for real!

Hmm. As I've suggested here already (post #2), the throat, like virtually any part of one's partner's body, is potentially erotic but is also particularly vulnerable, so there's a double-whammy involved when playing dominance-submission games with it!

Btw, I see that there's a trailer for the above movie on the IMDb. Worth checking out?!

- Ken

My husband isn't home from the office yet.

I think I am going outside and driving the six corkscrew dog-line stakes into the lawn to restrain him supine--both arms, both sides of his waist and both legs, spread eagled of course. Then I'll do the throat crusher maneuver, fuck him for what he's worth and then turn the sprinkler zone on for half an hour to wash his semen and my juices off his genitalia. 😈

My husband isn't home from the office yet.

I think I am going outside and driving the six corkscrew dog-line stakes into the lawn to restrain him supine--both arms, both sides of his waist and both legs, spread eagled of course. Then I'll do the throat crusher maneuver, fuck him for what he's worth and then turn the sprinkler zone on for half an hour to wash his semen and my juices off his genitalia. 😈

And what do you do to him when you're angry? 😁 😁 😁

I wonder what angry make up sex is like at their house ! ?

I am thinking along the lines of the movie Mr & Mrs Smith

Lol

Well, the evening did not go as I had envisioned.

Hubby came home and I greeted him with a kiss and unbuckled his pants. He said he had a very hard but productive week at the office, a lot of traffic coming home and he just wanted to sit down and listen to Camille Saint Saens Symphony #3--Organ Symphony.

I got turned down before I even told him my ultimate plan! I opened a bottle of Dow's 2005 vintage port, brought in some cheese and a baguette and we sat down to listen to the Christoph Eschenbach SACD in the music room. It's a glorious recording.

It was still a very cozy evening. I know I'll have my way with him (one way or another) tomorrow!

And what do you do to him when you're angry? 😁 😁 😁

I ignore him, but that hardly ever happens.

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I wonder what angry make up sex is like at their house ! ?

I am thinking along the lines of the movie Mr & Mrs Smith

That's not far from the truth.

It's very hard and furious and little like rape, but lots of fun.

The fact is we have an incredible amount of fun with each other. I have restrained him on the lawn several times before and he has done the same to me. In a sick manner, we look forward to these transgressions. It turns us both on and is another way for us to be close to each other.

The fact is we have an incredible amount of fun with each other. I have restrained him on the lawn several times before and he has done the same to me. In a sick manner, we look forward to these transgressions. It turns us both on and is another way for us to be close to each other.

That's just as it should be.

he just wanted to sit down and listen to Camille Saint Saens Symphony #3--Organ Symphony.

Off topic I know, but, I just absolutely love that symphony. I think the interplay between the full orchestra and the organ is brilliant, especially in the slower, softer parts where you hear (and feel) the bass from the organ.

You choose to put your hands on my throat, will it present a problem if I put my hands on your nuts??

You choose to put your hands on my throat, will it present a problem if I put my hands on your nuts??

Touche (the 'e' accented, of course)! A thoughtful question, Tillie!

Answer: probably not, but maybe not at the same time! 'Let's take it in turns to do things! And if I'm gentle with you, you be gentle with me!'

- Ken