Did you ever get spanked on the butt cheeks when you were resistant to being given enemas?

I have memories of receiving enemas since I was four years of age when my mother started to give me warm water enemas with a bulb syringe. I have fond memories of the relaxing enemas that I received that were Epsom salts and warm water, and I have some bad memories of being given Ivory soap and warm water enemas when I was constipated and irritable. Those types of enemas caused cramping and I wanted to avoid them. When I was wiggling and trying to move my bottom way from the bulb syringe when I was being given a soapy enema by my mom or aunt, I would be told to lay still and accept the enema. If I ignored the adult and was resistant to receiving the soapy enema, I would be spanked by hand on my butt cheeks until I settled down and allowed the enema to proceed. This made me more angry and made me feel humiliated, however I learned to control my behavior as I did not like to be spanked by my mom or aunt. Was anyone else spanked on the butt cheeks during an enema? How did it make you feel?

No, but I tend to get smacked on my butt cheeks when the masseuse returns with my change & finds them framed in a jockstrap.

Never been spanked. Never spanked anyone.

Violence teaches violence.

All children learn by example most adults do a well.

Hitting, or "punishment" in general only re-enforces negative behavior

There is not a shred of compelling evidence anywhere of positive behavior being re-enforced by punishment.

Given that total submission is NOT always positive and in an increasing number of cases respectfully assertive is the key to success

Now, that I have to supervise other employees I have found that POSITIVE re-enforcement gets you a lit farther then negative re-enforcement

. . . . Now, that I have to supervise other employees I have found that POSITIVE re-enforcement gets you a lit farther then negative re-enforcement

You mean positive reinforcement, as in to support or strengthen, gets you a LOT farther than negative reinforcement, not re-enforcement as in enforcing laws.

A psychologist social justice warrior would make that mistake.

I was never spanked while being given an enema. Though my first enema was when I was 33 and given by my sub. He wanted me to have a relaxing and as pleasant as he could give me despite my being constipated.

Violence teaches violence.

All children learn by example most adults do a well.

Hitting, or "punishment" in general only re-enforces negative behavior

This is one side of the view on punishment. From my experience with being punished as a child, I learned it hurt to do "wrong" so doing "right" was a better option. I get so tired of being told that what I experienced as a child is wrong. Without those experience I wouldn't be the person I am.

There is not a shred of compelling evidence anywhere of positive behavior being re-enforced by punishment

Well, if parents didn't show their children limits and rules the world would be an interesting place.

Other that this comment I have nothing to say on this topic. I figured that the way she phrased her comment it required more feedback on how wrong is sounds.

I am sorry LisaK, but some of the things you say I cannot possibly agree with either.

Violence teaches violence.

This is an old saying and one I found very shallow even as a child. The logical conclusion is that we do not need an Army, Navy, Air force, etc. since using force against anyone will only teach them to use force against us in return. I respect the Biblical "turn the other cheek", but as someone who was terribly bullied as a child and has who been attacked more times than I care to think of as an adult, the ONLY thing that has ever stopped them was when I fought better than they did. So in my experience, violence STOPPED violence.

Hitting, or "punishment" in general only re-enforces negative behavior

No. I have seen many children misbehaving at school when I was a child, and the teacher could only got them to behave, by using punishments. They wanted to play, not work, so would not listen to reason or positive reinforcement. Adults are just the same. I would like lots of money, but I would not rob a bank, because I do not want the punishment of ten years in jail. Same for parking where you should not and so on.

There is not a shred of compelling evidence anywhere of positive behavior being re-enforced by punishment.

Of course there is - Why are you not a criminal for example?

See just for example:

https://humansciences.okstate.edu/hdfs/directory/robert-larzelere.html

and perhaps:

https://scholarship.law.duke.edu/lcp/vol73/iss2/4/

Given that total submission is NOT always positive and in an increasing number of cases respectfully assertive is the key to success

Agreed.

As a kid I was threatened with spanking for non cooperation when I was told it was enema time but it never actually happened. I was spanked occasionally for bad behavior unrelated to getting enemas

No, I don't recall ever being spanked before or during my childhood enemas. But I specifically recall being asked by mom if I wanted to get the belt first if I started to complain about the upcoming inevitable event. What a way to get a kid to cooperate (always worked though).

I was never spanked during an enema session because I never resisted. The enemas I was given were warm & gentle.

I didn't like or dislike enemas - just were just a fact of life in the '50's!