I’m wondering how a person should go about visiting a BDSM club. I live in the Bay Area near SF. How can I know which one is reputable? What should I expect upon my visit? Can I just be an observer or do I have to participate? How does one prepares oneself for this kind of visit? This would be my first time. I have another female friend also interested in going. Is that appropriate for two females to go together? Sorry if I sound naive but I am. My experiences are very minimal. I’ve just read a lot and spoken to some online but not in person. Any advice is appreciated.