People ...We are talking about a"professional [ a person engaged in a specified activity as one's main paid occupation rather than as a pastime]. relationship here. Like any professional relationship, if you don't pay you won't receive their expertise service: If you see a doctor, lawyer, dentist, accountant, etc and you don't pay, you don't get service. They don't care about you either. They are not your friend either.That is not to say you can't have a successful/rewarding professional relationship.. better health, great estate plan, good teeth, less taxes to pay. If you preceive value from these professionals, you keep going back. If you don't you find someone else.
Not everyone is fortunate enough to find a partner who enjoys, some, many ,or all the kinks you are interested in. There are countless discussions by zity members who wish that partner who would participate/indulge their kink. There are numerous married people on zity that are seeking one or more of the following:
Looking for: Friendship' ,A Relationship, A Mentor/Teacher, Someone To Play With, A Master
If you are not willing to accept, nor risk the chance of experiencing the potential repercussions of your actions, keep the status quo.
Life is short. I am told that most people near the end of their journey regret the things they did not do. If you are willing to accept the responsibilities and consequences of your decisions and actions, go for it.