The Psychology Of Rimming

I have often wondered about this from time to time. I am referring to the act of rimming; aka analingus. This is an act of sexual stimulation that some/many find disgusting and repulsive. Perhaps not so much as the recipient; but as a potential giver. In other words why do women or men, like myself, desire and enjoy giving oral pleasure to apart of that anatomy, considering it's natural function? In other words; what is the mind set, psyche, "psychology" of an individual who enjoys giving rim jobs? I'm just trying to figure out where this manifestation may have begun with me. I look forward to hearing input from others like me. Thank you.

Well I don't think it is too complicated.

The anus is very close to the genitalia and the nerve endings are very closely tied in with the genitals. Providing gentle stimulation feels good with fingers or tongue. If the person who is receiving the rim job has washed themselves with soap and water prior to play, then there should not be any problems. If you are not bringing any psychological baggage to the bedroom, then I don't think its any more complicated than providing pleasure for your partner.

I go down on my wife's ass almost every time we have sex. I had never done it with previous partners. I don't think that I would necessarily want to do it with other women. If I fantasize about other women I might think about licking their clit, but not about their ass. I've always felt that the fact that I would only want to do this with my wife as a positive sign about how I feel about her. It enables her to have a much better orgasm (she will finish by rubbing her clit while I rim her), and I love being able to help her.

For me it's mainly about the musky scent that drives me wild. People keep telling me that science says there's no such thing as human pheromones but my experience says it sure feels like pheromones to me. While I wouldn't turn down a freshly-showered butt, it's just not as exciting for me as one that's had at least a few hours to accumulate the sweaty musky scent. I get sort of hypnotized while I'm eating ass. Sometimes I feel like maybe rimming also taps into that long-dormant part of my brain that gets pleasure from nursing (I don't want to hear anyone's Freudian explanation for that though, lol). It's a nice bonus that it gives the recipient a lot of pleasure, but really the pleasure is mine.

I met my boyfriend by putting a personals ad online looking for a guy who likes to get his ass eaten as much as I like to eat ass. I get to spend at least a half hour rimming him every time we hang out, and he loves every minute of it. He's a top with an extremely sensitive tight hole that takes some coaxing before it will let my tongue in.

I'm giddy with excitement when I get to chow down on my favorite delicacy: a well-trained experienced hole that can stretch and gape open. It's like making out with a set of lips. Hope that's not too graphic, lol!

I too perform analingus on my wife every time we have sex and we both enjoy it. The smell of her unwashed (but well-wiped) bottom is incredibly sexy to me. I sniff, lick and kiss her anus before I insert my penis in her vagina and fuck her doggy-style until I come. Typically she has already had an orgasm via a combination of cunnilingus and vibrator. Hours after sex I can still smell her pussy and her bottom on my face (I'm bearded/mustachioed) and nothing in this world gives me greater pleasure. Psychologically, the excitement for me is rooted in the fundamentally primal and dirty fact that we have sex where we go to the bathroom. In my view, sex is supposed to be a bit naughty, dirty and stinky, and what better way to celebrate that than to make love to my wife's potty holes with my nose, my tongue and my penis. People that are hypersensitive to or disgusted by these behaviors are missing out on considerable pleasure and the sense of freedom that comes from abandoning rigidity and restrictions typically imposed on us as children. Pity...

That's actually something that hadn't occurred to me. OMG... I love to tongue my man's ass, stroking him off at the same time is amazing. But why do I enjoy it? Enjoy? Oh hell, to be honest I crave it at times. One idea to me is it's a very intimate part of your body and mind, even more so than a penis or vagina. And your partner is allowing you taste, explore, enjoy their very private area.

Given the proximity, it just seems a natural for me to include rimming my wife's anus while performing oral sex on her. I know how good it feels on me and want to give her what I believe is the same pleasure that I receive from it. We took a bath together earlier this week and I spent a lot of time washing her back for her before having her assume a "doggy" style position in the bathtub so I could throughly wash her anus and vulva. I rinsed the soap and immediately began rimming her in the tub. I spread her cheeks wide and probed her with my tongue for several minutes before her knees and my neck gave out. We switched positions a bit and she washed my back for me. Interestingly, she did not make any effort to wash my butt or perform any oral activity on me during this occasion. She has rimmed me in the past but on par, I rim her much more frequently than she does the favor to me. I am sure there is a psychological reason for this but I have not explored that reason as I am content with my giving and receiving.

Well I guess I have to say all of the above! Or below! Whichever... I truly LOVE rimming a woman’s ass! Reasons :

- Its incredibly intimate! Just about every sexually active woman has her pussy eaten. But how many get their ass eaten? She’s exposing part of herself that most likely no-one else has seen or touched or played with (not including Drs)

- It’s nasty! Not in a bad way of course. But it’s thought of as naughty, dirty, messy, gross, taboo by most of society. I really get a kick out of being ‘different’, abnormal or kinky. Adds to the excitement.

- It smells! No, not like poop. After a long day, her ass has a wonderful scent; a mixture of vaginal secretions, sweat, and butt smell from a wiped bowel movement. I LOVE this musky smell!!

- It’s a gateway to more! Many times I have been the first partner to approach anal play with the woman I am with. I love eating pussy too, so it’s a natural progression to move to her ass, and I’m sure I surprised quite a few of them! But I’m not sure that any stopped me; it just feels too good. So when I hear their pleasurable noises I know my tongue is working. And this leads to fingers being inserted, and then eventually anal sex!

- Its submissive! But not in the way most would think. In MY head, she is being submissive, being ‘forced’ to bend over, expose her most private area, made to hold her cheeks open to show me her ‘disgusting’ hole. She willl be embarrassed, maybe a bit humiliated. And then even more so when she can’t help but feel the pleasure of such a naughty act! Admitting to herself that she like her butt-hole licked!

I have had the favor returned only a few times, but with an enthusiastic partner, it’s quite a wonderful experience!

If it feels good to you then why not as long as you are prepared to rim yourself. Everything is a two way thing.

Hello. I am enjoy rimming. Giving more. But getting too. Very personal

There are so many nerves around the anus that rimming is an incredible feeling. Sharing the delightful feelings with someone you love is incredible. I gladly return the favor knowing how much pleasure I am giving my wife. I agree with most of what @cj1999 says. It's intimate, taboo, pleasurable, and submissive in the sense you are totally exposing yourself or your partner. And it always leads to other exciting anal delights!!

.... then why not as long as you are prepared to rim yourself.

I would like to see someone flexible enough to rim their own ass!

(Just Kidding - i know what you meant).

I love being rimmed! It's for sure the path to a very special orgasm for me. My husband has been doing this with me a long time. At first my anus is tight butt after a while it relaxes and allows deeper tongue insertion. As he buries his tongue in my bottom I push for more penetration. We do this quite often. My marriage would not be complete without my husband making oral love with my butt hole. That was on my to do list a long time ago. Now it's on my been done list and remains on my to do list at least a couple times a week. I like to elevate my hips with a couple of pillows. Makes the target easier to access. Rim on!

I believe the taboo part of it makes the act more erotic, and being ones absolute most intimate area heightens the experience. For me, it all that above, the visual of that little area, the muskiness, all add to heightened desire and increased sexual drive.

Let’s be honest. Every orifice is disgusting at one time or another. Shit, piss, blood, mucus, saliva, vomit, etc. That’s life. But the anus is the most private, most taboo, most anxiety-inducing.

I’ve rimmed 20 or so women, some with no warning. Nearly all those little soft holes were sparkling clean, by the way (with only a few exceptions). Aside from one woman, all allowed me to do it. Some wanted to discuss it, others would not. But their breathing and moans gave away how they felt about it. It always happened again as I’d gently nudge them over onto their tummies. And they all willingly presented their bare bottoms to again be spread and licked, kissed, penetrated by my mouth and tongue.

Not all would return the favor but quite a few did. It is certainly unlike any other sexual act, physically and mentally.

The one woman who recoiled from me as my tongue touched her anus was livid and accused me of wanting to eat her shit. (I have zero scat interest). We were completely out of sync and soon broke up.

Rimming might make an interesting statistical poll topic here on Zity. Some of the discussions in this post and others elsewhere on Zity are fascinating with respect to the perceived percentages of men who enjoy rimming women versus the number of women who genuinely enjoy rimming men or the number of women who either love it or hate it.

Rimming is definitely a treat for me! I love getting my face super close between my wife's two perfect round cheeks and licking her soft delicious hole away as she uses a wand on her pussy. Love the feel of my face upon her soft bum and I just love her reactions. The way she moans, bucks her ass swallowing my face deeper into her bum. Now I just need to convince her to move away from all fours and for her to sit on my face. ❤️ That will be the day.

It's never been my objective when I go down on my wife but if I'm highly aroused and she if responding well I end up coving more ground so to speak and end up there. It great for both of us but only once we are fully aroused.

Very much enjoy everything anal both giving and receiving, so it’s no wonder I like paying attention to my wife’s asshole when I’m going down on her and for the most part she doesn’t complain! I’d love for her to do it to me, especially when I’m stretched out and loose....

@upthebutt, I like to lay on my belly with a couple of pillows under my hips. That's a nice fully accessible and approachable position. He can do me from the north, south, east and west. I like to be in my exam table also. There he kneels in front of me like I'm being worshiped. In this position he can also put a finger tip in my belly button. That makes me goofy real quick like! We have tried with me sitting on his face but it's a difficult position for him. He will spread my cheeks and give me the works but he has to come up for air. We have done both backwards and forwards how ever it's still awkward for us.

Has anyone tried a "Queening Chair"?

@upthebutt, I like to lay on my belly with a couple of pillows under my hips. That's a nice fully accessible and approachable position. He can do me from the north, south, east and west.

That is exactly like my wife and I did it. Fond memories!!!

I believe its the naughty nature and definitely the lust factor you feel for your partner. For me its a way of expressing I love and want you and there are no boundaries in my sexual attraction to you In my psyche I am giving you my all and hope the feelings you get arouse you to new limits.

I think rimming your partner is a gift. I've rimmed a few women who were wild over it and enjoyed it saying "nobody has ever done that before" as i licked and probed their dark star. I have not had the opportunity to do the same for a male partner. However, I think(for me) it would be the ultimate in submission and servitude.

I see female partners as equals as lovers. I see male partners as dominants, to be served and serviced and I think this is why I see rimming a male partner as a submissive act of service. I don't expect and have never received this act from any partner. And I don't care if i do. I enjoy the pleasurable response from female partners. I believe in the submission with the male partner.

My husband and I occasionally do this with each other, but to tell you the truth, I prefer well lubricated fingers or using toys because they can be inserted. I think the texture of the tongue is very stimulating, but the textures and shapes of toys have a wider range, and again because these different shapes and textures can be inserted.

Over the past 6 months this is all my wife wants - getting her asshole licked. She is going through menopause and her sex drive is not what it used to be but she really enjoys this. This is always done after I give her a bath and wash her really well down there. There have been times when I licked her for 30 minutes before she tells me to stop. Licking her asshole turns me on like nothing else. It's just a real slutty, submissive thing to do. I hope she gets her sex drive back and I can lick her pussy again but I would be satisfied if all I get to do is lick her asshole. My panty gets wet thinking about it.

I can see how others would find this weird and gross. I would not do it before I give her a bath. This is not something I thought my wife would like. I went for it a couple years ago and was surprised she enjoyed it so much.

We have been taught (non-verbally) to be ashamed of our own assholes. And if we should be caught between washings, we tremble at the thought of "it" being "discovered". Although it is a shame we feel that way, it does provide us with a wonderful "language" for intimacy.

If we desire to increase our level of intimacy with someone by licking their asshole, we are asking them to really trust us - not to express disgust - to accept their imperfections, and to make it your little secret. That is one hell of a lot of trust!

Add to that; the part of their body they are least proud of, is the part we are using our mouth on. And we save our mouth for only the best of things. So their asshole is obviously pure and good - not at all shameful. Now they can be proud of it. ;-)

And yet there are a lot of people that cannot resist the chance to establish that kind of relationship with someone; anyone, even complete strangers.

The anonymity of a stranger is reassuring to many people, as long as the proposition and act remain secret. But for someone you know and share friends with, to trust you so completely with their self respect and public reputation, is the greatest compliment and "stamp of approval" I can imagine.

Why does psychology have anything to do with the physical pleasure one gets when receiving analingus, or the enjoyment one gets pleasuring their partner?

Did you really ask that?

What does a 9-volt battery and an asshole have in common? At some point you got to stick your tongue to it

For me it's by person by person it's if I like the smell of the person I can rim them if I don't like their smell I can't.

That's the most extreme part of it so I can't even come close with somebody that I don't really care for

On the other hand if I love the smell of somebody it's not a problem at all.