How to know if you are truly bisexual

@Bad_Princess said

. . . . I refuse to be called an animal and lumped in with stupid deer. . . .

But you are, and so is every other human.

But you are, and so is every other human.

I believe you are confusing the term mammal with animal.

Humans are Mammals of course by physical attributes we are not reptiles or insects.

I will agree to this .

The term animal is used differently and covers all sorts of things it is a tricky thing. Often it is a negative thing to be called an animal.

If you want to call yourself an animal go a head.

I will be sticking with mammal. It is a clear definition.

As for the stupid deer. It is also a mammal.

but not as refined as I am so I will call it an animal.

It will not receive an invitation to tea.

You would. If you stuff whole cakes in your mouth and try to talk then your behavior

is that of an animal and that is the last time you will be invited.

This is how I interpret the two terms.

I put the dictionary definitions here for reference.

mam·mal

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noun

noun: mammal; plural noun: mammals

a warm-blooded vertebrate animal of a class that is distinguished by the possession of hair or fur, the secretion of milk by females for the nourishment of the young, and (typically) the birth of live young.

an·i·mal

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noun

noun: animal; plural noun: animals

a living organism that feeds on organic matter, typically having specialized sense organs and nervous system and able to respond rapidly to stimuli.

"wild animals adapt badly to a caged life"

an animal as opposed to a human being.

"are humans superior to animals, or just different?"

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creature

beast

living thing

being

brute

critter

wildlife

fauna

a mammal, as opposed to a bird, reptile, fish, or insect.

"the snowfall seemed to have chased all birds, animals, and men indoors"

a person without human attributes or civilizing influences, especially someone who is very cruel, violent, or repulsive.

"those men have to be animals—what they did to that boy was savage"

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beast

monster

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barbarian

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swine

bastard

pig

a particular type of person or thing.

"I am a political animal"

adjective

adjective: animal

relating to or characteristic of animals.

"a wide range of animal species"

of animals as distinct from plants.

"tissues of animal and vegetable protein"

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zoological

animalistic

zoic

theriomorphic

characteristic of the physical and instinctive needs of animals; of the flesh rather than the spirit or intellect.

"a crude surrender to animal lust"

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carnal

fleshly

bodily

physical

sensual

instinctive

instinctual

brutish

unrefined

uncultured

coarse

gross

inhuman

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appetitive

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spiritual

Origin

Middle English: the noun from Latin animal, based on Latin animalis ‘having breath’ from anima ‘breath’; the adjective via Old French from Latin animalis .

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I believe you are confusing the term mammal with animal.

But mammals ARE animals though @Bad_Princess, and humans are mammals so they are animals too.

But mammals ARE animals though @Bad_Princess, and humans are mammals so they are animals too.

By terms of biology scientifically mammal and animal are interchangeable the words relay mean the same thing. Their origins in language are different.

I am not ignorant . I know this fact well.

Humans use the term animal to separate themselves from the beasts of the forest.

Possibly it is a bit high hatted of humanity to do this. But would you want to have relations with a human that lived like a bear or ground hog?

Would you be shocked if a ground hog went past on a scooter and said "good morning"; or a bear wearing a business suit walked into a restaurant and ordered smoked salmon ?

It is a mater of the use of language. It is not one of Science that I am presenting.

Kingdom: Animalia, Phylum: Chordata, Class: Mammalia, Order: Primates, Family: Hominidae, Genus: Homo, Species: Sapiens.

And that taxonomy has a LONG history behind it.

I've seen behavior in humans (and I'm sure that nurses have seen even more!) that makes that deer look like a genius.

Humans use the term animal to separate themselves from the beasts of the forest.

Possibly it is a bit high hatted of humanity to do this.

Yes it is but humans are just animals who are a bit better at making things and they can talk.

@Bad_Princess said

I believe you are confusing the term mammal with animal.

NO I am not.

Humans are animals.

What do you think we are, plants?

@Bad_Princess said

. . . .Humans use the term animal to separate themselves from the beasts of the forest. . .

NO NO NO.

Not at all. We ARE animals in the truest sense and it has nothing to do with liking or not liking what we are.

Humans are part of the animal kingdom.

I've seen behavior in humans (and I'm sure that nurses have seen even more!) that makes that deer look like a genius.

I watched a man try to light a cigarette like the cool dude on TV with a cutting torch burn most of his face off. He died.

Darwin I believe called it natural selection.

That is why all the deer that see you coming towards them run a way. They are the smart ones descendants. You don't see the ones that just stand there.

Humans are just animals who are a bit better at making things and they can talk.

Yes I accept this logic. I would be a fool to argue with it.

Think of it in terms of packaging, say pallet, case and box. We're in the same pallet as other animals such as fish and horses, say the same case as the horse (mammal, different case from the fish), but we are in our own box with our own characteristics there.

Yeah, I know, not strictly accurate, but a better visualization.

Think of it in terms of packaging, say pallet, case and box. We're in the same pallet as other animals such as fish and horses, say the same case as the horse (mammal, different case from the fish), but we are in our own box with our own characteristics there.

Yeah, I know, not strictly accurate, but a better visualization.

Maybe an enclosed Venn diagram would have been better.,.... 😄

One big "Animal Circle" with a bunch of independent - and some intesectingcircles in side the larger Animal Circle.

Maybe an enclosed Venn diagram would have been better.,.... 😄

One big "Animal Circle" with a bunch of independent - and some intesectingcircles in side the larger Animal Circle.

Again that's an abstraction. Perhaps a department store or grocery store? Library could work too. Just trying to think of something physical that embodies taxonomy.

@gwhap : Maybe an enclosed Venn diagram would have been better.,.... 😄

I forgot what they are - would be an interesting use, I like it.

Humans are a species in the order of primate in the class of mammals in the phylum of chordate in the kindom of animals. So humans are primates, mammals, chordates AND animals. All at the same time.

In puberty my brother my brother butt fucked me, I was too young to get enjoyment from my prostate BUT loved the feeling of his cum in me and leaking out! Late teens I was BI curious, & did some cruising, picked up a few guys, nothing happened.

After a few years of marriage, I got my friend drunk and tried to suck him hard & make him cum. Too drunk to get hard AND did not want me to continue 😢 !

At 70 + I have not been hard enough for intercourse with my wife, for 20 years.

IF I were to open my eyes to find a hard cock an inch from my mouth, I would VERY soon and be very proud to be called "Cock Sucker"!

How does one NOT know!? Also, one doesn't have to think that once a bisexual (or anything) always a bisexual - if you like doing it, then do it; if you don't, then don't do it.

I don't know if bisexual, but fantasize about being 'forced' to have sex with other females, in front of an audience, with my legs splayed open so everyone can see if I get wet from the experience. Then having an embarrassing question and answer session while still naked and on display. That way I can't hide my true feelings. And the answer will be out in the open!! Anyone want to help me?

If you enjoy the sex and pleasuring from both a vagina and penis I would say you are bisexual undoubtedly. I felt and experienced these in my early youth. At first I felt a bit confused but later learned to accept my leanings and desires.

My first actual sexual contact happened with a male cousin which is often experienced or it can be a close friend of same gender.I even then already had desire and sexual feelings for my opposite gender in such practices as fantasies and self pleasuring masturbation.

As I stated above overall it comes down to self acceptance in what you enjoy and feel comfortable with within yourself. Fretter

I don't know if bisexual, but fantasize about being 'forced' to have sex with other females, in front of an audience, with my legs splayed open so everyone can see if I get wet from the experience. ...

Having thoughts of same-sex activity versus doing it are two different things IMO..

To me, it isn't important. I like love male genitals, and I love female genitals. Being labeled, will not hinder me from enjoying who I am looking at! However, being 88 years old does limit female availability, but male genitals are wonderful! Have fun and enjoy who you're with.

I am mostly attracted to women, but have enjoyed having sex with both women and other guys. When I watch porn, I enjoy watching women much more then men. For me, sex with guys is much more about the raw sex & pleasure, and there is almost never an emotional component.

That being said, there is a guy with whom I have had sex with for many years, and I find that I am having emotional feelings now for him. We can share ANYTHING about our secret desires, fetishes, and fantasies. I have been married twice to women. The 1st time for 36 years, and now a 2nd time for almost 3 years. I have never found that kind of openness in a relationship with any woman in all my years! I am so grateful to have him in my life!

Idk. If i simplify the question, i'd say it comes down to whether one is sexually attracted to both genders? Does one have to actually have sex with both to qualify? idk. Not to my way of thinking, to me that just makes it a matter of degrees. If we are all on a spectrum sexually (which is how i see it), maybe one who has sex with both genders is further on that spectrum than one who only fantasizes about it?

my stories all over Zity, was married to a woman 31 years, even though i knew i am attracted to guys. For me, the hetero part was mostly religious conditioning against 'same sex attraction.'

i processed out of the religious conditioning and divorced. Once i divorced, i thought i might be bisexual. i had an active sex life with my former wife, so i wasn't sure. i dated both women and men. i dated a woman who was a visiting professor of women's studies from another country (being vague on purpose, i don't want to out her). She explained she was lesbian and had recently been wanting to be with a man. She was attractive to me, she was smart, engaging, and also wanted to have sex... and i didn't. i could have, but i didn't want or need it. That helped me realize that, once i was free of my conditioning against my attraction to Men, i didn't want that kind of relationship with a woman.

After that, i dated a FtM trans person. i really liked them, and they me. They wanted me to be part of a poly relationship (the other was a woman). The FtM person had not transitioned physically, so they had breasts and a vagina. As a total bottom, turns out i need/want a Top Who needs/wants penetrate and breed. lol, so this stuff can be very individual. i wanted to stay in relationship with this person, even though it would be platonic, they did not want that.

As time has gone by, i find my sexuality it inextricably connected to my psychology. I.e., i'm not just physically attracted to a Man, i am also psychologically attracted.

i read a response on Zity recently where a guy was relating how far superior he considered a dildo to an actual cock. To me, that shows how some are really just wanting/needing the physical part of what may be deemed "bisexual." For me, it's the whole package. i need/want a Man Who not only wants to penetrate, fuck and inseminate me physically, but also psychologically... totally.

All that to say, i think there are degrees of sexuality on the spectrum. Some are more 'totally' heterosexual, some are in the infinite bisexual middle, some, like me, are more on the gay side.

One way to know is if you're addicted to sucking cock AND still enjoy looking at nude women, and enjoy having sex with them as well.

I think that's a surefire indication.

I have known since Jr. High School - when I was in 8th grade. A group of boys started to explore our bodies. As we developed we did more and more together - every Saturday night was naked night at Kevin's. At first we explored each others outside and inside. As we grew we were able to get hard and started sucking and penetrating each other. Girls were hard to be with before we had car so boy-boy sex was fine.

I always enjoyed being the girl, and the other guys were happy to have me! As time went on and we became mobile, we all (almost) started dating girls. But when a girl left a guy with blue balls, I was always happy to help. I loved dating and eventually fucking girls but never felt that boy-boy was wrong - just different.

Boys, and later men, were sexual objects. I love girls romantically, but just love the physical side of men. I still do!

When I was 18 I met a middle aged man who took me under his wing to explore man to man sex. He was a pawn dealer. When I found some speculums and wanted to buy them he invited me to his home to learn how to use them. He was wonderful and gentle. We played often, and I took dates with many girls to a new leve. Fortunately this was before aids so normal practices to avoid STD was all that was necessary. In 60 years of activity I have never had a STD.

I got married in College and joined the Navy. When home, I was a loving husband, when deployed I was a slut! I think my wife suspected but never said anything. She indulged my love of anal with enemas, and even fisting, and lots of sex!

After she died, I decided to pursue my feminine feeling and started on Estrogen. That developed growing breasts, and shrinking cock and balls. I have a girl friend who is very happy to have me make love to her - she loves my tongue and hands! She went with me to buy pink panties I sometime wear when I am making love to her. She knows I like to have men use me and likes me to tell her my adventures in gay sex clubs.

So I have known I am at least bi-sexual for many years. If I had been able to take estrogen as a young boy I may have tried to live as a girl. I started so late it would be impossible, and I am very happy with myself and life. I don't have any guilt but use discretion - my family have no idea. I pass off my real breasts as "man boobs" even though I am slim. I do love my breasts! I have never had a romantic relationship with a man, but many with women. Love Life!

Response #3 pretty much sums it up for me. Although it's stated a little crudely.

Simply said, I like men and women (preferring women lately though) and I don't see that changing.

@miami17, your response is so very honest and specific. As a young boy we were often naked together, without any shame. It was natural to be naked with each other. I did not experience sexual ness, as you did, with other boys. Our sexual drive were with girls. But this has evolved. Perhaps in my late 40's the thought of men first began to develop. Now, I am very much like you (it seems). I am widowed, but if I was to experience romance it would be with a women. But sex with men is just plain fun.

Labeling for the sake of labeling and perhaps feeling shame. Does it really matter if you are truly bisexual, straight or other sexual orientation? Once you enjoy play, don't hurt yourself and others in the process, that is all what matters. So play and have fun 👍

I just happened across this thread and pondered whether my affinity for enema and anal play tilted the scale toward being bisexual. I have always considered myself "straight" but have this fetish and paraphilia relative to those good old fashioned enemas and the vintage equipment that delivers those amazing sensations.

That being said, I haven't been adverse to sharing in role play scenarios with both men and women. The enemas, rectal temps, prostate massage, vaginal stimulation, and other playful or medfet activities certainly enhance an indulgence in some adult playtime. The emotional attractions to either gender are not the ultimate desire or outcome. Simply stated, enemas and anal stimulation are desired for the ultimate outcum.

I enjoy those typical LTR's for security and peace of mind, but find that certain interactions sure can elevate those involuntary reactions! BTW, I see that many original posters are no longer amongst us here at Zity.

I knew that I was not straight. I thought I was gay, and acted with men on that assumption. However, one day I was watching a movie that had nude women in it. I became as excited sexually, wanting to have sex with the women, as I did with a man. In that moment, I realized I was significantly sexually excited by men and women equally, and I was a bi-sexual male. I have the best of both kinds of desires, and I love it!

I have been sexually attracted to both boys and girls from my teens.

Tried to do the 'normal' thing and got married to a man who i truely loved

but then fell also in love with my bff.

In my experience, I've never been with another man, either sexually or romantically, but should I ever be single again I would 100% do it if there was another man that I clicked with. I'm attracted to men and women, and would willingly have sex with either.