So you're anticipating being tied up or some kind of bondage play with someone you don't know very well, and you have that number to call "just in case" or to give the heads up whether okay or not okay. And in many cases you even let your dom know up front you're going to make this call, or receiving a call, checking up on you.My question is: How much have you let that friend or family member know about what you're up to? How much detail are they aware of, in terms of what might be potentially involved ?My follow up question which i might start another topic on, after getting that call out of the way, did any unexpected surprises come after? Like as soon as you hung up, did unexpected people show up and things then went sour ? Like you made you phone call, you'e cool....you think...you proceed to get tied up. Then there's a "knock" on the door, and one or more folks suddenly come & "join the party."