I'm completely new to this. I've been spanked, paddled, and flogged, and keep coming back for more, but still, only have a vague concept of the lifestyle.My question is more about a fetish within a fetish. I love the clothes and accessories. Particularly women, dressed for play. I want to wear some of it on the street, sort of announcing my hobbies.Before anybody asks isn't that a little risque- I wear my foxtail buttplug in public under a skirt, it hangs out about 6", I have an Astroglide t-shirt, a 'Dyke...deal with it' t-shirt, I just ordered a 'I'm with her, and she spanks me' t-shirt. I'm hard to embarrass.I've asked on the huge fetish site if I can wear a collar, and not be owned by someone. More of a fashion statement than a symbol. Unfortunately, a site that huge just offers conflicting advice. Answers I've recieved- No, it's an insult to the lifestyle, I'd just be seen as a fraud, Nobody will talk to me, assuming I'm owned, or a few Go for it, it's just a collar.Of course, I could take it off for events, and play parties.What say you?