Fantasy - ideal sexual initiation

Many societies have ceremonies to mark the "rite of passage" from childhood to adulthood. Implicit is that as an adult the individual will have sex, get married, or whatever. Some of these ceremonies are religious, and often have evolved so there is no direct hint of sexuality left.

But what would be your fantasy of the ideal sexual rite of passage? Should it be private or public? Should the participant decide when he/she was ready or should it be decided for her or him?

And having described your ideal fantasy rite, how do you think you would have responded had this been your experience?

Back in the early 1970s, when I was still in university, students and profs would often get into all kinds of very lofty and unrealistic debates about social issues. They were also often very innocent at times.

I remember one of the proposals going around at the time, mainly coming from up north, from the fabled, ever so tolerant and to be admired progressive Netherlands, that teenagers should be given tokens for admission to a brothel as a way of experiencing first sex. I can't remember what the solution was supposed to be for females - I suppose there was some sort of (sexist) variation on the idea that pussy rules, that girls never lacked for sexual opportunities or something like that.

Anyway, it was one of a plethora of often silly and ridiculously unrealistic ideas that were bandied about in those days when we and society in general were still experimenting with out of the box ideas about how society should be ideally organized. Fun times in retrosect but often cringe-worthy as well when thinking back ... ha ha

We need to expose our young mg people to sex during their teens without fear of harm, repercussions, or shame. It should be open but private. They should have a way to be taught by experienced lovers and allowed to experiment.

I had to look up 'mg' in the Urban Dictionary (online), Katler. Wow, it seems to mean a super-stud, 'loved by women, adored by children, envied by men' (there's more - worth visiting!). Is that what you meant?

Anyway, I was reminded of what a highly intelligent and good-looking mother once told me about her two pubescent sons. As soon as she thought they were ready, she sent them to a friend of hers, a professional and very high-class prostitute, for their sexual initiation. Later, both boys got near top marks for the state in their final year at school (a leading Melbourne high school). One went on to be a successful lawyer, and although I'm not sure about the other's career-path it was also successful.

I offer that for what it's worth, but I believe it to be the truth.

I feel they should be taught exactly how to make the other person respond. There is a series on line that shows what is purportedly a real life training class being done in the UK. It is coed and a woman is the teacher. She has several real life male models who stand in front of the class naked so she can show and describe cut, uncut, different sizes and shapes. She then has several female models so she can do the same with them. Then another female on TV who is used to demonstrate exactly what is inside her vulva. I don't think that's enough though based on what I knew about how to make a pussy purr or even how to penetrate properly I'm surprised we survived the first year. I suppose it's because she was as ignorant as I was. At my age now I can reflect on how wonderful it would have been to have known how to give her the best feelings in the world and to have her know how to do the same for me. At some point they should have the chance to practice on each other or models or at least watch it being done and be able to ask questions. Sending a guy somewhere to jerk off inside a whore doesn't cut it nor having a girl get deflowered by a stud either. I think some real instruction would be just the thing. It still takes practice to get good at it but you need to know what to do before you can practice anything. For those of you who are older wouldn't it have been wonderful to know how to produce the pleasure you can now back when you were 18? That can be taught.