I Dislike Enemas

How have you helped to educate people on the merits of enemas that have stated "I dislike them because of childhood experiences"?

Not sure if there is any way you can actually convince someone to like enemas if they're not interested. My wife falls into this category. Although I don't believe she has ever had an enema, she just thinks they're nasty and uncomfortable. Likewise, she gets nothing out of me touching her anus. In fact, she doesn't like me to. Hence she is not an individual who can be erotically stimulated through anal penetration or touching. For her, the whole enema scene is simply not part of what turns her on.

I'm convinced that you have to be willing to let yourself like them. If not you can be skilled in giving them and while they won't be awful and will do what you need there won't be a sexual zing (or it will be very rare). I'm currently in process of working to let myself like them.

For some, I think enemas are an acquired taste. As @moliere said in the previous post, it's a matter of letting yourself like them. My anal erotic tendencies go back a long way and the use of enemas was simply a means to an end. As time passed I discovered that enemas were more than a way to satisfy my anal craving but generated other sensations that were pleasurable...thus they became a multi-faceted activity. And the health benefits, while not quantifiable, have been an added plus (no colds or flu for about six years).

Hubby came along as one who once thought enemas were gross and awful. But I introduced him to them in a gentle way and over time he has come to appreciate what an enema can do therapeutically and what it can do from an erotic standpoint. But this metamorphosis took years and is only now beginning to bloom into something that we can share and enjoy as a part of our intimate activities.

Many negative impressions of enemas were forged by those givers who used poor techniques, less than gentle solutions and ham-fisted attitudes. Plus, the idea of being exposed to "poop" is so ingrained as something negative in our culture that it's hard to bridge the gap to an acceptance of enemas as a preferred method of treatment.

So enjoy your enemas...and play safe!

Deb

In the case that a person will be really constipated this one will be forced to do something: to insert a suppository, to take a laxative or to take an enema. - Why not?

I think the first advice goes to the experienced partner: Be patient and be prepared to go SLOWLY. Although my wife never said she disliked enemas, I still went slowly to introduce her to them. Enemas are definitely an acquired taste and take some (or a lot of) getting used to. On top of that, I think it is much easier to get your girlfriend/boyfriend to agree to give rather than receive first. Be sure to emphasize that a sensual enema is much different than an enema given because of constipation. I.E. can stop (abort) anytime the enema starts becoming uncomfortable. Also bag enema much different than fleet. I think it is totally possible for someone that disliked enemas as a child to become an enemate, but definitely not overnight. For that to happen, it will take a caring and very patient partner.

My girlfriend seems to hate any form of liquid entering her bum.. I guess it's something that I will have to accept but it really is a shame..

If the person you are trying to introduce enemas to, carries a lot of psychological baggage and negativity regarding enemas whether through past experience or what they've heard, then you will have a real uphill battle.

If the person is relatively neutral to the idea or really hasn't given it much thought, then they are more of a blank slate and you can provide information to that person in a way that will make it something they may want to try.

If the person is very open minded and likes to try new things, then they might be most likely to give it a try. And if the person enjoys anal play or anal sex then they may be the easiest person to introduce to enemas.

So it really comes down to a whole host of preconditions as to how successful you might be in introducing someone to enemas.

As Deb said, enemas are an acquired taste. Some people just don't like anal play, and an enema "for the fun of it" can seem pretty extreme to some people. Some can get over it with gentle and frequent persuasion but others will never accept that an enema is anything other than an embarrassing, messy, and uncomfortable intrusion in a very private part of their body.

One of the risk that I think we need to avoid is to put too much pressure on our significan other.

My experience is that my partner tried to make me happy and we played suppositories and enemas for a while, but more and more it became apparent to me that he was doing that more to make me happy than for his own pleasure and I find that that is wrong. This rectal play can be wonderful but it needs to be done between two people who both love it and not just one person with the other seeing it as a sacrifice.

If that is the case for me it is not worth.