Spontaneous vs. planned out

Which one is more enjoyable, spontaneous fun or planning out a set time for a little fun ? No right or wrong answers here, just let's hear some different opinions. I personally enjoy a combination of both

In this sub-forum--"sex is fun," where the point is to have wild sex, we just play it by ear, fuck like farm animals and let the activities play out however it does.

In an S&M scene (which may be more of what you're thinking of) sometimes we have an idea of what we want to do and then follow a basic theme. Other times we are conpletely ad-libbing it and on other occasions we have a well scripted plan. A few of those scenes come to mind. High on our list is our "mental hospital scene" where the submissive is incarcerated for manslaughter of a child, relative or friend; and another we enjoy, (possibly my husband's favorite) is the "full metal jacket scene" both of which I have posted here in the past.

I do both planned things and spontaneous things with my husband. A lot of the time we both just feel like having sex right then and we go and do it. But some times we get things planned too.

Some times we have a bath planned together so sex is always really the point of it. About twice a month I like my husband to give me a play exam too and I really look forward to getting a message about the appointment. 😃

Sometimes me and my partner plan it out, but after a while we tend to stray from the plan. Other times, we don't tell each other our plans, because surprises can be wonderful. More often then not, we plan it all.

Although, Pure spontaneous sex can also be nice too. Especially if we are angry with each other or if something pissed us off throughout our day.

Well this is an interesting topic. Because of the logistics between Doc and myself I can say that I drive the 600 miles or so with the intent of fucking his brains out every blessed chance I get. But with that being said...............

Sometimes we plan and sometimes we don't. For example, almost every single night when I am up at his house I plan and expect great sex before we both go to bed, and so far that has been the way we roll, lol.

On the other hand there are many times we are out and about that we end up in a space that I was not expecting, say a corn field for example, where we have spontaneous sex. Still one of my favorite memories just sayin.

For me though both, any and all types of sex with Doc are as good as it gets. I'm not sure I could even handle anything else, lol.

Mashie

When our daughter was a home, we had to plan things out as she was always coming and going. But even the plans go wrong as she came home early one night and caught us getting frisky in the family room.

With the house now empty, nothing is planned anymore. Fun to sneak in a quickie on the kitchen countertop without worrying about the door opening. ?

. . . .With the house now empty, nothing is planned anymore. Fun to sneak in a quickie on the kitchen countertop without worrying about the door opening. ?

I have always wondered how couples can do it on the kitchen counter. Our kitchen and bathroom counters are 36" high and it seems the man would have to be very tall for his pelvis to be that high.... Now the kitchen table at 30 inches (if sturdy enough, and ours is) would be the right height! We have also done it on our pool table and are careful to keep the secretions off the felt. The kitchen table we can easily clean!

Susie, to answer your question. Our countertops are 35 tall and my husband is 6'4". So as a result Tab A lines up with Slot B just perfect.

Twice a month our kids are out of the house for two hours so I try to plan something a bit more out of the norm for our sexcapades ( louder, more naked, more involved). Then no one can hear us and we don't worry about being heard.

Most of our sex is not planned out. It just naturally evolves into intimate time between me and my sub. A hand here, a pinch there goes along way to starting something. Sometimes it happens at night, sometimes in the morning, and sometimes it is in the afternoon( ahh, the joys of afternoon delight). We just try to get our sex in when we can.

I do not know about anybody else here but I married my best buddy and friend ,

Isn't life wonderful??

Unfortunately since we have kids we cannot be as spontaneous as we could be - there is almost no way with them awake in the house that we can convince them to leave mom and dad alone.

We tend to have a schedule like - putting kids to bed in the evening, then sex. But this is difficult because sometimes they are a handful, we are tired, etc. Sex in the morning tended to be interrupted by kids (kids tend to believe that if they wake up then so parents should be, it seems).

Anal needs more forethought - for hygienic reasons we tend to do an enema before.

@MissStress, okay so when you have sex in the afternoon it's "afternoon delight". Does that mean when you have sex at night you get "sky rockets at night"? LOL Just wondering.

Mashie

Pecan Nutjob said

Unfortunately since we have kids we cannot be as spontaneous as we could be - there is almost no way with them awake in the house that we can convince them to leave mom and dad alone. . . . .

You can definitely "convince" them to leave you alone. When our girls were younger, we simply told them to stay away from our room (and all the bedrooms in the house have locks on the doors) during certain hours because we wanted to be alone. Considering what I have posted in years past about family sex discussions, they knew we had an active sex life and many kinks. They knew we were fucking when the door was closed.

I don't think children like to think much about their parents having sex. In my case, if the door was closed they were not to be disturbed. If it was an emergency, then I could knock. But mostly when we were pre-teens, they probably just waited until after we were all in bed. As we got older, the closed door was probably more of an option, but I don't really remember if they used it.

My own experience is that partners vary in their desire for spontaneity. Some have been much more willing to have sex on the spur of the moment than others.

I don't think children like to think much about their parents having sex. . . . . .

I think you're being naive. Kids are curious about their parents and sex. I was curious and our grown daughters were when they were kids.

When I was about 14 and later teen years, I definitely hid behind my parents' bedroom door listening to them especially after my older brother left for college and there wasn't anyone at home to snitch on me. I wouldn't be surprised if our daughters did that with us. They certainly knew we were kinky and into pretty severe S&M. I have posted before that I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall watching my parents because they were fairly vocal-not really loud, but you could hear them, and from conversations with my mother, she enjoyed it, and now in their mid-seventies and very fit, they still do--horny bastards! I hope we are that bad when we are 70+.

As we have aged, my business is high stress and extremely busy, spontaneous sex doesn't happen often. Even though we may orgasm everyday, we do plan on two days, Saturdays and Wednesdays to have sessions (bdsm), because 'regular' sex holds no interest for me.

But occasionally when we are faced with some free time, we will get each other off.

I do not know about anybody else here but I married my best buddy and friend ,

Tillie, I did too. I got very lucky to find him and not push him away.

@MissStress, okay so when you have sex in the afternoon it's "afternoon delight". Does that mean when you have sex at night you get "sky rockets at night"?

Most sex in the afternoon is a wonderful delight. I tend to get hornier in the afternoon. It's not always the best time to be horny. 😢 I'd never thought about sex at night with "sky rockets at night". Could be a good way to look at it though.

Unfortunately since we have kids we cannot be as spontaneous as we could be - there is almost no way with them awake in the house that we can convince them to leave mom and dad alone.

Pecan nutjob we fixed this "problem" by getting a small TV and a VHS machine (now you'd want a CD or blueray player). Then we could put in a nice hour and half long kids cartoon/video and have an hour to enjoy some parental sex time. Also giving them a snack to enjoy and telling them to not bother could be helpful too. No knocking on the closed door unless it is an emergency (explain what makes for an emergency - not just them fighting about something).

I do not know about anybody else here but I married my best buddy and friend ,

Isn't life wonderful??

Yeah @Tillie so did I. I have got close friends I grew up with and we are still really close but my husband is my best friend. He makes me very happy. 😃

We do not do it on the kitchen counter top though. My husband is 6'4" too and I bet his tab A would fit into my slot B if we used the counter top but we just prefer going to bed or for a shower or a bath.