It's certainly not one of the better known kinks, but it is my my personal favourite - within limits. Ultimate Surrender is a bit too hard core for me. I've only ever seen lesbian bouts and they do not float my boat. Girl/girl wrestling needs to be way more sexual than competitive. For that matter competitive f/m wrestling also leaves me cold. I need it to be F/m playful, sexy femdomme.
Heterosexual erotic wrestling - me getting getting thrown about and brought to submission with cunning and physically intimate grappling holds by a petite lady judoka dressed in very feminine lingerie is the hottest scene I can imagine.
There seems to be an endless supply of femdom wrestling erotica, much of it tame enough for YouTube. Suggest a search for Taynara Melo and Veronica Macedo. There's a ton of explicitly sexual content on just about every porn video site. Innumerable on clips4sale.com.
Yes, I have wrestled with women, always playfully and sometimes sexually. In general a dedicated session wrestler will give you a breathtaking display of grappling skill but usually only fair to middling on the sexy scale. Some professional dominatrixes will also offer wrestling sessions. Skills a bit below the dedicated wrestlers but more conscious of the erotic side. They'll dress to suit your fantasy and even if their sites state firmly 'no sexual services' apparently pegging doesn't count and they encourage you to give yourself a hand. Some will lend a hand to repeat clients!
My best was a Chinese domme in Vancouver. She understood the dynamic perfectly, skilled in BJJ, and knew exactly how to make me love being pretzeled around her body. She was not as petite as I would have liked, but that meant she could do great shoulder throws and even include a bit of lift & carry.