Thinking on this I can only conclude I used to be an utter dunce, especially when in university.
When my father was home from sailing the ocean blue, it was hard adjusting to shore I suppose and my parents fought often. Then I would make an excuse that I needed to write a paper or do research, naturally at another library in another city, say Louvain, Brussels, Amsterdam even. Sometimes I'd even go there too as I knew fellow students in all of them. What I would really do though, instead of working or studying, is crash the nights at fellow student's places, preferably with a female student.
The funny thing is, I was never told to take a hike and always invited in for the night. And not on a couch either, but often on a mattress pulled up next to theirs, sometimes the same bed even. But I usually conducted myself as a 'gentleman' - or a wimp, take your pick - and nothing came of those nights except conversations and such. And real sleep. Sometimes I was expressly told in a comradely manner that nothing was on the table, in case I was wondering. That didn't bother me really, as I was usually too pissed off about home anyway or thinking about my steady girlfriend, to get up to anything else.
But now, oh vey, thinking back, what opportunities slipped through my fingers. Anyone know of a nearby brick-wall I can go bang my head against? ... 😃