My husband wants to try pegging

I am so excited! My husband wants to try pegging. Any pointers for first timers? Let me clarify - first timers with pegging - not anal play. 😉

Plain and simple:

Clean out with enemas, lots of lube, start with smaller objects, build in size, push in slowly.

This isn't rocket science.

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Having him clean is one of the best things. Nothing spoils my mood more than to have a poopy mess while pegging my sub's manly pussy.

Going slow. Whether it be insertion or going to a larger size. Take your time. Rushing can be painful (which after some time can be enjoyable too) but you want the first few times to be mostly pleasant and enjoyable.

Plenty of lube. My sub bought some J-lube so we can make some up and squirt it into his manly pussy for extra lube when he gets pegged. Haven't done the J-lube yet since it will stick around for some time, I figure. But you don't want dry pussy when you get fucked, you don't want a dry ass when it gets pegged.

Talk to each other during the process. Then you will know what feels good to him and he can hear how things are going for you.

Enjoy doing it together. May it go well too.

I've done some thinking/reading for when (be an optimist, right?) it happens to me (I'll be the guy side).

As the woman several sources suggest wearing your harness some beforehand and even "jacking off" a bit to get the feel for how it works and what muscle movements you'll need.

Definitely have him clean out. Most sources I saw talk about how it isn't necessary, but there's no way I want anything other than dildo to make an appearance on the out stroke.

"Dry run" with some positions. You want something that you're both comfortable in and where whoever is "in charge" of the penetration has plenty of control. You also want something that's hot to you both. This can (and probably should) be with clothes on so you're focused on how things fit together rather than other things.

Plenty of warm up for you both. Of course graduated anal play for him. She gets an orgasm or two first, he gets worked up but no orgasm. No penis play during initial penetration or the first part of pegging because many men tighten up their pelvic floor and sphincter when stimulated.

Don't have a endpoint in your mind. Go as long as you both feel like it doing what you feel like, then move on to something else.

Use lots of lube (KY Jelly or Surgilube) on your strap on and also on his anus. Massage his anus thoroughly and make sure he's relaxed. Upon your first attempt, go very slowly until he's able to accept the strap on readily but even then, make sure you keep being gentle. That's a part of any human being that can easily be injured

An enema is not a thorought cleansing, in your case it is a rinsing, water have not to fill all his bowels, water have to rince his rectum. Using a bulb number " 8 " two or three times, and expelling after each bulb injection.

I repeat often the fingers rules, after lubing, while you give him oral sex, tease - massage him with your index, massaging the anal muscle, playing to slide a few in moving gently and like escaping, while you feel his anuss relaxed use your thumb, same exercises, and finally two fingers.

I wish you success for your first attempt, if not it is much more better to stop at the point / level your reached, and to try it again later, at the next opportunity. If it is going wrong, skewed,you have to laugh about your little problems, this will let you both a smiling souvenir, and will lead you to a next exercise in a positive way.

The anal muscle have to be exercised, and holded open in a comfortable opening to the receiver, before to use a dildo or what your both fantasies have choice.

Plenty of good advice already given - Lubricate and re-lubricate, go slow, etc.

But on another note, don't be afraid to take command. Be a little bossy. It's kind of a buzz kill (at least for me) when my wife asks too many questions. I prefer it when she tells me what position to take. If you're doing something that's uncomfortable, he'll let you know - otherwise just do what feels right to you. Once you know he's getting into it, don't forget to use your hands. Squeeze his ass, pull him into you. You'll know which things trigger him.

But on another note, don't be afraid to take command. Be a little bossy. It's kind of a buzz kill (at least for me) when my wife asks too many questions. I prefer it when she tells me what position to take. If you're doing something that's uncomfortable, he'll let you know - otherwise just do what feels right to you.

Might I suggest a dry run or two along with an in-depth on-topic talk? If you find out from each other what you think you want to do and do some practice then the "big event" can have the minimum of interruptions.

New fantasies and experiences are mandatory to kill the routine, routine is killing love and passions.

Pegging your hubby is like as you two searching your way in a labyrinth, just one difference for the labyrinth you try to escape, for pegging you try to enter and offer the pleasure of the entry of this new world of feelings for him.

Go slow, go lubed, BOTH be patient, never enter slowly, progressively in one move, always move in and out, and each time a few deeper, lube, lube and tease, lube and suck his penis, and if he is ejaculating before to be pegged, it is a victory for you, you are a love goddess, you sure he will ask you for more.

This is a game in one direction, he asked you a fantasy, you must ask him a fantasy for you, it is like a reply to a personnal and confidential message, a fantasies exchange is a rule and must be existing / shared.

Good lubes are - K Y - J Lube - and " teat cream " easy to found in Belgium, I son't know in the US.

I think it is important for the man to know how much width in the toy/dildo he can take comfortably before the pegging can start. Getting the right size width toy is all important because if it is too large it will hurt and probably bring a quick end to the session leaving both disappointed.

So how do you know how much width in a toy you can take? You can start with just using fingers and working up from one to as many as he can comfortably take. This is a go slow process so that he can relax a let his sphincter muscles open up. You might try this a few times and then figure out (tape measure) based on the general width of how many fingers you successfully inserted shop for a dildo that is about the same width.

Here are some general guidelines for dildo width sizes and you may end up starting on the low end and purchase wider dildos based on how the initial size feels. 1 inch diameter is a good starting place and will likely feel comfortable. Moving up to 1.5 inches in diameter is a common size for many dildos so variety and selection is better. Moving up from 1.5 inches in diameter is getting into a range that I would say experienced players will use. And when you get larger than 2+ inches in diameter you are starting to get into a large class of dildos.

A word about length of the dildo. If you have cleared your rectum with enemas, you probably can easily insert up to 6 inches maybe even more and not have any discomfort. Most dildos seem to be in the six inch length insertable range. Going way beyond that would probably be for more experienced players.

Final word. If you have watched lots of porn videos of couples pegging and the guy taking huge dildos and think a larger dildo will produce more pleasure, that would not be the case. Getting the right size that doesn't hurt will produce the most pleasure so don't over buy on size- a mistake I have made and ended up rarely using the larger dildo.

I know something about anal sex. There are two very important precepts. 1) go slow. Lot's of foreplay, which is difficult for some men because they usually aren't "into foreplay." 2) lots, and lots, and if in doubt even more lube. Many believe anal sex hurts. It does not hurt if done correctly and well. I would also add to start off with a dildo that is soft to the touch, almost "skin like." You know you are doing it right if when you start entering his ass, his eyes roll back in his head and he pushes back onto the dildo.