Let's hear from the really older folks

Hi Zity people. I am not exactly a newbie anymore, having joined about 4 weeks ago. I am still learning how to navigate this diverse site. I am a 73-year-old mature, sexually active broad in a committed relationship with a 74-year-old gentleman and long-time Zity member. We met on Match.com. What astounds me is the age many of you think is "older." I wince when I see some of you bemoan turning 50, or even 40. I know it's all relative. I would like to hear from the "dinosaurs" here. What are your preferences? How are you accommodating your less agile body? I was once sexually repressed, I must admit, but have become more open minded at this ripe old age. What the Hell? Practice leads to horniness, IMO. Happy to meet you all. No offense to you youngsters, but always eager to hear about the sexuality and sensuality and wisdom of the older set. Everyone gets there eventually.

76 year old male. Have been visiting this site for a few years now. I have no interest in enemas, but I do have interest in E-Stim, and I enjoy just looking around the site for interesting topics and pics.

I'm not sure I'm old or older but as most here we are able to do some of our fantasy or shall I say needs like me I'm now single with kids and just plan vanilla life now that I'm retired and single not that I wanted to but the up side is now I can find someone to share my and whoever dreams and kinks I can now be me

Mathgirl, first of all, welcome to this site. I think your introduction/post is awesome! I wish more people were as free and as open as you are.

As a medical professional I know that our bodies go through changes as we age, goodness know's mine has. I just turned 46 and many days I'm feeling all of those years.

I hope that you eventually feel comfortable enough with us here to share more about the changes that happen to us and what we can expect, what gets better, what might not.

I have been here over 8 years and I don't remember this topic ever being discussed, so great job and I personally hope to read more from you at some point. Thank you.

Mashie

OK folks let get this straightened out. Age has very little with libido. .some of us are really charged up with it and other just are not. We just should do whatever really gets us off . . being it off once a month or jesus furious sex a couple of times a day. Do your thing!

I am over 50 but I don't consider myself a dinosaur. I am not headed for sextinction, or a display case in the museum of unnatural history. I ride motorcycles, very fast, I'm very active in the BDSM community and, as noted in this thread, I have a very active libido. If anything it's more active and adventurous than ever.

I'm almost 71, and still, very sexually active, and never miss a nice looking, female butt, going-by!! 😃 Age is not as important as attitudes, open-minded thinking, and. . .Oh, yes,. . .Porn helps, too!! 😃 😜 😄 😜 😃 Seriously, when I told my female doctor, I couldn't take a certain med she prescribed as it interfered with my orgasms, she smiled, and told me that as long as I was active there, I should be as active as I wanted/needed. Prescribed something else, and all is/was well!! Now, my Kid-lover sees her, and she likes her 😃 Most people think I look no older than 50 😃 😜 😄 😃 😜 Mike.

Im 4 mts away from being 66, still sexually active, like most kind of porn, except the rinsing your arse out type,i dont consider myself old, i still work out 3 times a week,

still love looking at women and getting dirty thoughts, mmmmmmm.

Mathgirl, Welcome to Zity the best site on the internet. Relaz and enjoy the ride.. Age has nothing to do with it. Oldere or younger it is all about what you enjoy and how you enjoy and appreciate life. Just converted a 61 year old nurse at my Dr.'s office into a Harley ridier because she said your to old to do that, She just completed her first 5 day riding tour and loves it. She says she feels young and ready fr new adventures now After 50 you adapt to any challenge mother nature gives you. Age is just a number

Thank you, Mashie, for the warm welcome. I have been following your health travails over the past several months and wish you lasting good health and much happiness forever more. Your wisdom, humor and honesty are what makes this site so popular. It is so nice to hear from you.

I am always touched by those of you who respond to my posts. Thank you for participating on this topic. We seem to have a growing fellowship of "oldies" among us. Most women, as they age, are plagued by body dysmorphic feelings, whether real or perceived -- especially when it comes to their naked bodies. Never perfect enough -- whether it be breasts or vaginas or overall weight. Mind you, this affliction is not limited to women over 70. Many women, maybe most, are self conscious and critical all of their lives. Confidence and self-acceptance can greatly enhance one's libido, IMO. I still work on it.

You guys need to make your beloved feel beautiful, if you want the fullest participation in your love making. When a woman feels confident and trusting, anything is possible. Ladies, I have written another thread about liking to dress in sexy lingerie. I have special glam "enema" outfits. They are just provocative nighties or chemises. They make me feel womanly. Then I act womanly. I feel sensuous. I have surprised myself at what I am willing to engage in at this ripe old age.

Humor is sometimes the best medicine, when you are laughing together. Enema accidents, libido lapses or leg cramps can be frustrating or funny, you choose.

To quote Barbra Streisand, "Lovers are very special people. They're the luckiest people in the world." Being in love and feeling loved enhances all of life. Open discussions with that special person makes anything possible. Trust and confidence lead to great sex, whether conventional or enhanced in some mutually agreed upon manner. Acceptance of your aging partner, who probably needs a confidence boost, too, will lead to great mutuality and comfort. Acceptance of your aging self, will make it all OK.

Let me add my welcome, Mathgirl as a relative newbie also. Check my profile. I will be 75 in a couple of weeks but I know I an 65 hee hee.

Welcome Mathgirl, and all others who participate around here. It is challenging to deal with some of the pitfalls of aging. I feel like I have to kick, claw, and scratch as I advance in age. I cling to those things that I could enjoy more often when younger.

It is very heartening to hear from those of you who still find a degree of enjoyment with those simple pleasures and procedures of our past. I'm especially taken by those who make such a great effort to liven things up (Perhaps literally at times).

That so many of us found such enjoyment from that old fashioned enema procedure, could be a subject for an extraordinary study. Especially when we probably resisted the efforts of our caregivers at a young age. The 40's, 50's, and 60's truly were the "Golden Age" of our kink.

I agree that age is relative. I find myself wanting more in my fifties and will keep at it!

Welcome Mathgirl. I, too, am in my 70s and find this site so warm and welcoming. I truly believe that you are only as old as you think you are.

I'm about to be 65, and feel like my libido is still in my 30's. Now I just need a new 60-70's partner.

Eric

53 here and as limber as i have ever been,but some days i sure feel the aches and pains of maturing 😃

Welcome Mathgirl. I'm 69 and very sexually interested and active...mostly on the kinky side. I'm in a long-term marriage with a non believer...from a kink point of view anyway. I found my kinky partner on zity and it's changed my life. We've been together nearly a year and have met in person for several days on 2 occasions...with more planned. Zity has the potential to change lives. No question.

I'm 71 and only wish I were truly sexually active. My 59 year old wife has been going thru what must be the longest period (pun intended) of menopause that has ever been. She's had no interest in sex for at least 6 years. I've been unable to get an erection since I had surgery to remove a cancerous prostate in July, 2007, As a result of our "no sex" lifestyle, I enjoy the pleasures of self satisfaction while she is at work and after she has gone to bed for the night. I have anal toys I thoroughly enjoy and have been increasing their size (length and diameter) over the years. I look at porn on the internet almost daily and masturbate to it regularly. Yes, I can't get hard and I can't cum; but, I can still enjoy masturbating. That is the extent of my sex life. I suspect there are a lot of other guys in our age range with similar stories.

It is really unfortunate to learn of the many "sexless" long term marriages. There is basic human contact, skin to skin, that can be sensual and satisfying even without intercourse or a climax. Sadly, couples reach an impasse and become unable to relate on any personal level. "Canoodling," as we like to call it, involves kissing and snuggling and caressing. That might be the first step toward a closer physical relationship with a spouse or partner. Start with some clothes on. Start by holding hands or hugging -- outside of the bedroom. Women often feel that any attention in the bedroom is a man's gesture toward actual intercourse. Start by talking kindly and building confidence in the other. Everyone craves a little TLC, whether going through menopause or having erectile problems. Just my 2 cents.

I think Mathgirl I am the oldest here stay fit married to younger women enjoy sex but due to medical reasons confined to diapers to keep wife and bed dry but still like a lot of things zity is a good outlet for people.

This is such a good thread with further potential, commenced by Mathgirl initially as an introduction that ultimately it's best served moving to it's own Topic

@Mathgirl - Warm welcome to you & Kudos for starting topic

Thanks, for the affirmation, That Australian. Being somewhat new to Zity, I am still learning how to navigate this complex site. I was surprised and delighted that I was able to create my own subject line and get favorable responses. It would be a great "topic," and seeing that you are a moderator, if you would like to move it to its own topic, I will look for it and contribute further discussions. Still learning.

Mathgirl - I trust the moving is complimentary category wise & best represents your newly created topic

It's now in your hands & I'm confident that it will supported favourably

Thanks, Mr. That Australian. What I have found among my aging friends and family, is that we tend to get "technology-phobic" about many things. Fear of failure or frustration or embarrassment. I was a "techie" in the Sixties and Seventies and now refuse to talk into a watch to send email or receive texts morning, noon and night. It is much easier to expand my sexual horizons. I find that I am more sensual and liberated than ever before in my life. I apply what limited intelligence I have left to pursuing inner peace and self-acceptance. On this forum, we can talk about any topic and be treated respectfully and compassionately.

I applaud your mind set, and welcome you to the Biz. This is a fabulous place to meet and converse with like minded adults, many like us who are over 70 and looking for ways to maintain, or improve the quality of our lives. This place is loaded with information; I believe it is addictive.

I remember times when the only way to make a phone call, was through an operator. Now I try to use our new technologies to increase nearly everything in my life. some works, some doesn't. We do tend to loose some of our self confidence as we get older. All the wrinkles and warts will have that effect, croak, but it doesn't keep us from trying, does it????

Welcome to Zity Biz Mathgirl! My husband and I are in our sixties. We have been together since I was 17 years old. It's been a roller coaster ride from time to time but we have never left before the miracle has happened. As far as our sex and fetish life goes we got an early start and it graduated as we got older. I believe three things are necessary to achieve mutual fun. These are passion for each other, acceptance and communication! We always sit down and talk and never belittle or scorn a partner for what they desire or find to be loving fun. Loving fun is important because it's shared between two people. There is fun only but it's normally a one way ride for one participant. There is nothing more saddening than a sexual/fetish participant doing or putting up with something just to satisfy another person. Notice I'm not using the word partner because a partner is a lover that will happily and eagerly take part in sexual and fetish fun because they want to explore with the one they love. This is an exciting journey when we learn to accept people! A one sided marriage or relationship is an act of being self centered. The I, Me, Mine and Myself people will remain angry and alone, even in marriage. I suggest to people to become a "Team!" There is no "I" in team. To enjoy your fetish, start by accepting that it's a natural part of your sexual desire, and learn to communicate your sexual needs openly with your partner. My husband and I have great fun! Age is no barrier and the doors open ever wider to more intimate fun. We enjoy each other! It has to be a partnership and never, never laugh when your partner pours their heart out to you. Laughing with is good. Laughing at is mental and emotional torture that will cause pain for a long time if it's not made right! I have my grandsons today and tonight. My husband will send me an e mail later about the fun we are planning on Sunday morning. I'm expecting some fun times in my lovely pink gynecology table. I'm getting worked up just thinking about an early morning enema come Sunday and some other types of fun. I love that man and he treats me like a goddess!

Hi Math-girl, welcome aboard! I is one of the 'older folk' at 84 married seven years to a 76 year old former veterinary Nurse for coming up on 7 years. She is an excellent enema nurse. She doesn't have any gut problems that could be helped by enemas, in fact just the opposite. I have given her one but it didn't help her condition of wa-a-ay too much active G.I. events. We enjoy our Saturday Morning sex life....started as a 'fun thing' and has carried us to a "planned event" that's fun to plan, dream about or jokingly laugh about. It works for us.

Everything works just fine with enough 'fore-play'....who needs pills?

the boxcar

It is refreshing to hear from older married couples who enjoy a rich and active sex life. Do you people find that sex/enemas in the morning is preferred? My guy and I seem to prefer "play time" in the AM when we have more energy. He has more testosterone, as well. Rainy, gray days are the best for loafing around. It seems that often we are too tired to "carry on" in the evening. Since we are retired now, we usually get to choose the time of day. What would be your preference and why?

I'm very glad to see this thread. As another in the senior group physically, but not mentally (well at least not yet I hope) I applaud all the above comments and can't help but admire those of you that have had or have more recently found yourself in great relationships. Please keep the comments coming. As a person that posted a lot years back, but got shot down by some rather vicious comments I've withdrawn from posting for the most part, but enjoy reading these very positive experiences. I'll be watching for more. And I'm pleased to see you aboard Mathgirl! Welcome!!

I m 63 years old was married to the "ONE" [you only get one] for 34 years now I spend my time with a male friend and two young lady's BUT I sleep alone even I don't want to put up with me in the morning !