Punishment for Disobedience

I was asked to do something for my fiance yesterday and I completely forgot. With work, being a mom and also currently pregnant...well, things slip my mind; however, I know the rules and because of my disobedience I was punished. Punishment in our house is fair and swift, doled out by fiance only, and then transgression is forgotten/forgiven. I enjoy life functioning this way. He never stays angry and we never fight. If I prove I am right, no punishment occurs, if I cannot, I submit and go OTK for a spanking.

Last night, I was guilty and he was waiting when I got home from work. I was asked to come to the bedroom, strip to panties (he enjoys pulling them down) and to bend over his lap. Because of my pregnancy he always takes my temperature rectally first (I am not punished if I have a temp), and since no temperature was present, I had to go and get the paddle he indicated was to be used. He thinks it the best way if I have to hand him the instrument he will be using for my spanking. I am spanked and then I am asked to apologize for my disobedience. Once that happens I am either released or additional things occur...last night, I was plugged after my spanking with jeweled metal butt plug and then we had sex. I came so hard and it was truly nice.

I'm thinking as soon as my butt stops stinging, I may have to disobey him again soon...

If I topped from the bottom, my Dominant would never go through that sequence as punishment again. I might still get spanked, but there would be nothing afterward. The punishment itself would become a spanking I did not ever want again, or some other alternative that I also would not want.

However, I sure can understand how you feel!

The punishment for disobedience is more mental than anything.She uses her mind to put me in my place I might add been in diapers for 20yrs due to medical reasons not being a sub she is younger and do most everything her way kinda hard to control things with my ego gone.

Disobedience in our home is an immediate bare bottom spanking with a paddle and diapering by my dom.

GinaGAL

I think that this will last only for a short time. In the case that a punishment for disobedience will be needed urgently, swallowing 2 oz castor oil will have really longlasting effects, for this will you urge for hours.

I love being spanked, the whole idea of it , the thoughts going thru my head leading up to it, the entire process of it is a real big turn on for me . But I had never been given a real punishment spanking (as an adult) until recently. I mean actual pain not just that yummy sting and "ouchie" that smarts kind of spanking .

I was asked not to do something, and while I knew I would have consequences If I did it anyway I can confess I did not try too hard . Not knowing what my " punishment " would be I was a little nervous but excited at the same time . In my head I was thinking hmmm a hard spanking ....yum .

I didnt really think of how I probably disappointed him until I was actually being punished . I can say that its not something I want repeated any time soon. Not on purpose anyway 😉

I will push the line so I get spanked.

A spanking is for discipline.....in my opinion. Keeping the submissive in line, reminding them regularly that I am in charge.

For punishment, they will not only get a good hard spanking, but some other punishment that does not come with the regular, weekly disciplinary spanking. That usually means either: an enema with a butt plug or diaper, or both; a bar of soap to wash out their potty mouth; corner time; or being punished in front of someone else as further chastisement. A submissive with learn the difference between regular spankings/discipline as part of their training/routine, and a punishment spanking for a specific offense.

Aaaaahhhhh! The age old discussion about spanking! As far back as time has been recorded the baring of a butt and slapping it with either an open hand or an implement has been the means utilized for discipline and correcting behavior. However, once into adulthood spanking often becomes an erotic desire between adults and very much a part of their sexual play time. While attending college I once had a girlfriend who openly said to me,, "when I was little girl I hated & feared getting a spanking. Now as an adult woman I look forward to getting a spanking & even desire them!"

It is really something what changes can & do occur within a person's life isn't?

If the butt plug stings, why not try a glass one with a rounded top? It doesn't scrape, no risk of tear like most and a very small amount of coconut oil on it is all it needs to eliminate the tiny amount of friction going in. You also won't feel any friction moving around.

My bf puts in it for punishment sometimes, and often before spanking, removes it for anal, obviously. Then I'm stretched out just enough for it, without pain, only discomfort. The discomfort is actually very arousing, especially when he gently thrusts.

I disobeyed a disciplinarian friend of mine by doing something she had warned me about...not wearing a seat belt ...well I was stopped and received a $90 ticket....once I confessed and showed her the ticket I was soundly spanked then whipped out against a wall then whipped again she asked if I had learned my lesson and I pleaded that I have

I really enjoy getting a good hard paddling, strapping and/ or caning. It is an adult pleasure as I have said before.

If punishment is the goal then the sexual drive that makes a spanking pleasurable must be eliminated. It really hurts then but If I know it is going to happen I get sexually excited until the last spasm of pre punishment pleasure is over then I would do anything to get out of what is going to happen to my bare ass. There is absolutely no pleasure in being over someone's knee or bending over with butt held high for that.

Then the strangest thing happen after it is over and I remember getting an un pleasurable ass busting, I get aroused thinking about it. I have written about this phenomena before and very, very few people have had this experience. It is ALMOST worth the punishment to have the dread, the pre spanking pleasure and the exciting memory; or maybe it is worth it.

Rob

Eventhough we no longer live this type of lifestyle, I miss it a lot. I have been writing a dom sub scenario where I still as the sub am either blind folded or told to close my eyes after told to lay down my dom would say receive your punishment . I lay there waiting when all of a sudden she farts in my face.

We have practiced punishment spanking for over 25 years. It started as erotic spanking and great sex after, but evolved into an very effective way for my wife to maintain her control over me.

We live in a FLH and she always has the final word, makes all the decisions, controls our finances and social life. My overall responsibility is to serve her wants, desires and expectations. We evolved into this female led lifestyle as a result of my convincing her how much better our relationship would be if she took complete control. After many conversations she eventually embraced the lifestyle. In many ways it dovetails with her personality.

One partner cannot "be in charge" unless there are consequences for the other partner for not submitting or complying to the dominate. We had already been involved with erotic fun spanking (of only me), so it was a seamless to move over to "serious" corporal punishment. This change only came about after we talked a number of times and reached a mutual agreement. My wife insisted that, if we were going to go this higher level, that there would be no more erotic spanking secessions, only corrective. The catalyst for initiating a secession could not be frivolous, but serious as far as she was concerned. One of the main differences in going forward, was the spankings would have to really "hurt" in order to impress me the error of my ways. There needed to be a lingering impression (redness) to remind me that I failed her in some important way. I would also have to be restrained on the bed to keep me from trying to run away when it became very painful, but she felt she wasn't finished administering the spanking. Also, there would be no sexual component to punishment spankings. We might go for 5-7 days after a secession without me allowed any release. This was to drive home the point that the spanking wasn't for fun, but to try to bring about positive change in my behavior. To be honest, I have become a much more responsible husband as the result of her guidance, knowing that she has the spanking available to always back her up.

Usually for 3+ days after a serious punishment session, going to work proves to be very uncomfortable.

Punishment for me is hearing the words"I am disappointed with you. I expect better." Physical pain subsides and damage heals, but being a disappointment never goes away. I try a little harder not to be a disappointment. For minor things, I may be given playful spanks or lashes, which is just fun, squeal and giggle stuff.

I am expected to be disobedient and mischievous. It comes naturally to me. We have a very fun relationship, not much structure few rules. It is more reward-based than punishment. Fortunately, I like spankings and lashes a whole bunch!

Wow! I think caribvisitors are living the dream . I am soo envious as it is for real with realistic rules and the wife wielding tremendous power. I think the husband is so very lucky.

We always suspended serious spankings when I was pregnant and for about six weeks afterward as a manner of caution. However, an occassional playful but gentle slap on my bottom was always a reminder of how much fun it will be after the baby is hatched out. Denise