Are "extreme" anal toys predominantly the domain of males?

It seems to me that, from the posts to various topics in this forum, use of very long or very wide anal toys is very much a pursuit engaged in by guys more than girls. Not exclusively so, but for the most part.

Is that a reasonable observation? Maybe not. Maybe the guys just like writing more about it.

Either way, any ideas why?

Is it just a prostate thing or some other physiological consideration? Psychological? Primal?

Discuss...

Supposedly paraphilias which are sexual arousal from atypical objects, situations or individuals are much more common in men.

The women who engage in extreme anal stretching do not write about it here because many of them are too busy doing it on camera for porn sites. If you go on porn sites featuring extreme anal insertions, you will probably find more women there than you will find men writing about it here.

Right you are HC but remember that they're doing it for money. That makes for a skewed sample doesn't it? Whether they enjoy it is a matter of conjecture.

I enjoy "extreme" anal length insertions (36 inches is my limit) and would like to be able to do wide stretching so my husband can fist me, but I have never been able to accept his hand/fist. I have only been fisted by women with small hands.

Being able to be fisted has little to do with desire. It's mostly innate ability.

Right you are HC but remember that they're doing it for money. That makes for a skewed sample doesn't it? Whether they enjoy it is a matter of conjecture.

There is NO DOUBT that the girl in the "Girl doing her own colonoscopy thread" with a silicone nozzles hose THOROUGHLY enjoys it. So do I.

I agree with you there, Susie. It's pretty obvious that a lot of these women enjoy what they are doing. It's natural for anyone to enjoy it. On top of that, they're getting paid, so it's a win-win situation. Business and pleasure.

So liquidsky, you cannot say that just because someone is doing something for money, they are not enjoying it. The only thing you know for sure is whether or not you enjoy it. You cannot determine for someone else what they will or will not like.

Of course I am aware that some people do what they do for no reason other than money, and they don't actually feel good about it. For some people, sexual acts are one of the things they do not enjoy but they do for the money. I would never deny that this is how it is for some people.

Anyway, the ability to insert a fist or fist-sized object into one's ass is a skill, no doubt about it. It takes practice and talent. To say that someone is only doing that for the money is like saying that a top PGA Tour golfer does not really like to golf and is only playing for the money. Those people are on TV and getting paid because they live to golf. Perhaps a lot of the porn stars we see insert objects professionally are the same way, they live to experience that sort of pleasure in that way. After all, when it comes down to it, that is a common passion.

I love doing it and and having it done to me and I don't get paid a dime!

I guess the size men can take is bigger than what women can take just because male physiology is bigger than female (in general), as is common that bigger men have larger hands (or feet or johnsons) . I think the thrill of insertion is however bigger for men then for women. For women the "natural" way to make sexy time is being penetrated, so it is more "mundane" and common and anal penetration is just filling another hole, while for men it poses something unusual, naughty etc... There is also the prostate factor, plus the mental letting go of the "masculine" role, being subconsciously submissive, plain relaxing or just pleasurable anal stimulation when being stretched and full. Being stretched and full by pregnancy beyond any trainable limit probably also drive women away from such pleasures.

These are just my 2c - many assumptions above about women may be just plain wrong.

You bring up some interesting stuff, afternine. However, I think that the most interesting thing about everything you mentioned is that they are not necessarily right or wrong. All of those factors can go either way:

I guess the size men can take is bigger than what women can take just because male physiology is bigger than female (in general), as is common that bigger men have larger hands (or feet or johnsons) .

- Women are usually more flexible than men. Even if a guy has a bigger anus, perhaps a woman's anus can stretch farther.

I think the thrill of insertion is however bigger for men then for women. For women the "natural" way to make sexy time is being penetrated, so it is more "mundane" and common and anal penetration is just filling another hole, while for men it poses something unusual, naughty etc...

- If it is common for a woman to receive penetration, then it must also be common for a woman to be excited about it. People's sexual activities, ideally, tend to revolve around what excites them.

- Many women who love anal play say they feel that vaginal play is "mundane" or has become mundane. So for many women, anal play is just as much an exotic alternative to the typical way of doing things as it is for men.

There is also the prostate factor

- The prostate is merely the male version of the g-spot, and the g-spot, ipso facto, is the female version of the prostate. Both spots are stimulated a great deal through anal stimulation, and therefore, under the right circumstances, anal penetration hits a certain target for women as well as it does for men. Furthermore, anal insertions tend to stimulate and excite the entire pelvic region, which can bring a lot of pleasure to the genitals whether one has a penis or a clitoris.

plus the mental letting go of the "masculine" role, being subconsciously submissive,

- If a man can think of a certain activity as a letting go of the masculine role, then a woman can think of it as just another part of the feminine role. Many people, some of them men and some women, are consciously turned on by the idea of doing something that feels feminine/submissive.

Being stretched and full by pregnancy beyond any trainable limit probably also drive women away from such pleasures.

- Interesting thought. Perhaps some women associate the insertion of large objects with child birth, but many do not. Especially since in this case the orifice in question is not the one that childbirth employs.

Having had my Prostate removed several years ago, I can attest to the intense pleasure that comes from very deep probing. I have read, and believe from personal experience that there is a second sphincter with countless nerve endings deep within the rectum, as well as pressure receptors along the walls of the Sigmoid colon that release a flood of endorphins when penetrated. For those 'so called experts" who claim the colon has no feeling, they have never felt the exquisite feeling that my sixteen by 2.25 inch dildo generates as it slides completely up into my nether regions. There is also some cramping, not unlike one gets retaining a large enema. But, that too brings it's own sweet pleasure.

I like deep anal because it's kinky, feels good, and it's visually stimulating, whether on me or another guy or a woman. I don't know if that's because I'm a guy, or just perverted. Seeing what SwitchableSusie posts (BTW - she's great, if she's real), I don't think being both mentally and physically aroused by anal has much to do with gender.

I have to agree with Electra, deep probing can be very stimulating, too. I guess those "so called experts" don't prepare and indulge in such activities long enough to get all the right regions stimulated enough (for me anal penetration feels much different after wearing a plug for several hours rather than plunging in right after quick rinse).

I have to reply to HC too:

"perhaps a woman's anus can stretch farther" - no, I don't think women's anuses are more stretchy - they are basically anatomically the same - there is no such thing as male anus and female anus in anatomy books (as far as I have seen). I guess a a bigger person has a bigger anus. There is also the training factor - the one who uses his muscles more has bigger muscles, that goes for anal sphincters, too. So a big guy who's into stretching should be able to...

Have loads of fun!

Having had my Prostate removed several years ago, I can attest to the intense pleasure that comes from very deep probing. I have read, and believe from personal experience that there is a second sphincter with countless nerve endings deep within the rectum, as well as pressure receptors along the walls of the Sigmoid colon that release a flood of endorphins when penetrated./quote]

Electra is right on the money. I too really enjoy having something deep in my rectum and sigmoid.

I still fortunately have my prostate, but can also confirm that deep probing

doesn't turn me on; it just feels really good. It's great to know there are more of us out there who are like this!

It would be interesting electra to know what literature you read that talks about

deep probing being pleasureable for its own sake, not as a sexual experience. Cramping doesn't give me pleasure, but it doesn't feel bad either.

I agree that deep anal penetration is extremely pleasurable on its own. To me it's sexual, but not stimulating to the extent that it gives me an erection or causes an orgasm by itself. However, it certainly intensifies orgasms. Some of the best orgasms I've ever had are from masturbating while my 36" 48 Fr colon tube is buried in me.