Dirty Talk in Bed

Years ago I was making love to a lady for the first time and in the middle of the act she exclaimed, "F*ck me, f*ck me." I think I spoiled it for her by replying, "I thought that was what I was doing!"

Assuming you AREN'T relating that incident as a joke, if I'm taking the statement seriously, what she wanted was for you to be more of a farm animal and less of a gentleman.

Dirty talk in public is usually offensive to someone. In private like in bed it can induce strong sexuality. Party on.

Susie it was a true story rather than a joke but I agree with your response. Sadly I am not into that sort of thing. However, we did have a relationship which lasted about five years!

If you haven't in a long time, you should give the farm animal approach a try again.

It's a lot of fun going absolutely wild.

People get better with practice and permission. Start by whispering "tell me how you want to fuck". That's a pretty strong hint that he has permission and encouragement. Keep asking dirty questions and he'll have to respond.

Dirty talk really gets me off, when me and my wife got together she was silent...It was painful, she's alot better now but still struggles sometimes. I'm a screamer and talker I find it really hard to get off without it.

I hope one day my wife will be like me with all the encouragement.

I think it's got to do with what words are used. I was having good sex with my girlfriend at the time, not hard core or anything fast. Missionary position going through the motion softly and gently. Every time I thrusted in her, she would somewhat yell out the word shit. I've been deeper than that inside her, so I know I was not hurting her. It was like a friendly shit. I don't know why It just turned me off right away. I understand that she may of enjoyed it, I was to until that word. I'm just saying a more pleasing word could've been used for romantic time. Hard core would probably be ok.

My wife is the one that talks dirty to me, telling me she wants to see me submit to another man, being spanked to total submission, ( I would prefer being spanked by my wife and or another woman till I admit that want a big hard cock to take me, I think?) then me begging him to take me, while she watches etc. And me responding YES! PLEASE!........ at every question she asks me leading up about it!

Wondering how many women lead the dirty talking conversations vs men?

If "talking dirty" means that we use dirty language and trash talk in bed, I guess my husband and I plead innocent. However, if "talking dirty" is also defined as: "Take me, I'm ready, take me now! I love this, do me harder. I want this to last forever!!!" Then we're guilty. ?

Now I'm not so good at dirty talking in bed although I try, but I do love to be talked dirty to sometimes, usually at points of maximum excitement. Not the rubbish porn movie "Oh yeah baby you're so big.."stuff but just real filthy talk spontaneously whispered or spoken with passion "Is my arse hole nice & tight for you?" " Do you like fucking my shit-hole?" " I want you to cum in my arse" etc etc Looks pretty awful in cold print but at the time....wow!

Forgot to add about a delightful lady exploring my urethra with a soft silicone probe "you can touch yourself if you want..." Magic

We communicated what we liked or disliked during sex, but it wasn’t dirty talk. We weren’t good at roleplay and talking dirty seemed liked roleplay to us.

Effectively talking dirty is a gift that I sadly don’t have. I appreciate a woman who can talk dirty in any situation. It can be having the vocabulary to use properly suggestive words when in polite company, being able to whisper something absolutely filthy without being vulgar, or being able to vocalize out loud like a person you don’t even recognize.

She (during sex): Please say something really dirty to me!

He: bathroom, kitchen, dishes.

Contrived is a turn off to me. If someone says: "talk dirty to me," i cannot produce it on demand, and i would not want to put Him in that position either. i think maybe for some, telling a person: "talk dirty to me" is sort of like telling them it's okay, giving them permission.

i think 'talking dirty' is really intimate, it's saying stuff out loud that maybe one is thinking, but afraid to say. To me, that's what makes 'real' "dirty talk" so powerful, because you're sharing a scary need/desire, that when it's mutual, can help cement a deep, intimate connection/bond.

i have a long time fantasy where i have a connection with a Man and He knows He can use me anytime He wants to cum or piss in me. i'm sure just reading that sounds "dirty" to a lot of people. But if it's a mutual desire? i imagine waking up in the middle of the night to the feel of Him pressing His cock into me. As i wake, He whispers in my ear: "Take my piss, i know you need it." It's "talking dirty," but it's also deeply intimate for both of us because we both want it and know it's true.

i think "talking dirty" is very personal, i don't see it as working generically.