Dirty Talk in Bed

One of my current partners says he's into dirty talking but I have not heard a peep out of him yet. So could it just mean he wants me to talk dirty. I am usually pretty open about discussing things but I have a block with dirty talking. I REALLY like it but I DON"T want to ask for it. Is that strange? I can easily say I like this and that when it comes to positions, but dirty talk I want to be natural. I just want a good dirty talk and I am not turned on if I suggest something because it sound too forced. I need dirty talk to be authentic and feel SOOOOO real. How can I get past this and get this one guy talking?

Dirty talk can bring foreplay to a higher level ! Describing in detail can make him squirm and beg for more. Its a fine art ! 😉 With a body like yours you can certainately go into explicit detail .

What do you mean, bridgette? Could you give me an example of dirty talk bringing foreplay to a higher level? What would you say to make "him" squirm and beg for more, just out of curiosity?

Well first I would tell him how much I 've been thinking about getting my hands on him all day in the softest sexiest voice I have. And I was getting soo turned on I couldnt help but touch myself........

^^^ "I couldn't help but touch myself"-- https://youtube.com/watch?v=r71xajhDFUo

Yes, but I need HIM to dirty talk. I do it tons, love that shit. How do I get him to get down and dirty. His lips are sealed and I know he's a kinky guy, trust me, so what's up? Why can't he open his mouth. I tired to tell him one time and it was so bad he just repeated what I said 😢 I'm missing the dirty talk for sure and want it to be real.

Well first I would tell him how much I 've been thinking about getting my hands on him all day in the softest sexiest voice I have. And I was getting soo turned on I couldnt help but touch myself........

At that point you'd definitely have his attention. He would be wondering what happens next? Does he gently move your hand away and touch you himself? Do you hop in his lap and straddle him while you're touching yourself? Don't leave him hanging, bridgette.

Dressed in his favorite bra and panties, climb on to his lap straddling him and get him all worked up. Slowly kissing ....nibbling....sucking his mouth to his jaw to his neck and shoulder. Whisper in his ear .......tell me what you want me to do to you. ( the whole time subtly grinding into him)

And if he slid the straps of your bra off your shoulders, grabbed the back of your head and pulled it against his shoulder and whispered in your ear "the question is, what am I going to do to you?" and bit your earlobe... then what?

Talking dirty to my girl is the only way I can get 'him' up these days. Years ago I used to flirt with her especially by telling her what I like to do to her, these days that's about all, THREATS. 😃 Thank goodness for BOB. (battery operated boyfriend) regards, irrigator333

I would like to expand on what matt83 and bridgette started...

Early in the day tell him you have a secret plan for this evening's naughty fun. Let his imagination build during the day.

That evening, with drinks in hand but still fully clothed, straddle him on the sofa and explain the rules of the game.

"I am going to ask you some questions, and you have to answer in a very specific way. For example, If I ask you 'Do you want a hug or do you want a kiss?' you must reply either 'I want a hug' or 'I want a kiss.' do you understand?"

Once he understands the rules of the game, here are some questions to begin with...

- Do you want me to me to take my shoes off, or do you want me to take my watch off?

- Do you want me to take another drink from my glass, or do you want me to take a drink from your glass?

- Do you want me to undo one button of my shirt, or do you want me to undo one button of my pants?

- Do you want me to lick my lips, or do you want me to pinch my nipples?

Now the pattern to follow here is that every answer he gives is actually in the form of a command to you. Of course, you show a little bit of innocent surprise no matter his answer, immediately melting into sly approval of his desire, and then you directly obey his command, looking him straight in the eye, smiling, and acting without hesitation. You are actually doing three things here: 1) you providing him very specific phrases to say that he knows are safe to say because you have already spoken the words. 2) you are defining a list of naughty activities that you are willing to do on command. 3) you are having him practice talking dirty and being dominant about it. "I want you to..." And in proper Ds fashion, while he appears to be in control, it is actually you, the sub, establishing what is permitted to happen.

The questions can progress in strength...

- Do you want me to take my shirt off, or do you want me to take my pants off?

- Do you want me to lick my own nipples, or do you want do give me a hickey between my tits?

- Do you want me to slide my fingers in my wet pussy and then lick them clean, or do you want me to slide my fingers in my wet pussy and wipe the juices all over my face?

- Do you want me to wear my thong like a necklace, or do you want me to stuff my thong in my drink glass and then finish my drink?

The questions can also be about agreeing to later activities...

- Do you want me to wear no panties to work tomorrow, or do you want me to wear no bra to work tomorrow?

- Later on, do you want to fuck my dirty mouth, or do you want to fuck my tight cunt?

- Before the night is over, do you want to use one of my holes, or do you want to use two of my holes?

- When we get to the bedroom, do you want me to be your sex slave, or do you want me to be your horny slut?

- When you are ready to cum, do you want me to swallow your load like a good little girl, or do you want to shoot your load down my throat?

Hopefully these examples will be useful to you, and inspire you to make more of your own. Assuming the evening goes well and transitions into some hot fucking with dirty talk, it could be fun to sprinkle these questions into every day life. Next time you are out at a fancy dinner and have just ordered your meal, lean across the table and ask him...

- Do you want me to slip my panties off while sitting right here and put them on the table, or do you want me to unbutton my shirt and flash you both my tits?

- I'm going to the restroom, do you want me to put the buttplug from my purse into my hungry ass and wear it for the rest of the evening, or do you want me to use your cell phone and take 5 full length pictures myself in the mirror, 100% completely nude?

Hope this helps. Please share your experiences with us.

Slipping my hand between my legs.....feeling and rubbing his arousal ,I whisper in his ear....before I let you do anything you have to tell me , in detail , what it is that you want to do to me.

I never thought about dirty talk this way. What you are talking about is much more fun than I would have supposed. Wish I had someone to talk with!

Slipping my hand between my legs.....feeling and rubbing his arousal ,I whisper in his ear....before I let you do anything you have to tell me , in detail , what it is that you want to do to me.

Oh, I am just totally guessing here, but I bet he would take a handful of your hair and give a little tug, pulling your head back and kissing your throat. That's as he's grinding against your hand and right before he looks into your eyes and says "if I told you everything I wanted to do to your little pussy, there wouldn't be any surprises, now would there?" Then he would most likely slip his hand down your panties and give your clit a little smack.

Eagerly unbuckling his belt and undoing his pants I tell him how turned on he gets me when he talks about my pussy. Kissing him hungrily as My breathing changes I free his cock from his pants and say, "I will make you moan if you tell me more."

Since I will turning 56 in a few days and have probably had sex more times than I care to count there ideas sure spur my imagination. A sure break in our routine. 😉

One of my current partners says he's into dirty talking but I have not heard a peep out of him yet. So could it just mean he wants me to talk dirty. I am usually pretty open about discussing things but I have a block with dirty talking. I REALLY like it but I DON"T want to ask for it. Is that strange? I can easily say I like this and that when it comes to positions, but dirty talk I want to be natural. I just want a good dirty talk and I am not turned on if I suggest something because it sound too forced. I need dirty talk to be authentic and feel SOOOOO real. How can I get past this and get this one guy talking?

DON'T play games.

The two of you need to sit down (dressed) at the kitchen table and have a little talk about what you each want. Alternatively, you could sit at the table and write down all your thoughts and then discuss them.

Nothing short of that will solve your problem.

Sounds to me like he likes being talked dirty to. He probably is waiting on you to talk dirty to him and then he may get the courage to respond and do it himself.

I can understand your predicament. If you ask for it, it will not be natural, but contrived for your benefit.

I would wait until you are starting in on each other and start telling him how much you enjoy what he is doing very graphically (Oh, I love it when you finger my cunt like that) and start asking him some leading questions (Do you want to fuck my tight little cunt hole?). See if you can get him to start. My bet is that you can.

I love it when my SO asks me to stick my cock in her ass. It is almost a bit of a game. When she wants anal she will start grinding her ass against my cock, and I will start asking what she is doing with her ass, and, after a little bit she will be asking me to probe stick my cock in her ass. Oddly enough, getting there can be a lot of fun.

Dirty talk is an art form. For me it is not just the right words, but the tone. Some men, people have it, some don't. My only suggestion, in addition to the other excellent ones here, find an erotic story and pick out specific dialog, let him read it, or read it together. There is plenty of good free stories on line, literotica.com for one.

Unfortunately,talking dirty has never been my forte-it feels awkward. My first husband wasn't like that and neither is this one. It is what it is.

I have done it a few times. Well actually more than just a few times. I have to admit that it does turn me on when a partner says a note like she has waited all day to taste me etc.

Ask me to write an erotic story and I can really get into a detailed description of desire, sex and passion, with all the kinky stuff you can think of. Ask me to whisper or talk dirty to my lover and I freeze up. Yes, I can verbalize a little during lovemaking, but it pales compared to what I write. I guess not all of us have the gift of the dirty gab....

Personally, I love dirty talk... both saying it and hearing it.

Similar to what I have read here, I realize not everyone can do it "on the fly". I guess it just depends on each individual's personality. However, when I do hear it, it makes me even more crazy horny (like that is even possible!)...

I think it makes sex hotter, when you can hear her groan and tell you how she feels

I happen to love dirty talk. I didn't grow up in a house where my parents swore and I didn't live in an environment where swearing and other such things were ever heard. On the few occasions when I did hear such things I always thought it was so trashy. However, the older I got the more this changed for me.

Now things are so very different. Dirty talk is so freakin hot for me. It was Doc who changed this for me actually. He never talked during sex but once in a while when we were having normal conversations he would say something naughty. Hearing a real doctor say words like dick, pussy, boobs, balls and tits was over the top funny to me. It makes me blush, giggle and usually makes me horny when I hear him talk like that. Keep in mind, he never used these words while we were in the middle of anything sexual. Well one day I told him that I wanted to suck his cock till he came. I am not sure that me saying the word cock gave him the permission he thought he needed to use that word in my presence, but one day he had my hands tied behind my back and he made me get on my knees in front of him. I watched him undo his belt and pull his very hard cock out of his pants. I am sure I started salivating immediately lol. Then he made me look at him in the eyes and he told me to "suck my cock". I fell in love with him all over again that day I think if that's even possible.

Depending on what we are doing, what environment we are in depends on the language we use. But over all, I LOVE to be talked dirty to and I love to talk dirty to him as well. Hearing and saying talk like this is a huge turn on for me and makes me even more horny if that's even possible, lol.

Mashie

I love dirty talk. My emotions run the gamut of dominant and controlling to slutty and submissive.

I love it when a guy or girl talks dirty to me, and I talk dirty back to them 😃

I am neutral about making a point of talking dirty and so is my husband while we're in the middle of sex, although I have no problem doing it. Dirty talk just doesn't make the scene go any better for us. We have our verbal and body signals and we just do it!

Years ago I was making love to a lady for the first time and in the middle of the act she exclaimed, "F*ck me, f*ck me." I think I spoiled it for her by replying, "I thought that was what I was doing!"