We have a rule in our couple that we should not masturbate to orgasm without the partner's approval (unless away); that is, if we want an orgasm the first step is to ask the partner.
Some day I had behaved in a somewhat irritating way to my wife, then had asked for some sexual "relief".
My wife asked me to go to the toilet to be ready for action. I thought hey probably vaginal sex (we go to the loo before vaginal sex in order to avoid an urge to pee due to pressures on the bladder).
When I came back she had me lay on my back close to the edge of the bed with a sleeping mask over the eyes (you know the kind you use on jetliners). I thought hey a blowjob!
She got me hard then covered me with a condom (we had some at home in case of forgotten pills). Then she masturbated me some more. Then I heard some noises then felt her finger, other hand, greasing my backdoor. Then the order to "push as if going potty". The well-vaselined finger slipped in.
She then masturbated me in earnest, in a rhythmic fashion, while probing me internally. It was not sensual, the goal was obviously to stimulate me quickly.
I ejaculated in the condom.
"Relieved?"