Do you hide your kinks / fetishes?

It's funny/sad how ridiculous it is to expect anyone to be sexually and emotionally satisfied with the basic vanilla lifestyle, and yet those who indulge their kinks and fetishes are the ones who get ridiculed by all those self-appointed "normal police."

You're absolutely right, but the thing is, collectively people just can't shake the urge to judge others by the norm of the average, of that which is safe and un-intimidating and which doesn't fall outside the normal. That goes for all kind of behavior, be it clothing, hairstyles, taste in music, food and books and so on and on ...

In past times, especially less civilized times, group cohesion was a factor that helped individuals survive threats of all kinds, so therefore individualistic behavior was frowned upon. Unless of course you possessed charisma and strengths of some kind. Then you could essentially write your own rules, start your own religion and so on ... but few of us fall in that category ...

In a word" YES", I cannot think of anything positive coming out of letting anyone else know. I read Healthy44's comments and agree wholeheartedly with pretty much everything he had to say about letting anybody know of your fetish, unless you know for certain that they are like minded. Whether we like it or not, there is still a stigma attached to being different from what most people consider "the norm".

I guess you can't win either way. If you are "normal," you are going to be designated uptight, boring, prudish, etc. If you are kinky, most people would designate you a pervert. Whether it's one way or the opposite, the label is condescending. So perhaps these days, shunning people based on their individuality as well as their lack of individuality is a way for one to feel superior to others. In this way, the same community-centric behaviors of more primitive eras of society remains consistent in this increasingly egocentric, solipsistic era.

I never discuss physicals with anyone.

That includes my true medical experiences. I find physical exams to be so embarrassing that I do not want anyone to know I have had one or am about to have one. I always picture others there and would never want someone to picture me there.

About a year ago, I told my business partner that I would be out the following day for a colonoscopy. He just kind of cringed and then laughed. I saind "yeah, TMI, I know" and let it go at that.

I always tell my wife when I have a physical scheduled just to see if it will prompt any embarrassing questions. But it never does. I typically only find out when my wife has had a visit to the gynecologist when she leaves her copy of the paperwork on a desk or something.

When returning from my doctor for treatment of a minor infection my secretary asked if I had an injection. When I affirmed, she asked where I got it and then grinned when she noticed me gingerly sitting to one side.

I do and don't.

Do: Due to my background in EMS, I have a lot of medical knowledge. I do get asked occasional questions by people who know me, so I do discuss medical issues, etc. fairly frequently. And due to some health issues this year, I have discussed doctor appointments with several people.

Don't: I'm not one to announce that I'm seeing the dentist or such. I also do not discuss any play exams outside this forum, due to keeping my kink hidden from others, including my spouse (who is not into my kinks).

To an extent, I probably hide some of mine in plain sight. Part of the satisfaction in becoming more forthcoming about some topics, is the ability to carry on some intelligent conversation with others. We communicate on sites such as this, but personal interaction is far better than anonymity in many cases. My attendance at EFEST events was very enlightening. While I wasn't previously known to other attendees, the face to face interaction was wonderful. I'm sure I blushed more than once, but I became more comfortable with myself over time.

Discretion is necessary in many personal and professional relationships. For that reason, I'm pretty cautious when discussing some topics in many circumstances. That doesn't mean that one can't openly discuss those treatments, procedures, and events that might fuel our ongoing fetishistic desires.

While explicit details of my own preferences may be held close to the vest, I've enjoyed many interactions concerning enemas and other medical procedures.

I told 2 old gf's I took enemas. One wouldn't let me give her one even after I bought her a bag, but she did use it. The other let me give her one and she had a GREAT orgasm from it along with some vaginal stimulation. 😜

I avoid even hinting at it.

I keep my interests in medical play pretty private because a lot of the people that me and my hubby know in our community are doctors and such and work at our local hospital

Some of the doctors and other medical professionals in our community know me and my hubby from our local YMCA where we work out

The only people who know about my interests are my hubby and my online friends here on this forum and on fetlife

This thread received a lot of replies 11 years ago. (There was also one about the free prostate exam clinics.) I don't hide my medical exam fetish with posters on here: presumably we share it. Decades ago, before the Internet, perhaps through personal ads (?) I found a group of play doctors, and patients in NYC. Later, I found someone, like myself, who would pay for physical exams from doctors about whom we had heard something. He would say.... He would do.... Doctors whose quirks came out. He would call me about an exam that he had just had. Keep in mind that NYC, unlike other parts of the country, have an excess of doctors. It also had/has many gay doctors. As a writer, I would record my exams, exams which I had read of others. I wouldn't go into the fetish without a reason, someone whom I was dating. I have shared the insight that what drives this is my having been sexually assaulted. Being naked in a doctor's office is a safe space where nothing negative happens. It might be of interest to those who weren't on here that long ago.

Yes. My kinks my fetishes are very personal. No one I know would come close to understanding or appreciate them.

I’m a very private person and I’m a teacher and should any of this come to light it would be a disaster.

Having said that it does not prevent me from enjoying them solo, online or on the rare occasion in person where identities were guarded successfully.

I’m primarily drawn to submissive females, though at times I like to switch.

I have no problem with discussing real, personal medical subjects with family members. For as long as I've had this fetish, I have never disclosed it to anyone. I can share many things with my wife but with this subject she would be turned off by it. She is very vanilla and would have trouble comprehending such things. I did try to work it in a conversation with a woman I was dating many years ago. She dismissed what I said and ghosted me.