Turned on by spanking videos - now what?

I was never spanked as a child, but became curious after reading Anne Rice's "Sleeping Beauty" and "Fifty Shades of Gray". I started watching spanking videos online and became extraordinarily aroused by them - just the ones where it was a man spanking a woman's bare bottom. There were a few where during the spanking, the woman became highly aroused and with a little loving fingering in between the swats, was brought to orgasm. Wow! Now I find myself preoccupied with the thought of spanking my wife. I'm fairly certain she is not into it, as I have previously swatted her (before my spanking fascination) and it really ticked her off. I have been watching and reading enough to realize there is a real art and technique to spanking. I am still having a bit of trouble understanding the nuances of a punitive vs. a pleasurable spanking. Do you think there is any way to gently introduce my wife to this? We do enjoy role-playing soooo I have thought about a fantasy session where we go through all the talking (you've been a naughty girl and need to be punished), she is wearing school girl clothing, over my knee, skirt up, lightly spank her on her panties, then panties down, the lightly spank her on her bare bottom, then make her stand in the corner. Am I just dreaming?

Sounds great. I like it.. starting off slow and increasing the spanks as u go along. You may find a bit of stimulating pleasure to your naughty girl with your fingers.. It messes up the mind.. confusing pain and pleasure..My male sub likes the pain and pleasure but it is done differently with a male.

I think u may b dreaming on this one if she gets mad at sum playful swats I doubt she will go for the real thing but best of luck to u

Colontherapist

I see no reason why you (and your wife) might not be able mutually to enjoy some bare bottom spanking, but you may well have to approach it rather more subtly than your role-playing fantasy session idea suggests. Moving straight to an OTK scene from a school uniform role-play may be too big a step with which to start.

I don't have much direct experience myself of spanking as yet, but am discovering (over many months) that - rather to my surprise and, I hope, eventual delight - my wife might enjoy it in some form or fashion. Part of the start was to slap my wife's buttock just a few times, and not very hard at all, when we were having sex and she was on top of me. I did this just before I was about to come. The rhythmic smacks are now to some extent associated with me climaxing inside her. She loves me cumming in her and so I hope she links it in some way with the ass smacks and likes them too.

Over the months since this started, I have also given her bottom more attention with playful slaps when, for example, she bends over in the kitchen to get something from a lower cupboard. She now laughs when I do this, so I take that as a positive sign and hope to develop this into more direct spanking activity in due course. But I reckon 'due course' might turn out to mean anything from another six months to even several years.

What did you mean by "swatted" and "it ticked her off"? How long ago was that?

Have you made any progress since your original post in October?

Would like to cultivate some understanding of how husbands can bring initially-reluctant wives to enjoy spanking activities, so happy to compare experiences and ideas here of course.

Facilitator

I like spanking videos.

I often put a spanking vid on .The more you watch the more ideas you get .I love the whole scene dressing in uniform corner time etc .Why do you not just ask outright if your wife would go along with your fantasy .