Learning how to give good oral

When I was in college, I was watching a porn. There was a scene with two lesbians. I noticed how slow and gentle they were with each other - I had always been fast and aggressive.

The next time I went down on a girl I mimiced the same thing, and she went wild.

This is mostly cunnilingus-centric-

Sit down with a book and get a basic grasp of the anatomy of the pelvic/genital area. Once that's done it is mostly communication and practice. I'm having trouble with the last parts - the communication is mostly "it tickles" and the practices are few and far between 😞 .

I have heard that freshly shaved (within an hour) for the guy and trimmed pubic hair for the girl can help with that, looking forward to trying it sometime.

For being on the receiving end all I can say is to pay attention to body language, listen for little moans and gasps. If she is grabbing your head and grinding into you you are doing something right. Pay attention to her hips, let them set the rhythm.

There is not a one size fits all technique . Some women like it the same way each time sometimes we want it to start off one way and end a different way.

Use your fingers too , your lips, different parts of your tongue.

I don’t orgasm easy but get me going first, kissing, petting, grabbing, play with my breasts , my ass, finger my pussy, really get me going then go down on me and I will be that much more ready.

Most important, be patient, take your time, savor me , if I can tell you are enjoying me it gets me that much more turned on.

I like to think I’m pretty good at giving oral to a woman, but I don’t think I ever really had to learn it. At a very young age (11,12) I always wanted to eat pussy (and have anal sex) with girls more than regular sex. So I think enthusiasm and desire to please goes a long way.

As for technique, all women can like different things - where to lick and suck, how fast, how much pressure, how long before changing up. I often will ask which things feel better or if I should keep doing this. Not constantly of course, but sometimes. Also, in a non sex time, I will ask them what they like, or what I did that felt best. I make sure they know that I WANT to please them and am comfortable talking about it and taking some direction to get it right. Right after sex is the perfect time for a ‘postmortem’ of what happened, what they liked, what to do more of or what to try next time.

But many (most?) woman are reluctant to give explicit details or directions for whatever reason, so then you REALLY need to pay attention!! Every breath she takes, every body movement is a clue to how you are making her feel. Use your hands to cup her buttocks, or reach up to rub her belly or fondle her breasts and nipples. See and hear and feel her reaction to different things you are doing. If something is getting her breathing rapidly, with moans and groans, remember that! Switch to something else and then go back to it. Her hips thrusting or rotating or squirming is a great clue to what she’s feeling and wants more of. I wrote here once about a first oral sex session with a woman with a very loud room air conditioner running. I felt BLIND (deaf actually 😜 ) because I couldn’t hear her reactions!! It was horrible... well... as horrible as sex goes.

Short answer - it boils down to desire (to please her) and communication (no matter with words, or actions) to get it right!

But many (most?) woman are reluctant to give explicit details or directions for whatever reason, so then you REALLY need to pay attention!! Every breath she takes, every body movement is a clue to how you are making her feel. Use your hands to cup her buttocks, or reach up to rub her belly or fondle her breasts and nipples. See and hear and feel her reaction to different things you are doing. If something is getting her breathing rapidly, with moans and groans, remember that!

Short answer - it boils down to desire (to please her) and communication (no matter with words, or actions) to get it right!

I think this is good advice. You need to pay attention to her visual and also listen for clues in the sounds she is making. Some ladies are very quiet but you can still tell from breathing and other clues. Not all like it the same way but don't get too rough on the clit but pay attention to it. It's all in the technique.

For receiving, try not to use it like a sucker, but a light touch up and down always gets me going. Too hard with the vacuum action is a downer for me.

@CJ1999 , by the way you just described giving oral, seems like you know exactly how to pleasure a woman ! YUM ?

@Moppys_jalopy said

For receiving, try not to use it like a sucker, but a light touch up and down always gets me going. Too hard with the vacuum action is a downer for me.

Many men I have known, including my husband like a good firm touch (not a tickle) and suction that can rip the chrome off a bumper.

During early sex with Girlfriends ,along with 1st wife and 2nd wife had done Oral sex often and never had anyone complain.However it was not until Had My First Mistress who actually taught me Very Very well How to perform Oral the Proper Way to a Woman. She taught me to use your tongue more FLAT than on the Tip ,using slow ,using from light to stronger strokes .(ALL This done without HER letting me use my hands) She told me of course every Woman is different but normally when a women's hips starts moving and rolling you have hit the spot .

Also not all Oral sex performed on a woman should be all about her clitoris ,yes of course that is the "Holy Grail" one may say, but there also should be tongue use on inner/outer labia, sucking,licking nibbling ( using from light to strong touch) you will all know by sounds and movement of your mate.Also My Mistress also taught me to use your tongue on the INNER sides of a woman"s vagina and going as deep as possible (using hands to spread lips very wide)as slow as possible making the goal trying to get your tip of tongue (if possible) just on the touch of their cervix (just tip of cervix if at all possible) Again Every Woman is Different but if you really take pride into performing Oral on your Wife/Girlfriend/mate/etc. she will be one Happy Lady and a Happy Lady normally makes a Lady who wants to have more sex.That Gentleman makes you a very Happy Man !!...............

P,s When licking your woman on inner/outer Labia use tongue at times (as a kitten laps up saucer of milk) then go back to slow sucking,stretching lips way out as your sucking .

Many men I have known, including my husband like a good firm touch (not a tickle) and suction that can rip the chrome off a bumper.

For receiving, try not to use it like a sucker, but a light touch up and down always gets me going. Too hard with the vacuum action is a downer for me.

@SwitchableSusie @Moppys_jalopy Exactly why partners should COMMUNICATE to get the most out of sex! There may be some universals, but most people are unique and should talk to their partner about how they should each please each other.

@CJ1999 , by the way you just described giving oral, seems like you know exactly how to pleasure a woman ! YUM ?

@bridgette Thx, But I’m no expert... But I do LOVE what I’m doing and want to make her eyes roll back into her head! There’s nothing like feeling her hands hold your head into her pussy as she grunts and bucks her hips into your face as she cums so strongly!! Its heaven!

It depends on the person you do. All, as it was already said, have own likes and dislikes of this act.

As for example my partners, ex-loved when doing blowjob his balls were massaged. Current bf (we didn't practice yet blowjob) doesn't like when I touch his balls when massaging him (it's ticklish and uncomfortable for him) Don't think I do it wrong, I use gentle touches... So when and if we get to blowjob I don't think he will like the same as my ex.

So yes, do first as you know then communicate with the partner, get the feedback. Learn each outer. Talk.

I was taught from my early 2o's by a mistress how to give a woman the right amount of oral pleasure and how to read their body movements when to slow down or speed up and what to do just at the right moment to make them explode with orgasm. I am ever thankful to her and all the ladies i have met since including my current wife i have been able to bring them to a gush orgasm. There is a correct technique but this needs to be taught guess i am one of the lucky ones

OK, Shaunie, speak up - explain how you do it! You know, for the greater good of both women and men....

See this post from a few years ago on what many women want when they are oralled:

https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=625880

To all the beautiful ladies here, I have just one thing to say, PRACTICE MAKES PERFECTION!!!!!!!!

Remember what might be good for you may not apply to others. We are all individuals, male and female.

SwitchableSusie, thanx for reminding me of your wonderful post - I actually adopted the "broad tongue" style and is my (to be honest is hers, but her pleasure it is also mine) favourite and mostly performed technique. I acutally remember her wide opened eyes when I did it as she was all "WTF, this is something new" - and the next second her eyes rolled back and only sighs and moans followed.... 😉

But I'd like to hear about Shaunie's style, too

See this post from a few years ago on what many women want when they are oralled:

https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=625880

You mention indoor earlier post that in porn movies they do oral by flicking the tongue. That probably provides a better camera angle to show the labia and clitoris. Wish I had read your earlier post about 20years ago!!

SwitchableSusie, thanx for reminding me of your wonderful post - I actually adopted the "broad tongue" style and is my (to be honest is hers, but her pleasure it is also mine) favourite and mostly performed technique. I acutally remember her wide opened eyes when I did it as she was all "WTF, this is something new" - and the next second her eyes rolled back and only sighs and moans followed.... 😉

You have to watch out when you do something new all of a sudden. Some women might accuse of of having "private lessons" with another woman!

It is important that you let the person hold you head or hair and be able to move your head in the rythmn and stroke that he likes.

LovesMedExam said

It is important that you let the person hold you head or hair and be able to move your head in the rythmn and stroke that he likes.

I know how to give an excellent blowjob and the person who controls the blowjob is the one with the teeth.

If someone grabbed my hair to control what I was doing, their penis would definitely feel how well my teeth come together.

If you want me to alter what I am doing TELL ME don't push my head.

You sound like you learned your sexual maneuvers from pornos.

I definitely agree with @SwitchableSusie ! Holding my hair up and out of the way is one thing even grasping it tight is ok but use my head to try to “ control” me will definitely bring things to a screeching halt and not end well.

Researched and studied the female anatomy and practiced a lot. Listened to feedback,

When I was a 13-year-old boy the older boys taught me and my scoutmaster. I used to suck a lot of cock at school.

Had a guy who was a picky asshole tell me exactly what to do but now I'm glad he did

It's hard to talk to your partner while giving - and even sometimes receiving - oral sex. Speaking to them before hand about what feels good, how to build up, how to offer non-verbal cures etc. might help a lot - but talking during oral might be difficult.

Even during vaginal or anal sex - we never talked much unless someone accidentally did something unpleasant - we were consumed in the pleasure and didn't vocalize.

Back all too many years ago I was taught by two Lesbians on how to give pleasure with my mouth. Why I was in bed with two lesbians I don't know. The one thing that is certain is I give good Oral and one hell of a diaper change.

P.S.

Practice makes perfect 😛 LOL

Back all too many years ago I was taught by two Lesbians on how to give pleasure with my mouth. Why I was in bed with two lesbians I don't know.

Good for you. For most of us, bedding down with two lesbians is only a fantasy!!! 😞

I'm the first guy my wife ever gave oral to. She's getting better over the years as for me I keep her pussy cumming with deep tongue action.

Eating pussy is my hobby and one of my favorite things to do. Sometimes when my wife is horny, but too tired to have one of our usual sex marathons, she will ask me to “tuck her in”. This means she wants me to eat her out till she orgasms and then kiss her and say goodnight. I love doing this as much as she does. I have to agree with what others have said; read her body language and listen to her moans. But better yet, take some instruction from a real expert.

https://xhamster.com/videos/sex-guide-how-to-eat-a-pussy-77358

As far as receiving, I don't like anything but just the slightest suction. Too much suction causes an unpleasant tickling sensation for me. Just make your mouth like a warm wet pussy. And an aggressive, well lubed finger up the ass will be eagerly appreciated. A good blow job is nice, but I'd rather eat pussy.