Learning how to give good oral

How did you learn to give good oral? What is your best advice to give someone so they can give their lover an experience they will never forget?

Experimentation. Communication during the act is difficult, though a few of my lovers have offered direction. Different strokes for different folks. I often use a finger to add stimulation both externally and internally, though easing a finger into the anus has had mixed reviews - love it or hate it. For those that love it, a well-lubricated finger slipped into the rectum at just the right time can be like pushing the "launch orgasm" button. It's best to have a very good idea of how this gesture will be received before your try it.

Some of my lovers have preferred a very steady - DO NOT change your rhythm approach, and I have learned my wife likes to start off gently with broad, lapping strokes of the tongue and as things progress, exposing the clitoris with gentle sucking and working the clitoris vigorously with the tip of my tongue while a finger in the vagina works the G spot area rather firmly with first on finger, then two. When she begins to tense up, whatever I'm doing, keep it just like that for as long as it takes to orgasm, then gently for as long as she likes until she puts her hands on the side of my head to signal cuddle time.

Your mileage may vary - as they say.

Main attributes of good oral for men:

-- suction to create good contact and some pressure between the penis and tongue, palate and cheek

-- having the penis well lubricated by saliva

-- stroking the penis while sucking and stroking the head of the penis in and out of the mouth

-- concomitant ball massage or rectal penetration (my husband likes both, so some blow jobs get rectal penetration, some get ball massage).

-- DON'T stop when he is cumming - keep sucking/massaging don't stop until he says he had enough

@susie Thanks. I see and use the words "concomitant medication" every day at work and now I will forever think of "concomitant ball massage." Question, when you say "stroking" here: "stroking the penis while sucking and stroking the head of the penis in and out of the mouth", do you mean with the tongue or fingers? I don't even know why I'm asking. I can't imagine ever doing it again. It's been a million years. But, I'm curious.

Also, I'd like to know what women like as far as oral. I'm with @colontherapist , except that I like to also switch between having fingers inside her to reaching up and doing some nipple stimulation, but you have to be laying kind of sideways to reach her breasts sometimes.

You stroke the head and top half of the penis in your mouth and the base with your hand.

All good advice for both sexes. I like a finger in the anus when receiving head. If my wife wants me to come during a blowjob then I really can't last too long while being fingered and getting head at the same time. Wow what a great feeling this is.

If I am providing the oral delights, I like to suck and work her clit with my tongue. A little teasing seems to add to the pleasure- licking her clit and then her lips. Also tongue insertion gets good reactions and I like to lick the full length from anus to the clit which gets positive reactions. But the clincher is to insert a finger and press up and rub on the underside of her pubic bone while sucking her clit. This usually take her right up to or over the edge.

No matter what techniques you use, leave your ego and expectations at the door.

Ego: You're only the best if your partner says so.

Expectations: Just because Joe liked deep throat doesn't mean Andy will. COMMUNICATE and learn your partner's preferences. Remember and improve next time.

No matter what techniques you use, leave your ego and expectations at the door.

Ego: You're only the best if your partner says so.

Expectations: Just because Joe liked deep throat doesn't mean Andy will. COMMUNICATE and learn your partner's preferences. Remember and improve next time.

When your partner says "you're the best," that means FOR THEM, not necessarily anybody else, and they might have a reason to lie to you..

I agree totally with the rest.

Buy a bunch of bananas and practice on them first. After practice you can eat it as a nice reward!

When your partner says "you're the best," that means FOR THEM, not necessarily anybody else, and they might have a reason to lie to you...

For that situation, see part 2, Expectations. If your partner is telling you that they like it, there's no reason NOT to believe them. There's no up-side in continuing to receive bad sex.If they're non-committal; "Yea, it was fine," it's time to worry, but you have bigger problems than a blow job.

Of course, then there's http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O-8DYHjKlK0

When we young ladies put our mouth's on a guys cock and suck repeatedly until they reach orgasm. Giving a blowjob should not be looked upon as a chore, but as a pleasurable thing for both involved. Be sure to pay attention to the whole penis, not just the head. Swirl your tongue around the tip while pumping him with your fist or both, if you like. Lovingly massage his balls and always deepthroat it. Alternate your speed when sucking a cock, showing your guy that him coming in your mouth is your top priority. And when he does start to come don't stop what you're doing, suck until he's done. And always swallow with a smile.

You sound like an expert ginnie 😃. I can't say that receiving such a blowjob has been a common experience for me. "Young" ladies? "us?" (correction-"we")

I try to be the best in everything I do lol. Thankyou for the grammar correction Boston.

I echo what people are saying about communication being the most important thing. For example, ball massage is a massive turn-off for me because I have a small varicocele and massaging that makes me feel nauseous and achey. Ball stroking however is very much on the menu.

I'm also really turned on by a very gentle use of teeth around the base of the glans, but I've heard most men don't like this at all.

When we young ladies put our mouth's on a guys cock and suck repeatedly until they reach orgasm. Giving a blowjob should not be looked upon as a chore, but as a pleasurable thing for both involved. Be sure to pay attention to the whole penis, not just the head. Swirl your tongue around the tip while pumping him with your fist or both, if you like. Lovingly massage his balls and always deepthroat it. Alternate your speed when sucking a cock, showing your guy that him coming in your mouth is your top priority. And when he does start to come don't stop what you're doing, suck until he's done. And always swallow with a smile.

You sound great .. I love cumming in a girl's mouth more than in her vagina or even her ass. Would you deepthroat and swallow if your partner had just pulled out from your bum, or from a heavy period?

Jayt

Jayt is a misogynist and is crazy too. He will enjoy the large UTI he deserves by such reckless behavior.

Jayt is a misogynist and is crazy too. He will enjoy the large UTI he deserves by such reckless behavior.

I'm not sure if the high school or college kid is really a misogynist or just seems that way from inexperience or an attempt to appear cool, but he certainly lacks a degree of finesse and tact when addressing people in the forum that he doesn't know.

Practice, practice, practice! Also ask partners want they like or just listen to the noises they make at certain points to get an idea of what they really like.

Happiness is his orgasm in my mouth, it really blows my mind away and try always to not miss a single drop !

There is only one true way to do fellatio, and that's with enthusiasm. You have to love what you're doing to him, either because you love him or you love sucking cock. Loving both is best!

There is only one true way to do fellatio, and that's with enthusiasm. You have to love what you're doing to him, either because you love him or you love sucking cock. Loving both is best!

I learned so much from what my mum told me when I was still a school girl really. I did not even have a boyfriend until I met the man I would marry years later but I did know a bit about what to do. Being enthusiastic is very important, and my husband likes good rhythm too.

I get on so well with my husband's mum and we are just so much a pair of naughty girls that she too told me things that men like with oral! Hahaha

@Amethyst said

I get on so well with my husband's mum and we are just so much a pair of naughty girls that she too told me things that men like with oral! Hahaha

One of these days I intend to question my mother about how she knew enough to give such advice. 😁

Basically I learned about eating pussy from watching slit if porn and from reading magazine articles like cosmopolitan magazine. When it comes to breast it just sort of came to me naturally like instinct almost. I absolutely love nipples in my mouth. I have been told I am very good at it too.

When I was in college, I learned how to perform fellatio from a professor. Since then, I've tried to improve by asking my partners how they like it.

Did you earn the A? 😜

I clicked on the link that Jds4med provided. A wonderful song, I laughed so hard. Of course while on that site I clicked on a few others. There was one of the same girls coming home and there was an emergency scene in front of the apartment. Two of the girls were told you don't want to go up there. Apartment 3 it's not pretty! OMG that's where we live! They go racing up the stairs and into the apartment to discover the girl with the black hair was giving her boyfriend a blow job and they are stuck together. Evidently he has a piercing and I'm not sure what it was hung up on but someone said her tonsils! The other two girls got her to sing and somehow this relaxed her mouth and she let go. Watch it, it's hysterical! Then the coupe de gras! (sorry about the spelling) an old guy, Ray Jessel. 84 yrs old on america's got talent. He sang a song he wrote called the Penis Song. Here is the link and make sure you DO NOT have a full bladder or you have a dry pair of drawers close by because your going to wet yours, and YES I know that excites some of you! so enjoy the link!

The penis song, from america's got talent.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=etUKqrHaqc4

I was always told that if you enjoy your partners oral skills it is not polite to ever ask "Where did you learn to do that?" It doesn't matter where they learned it, just be thankful they had a good teacher!

OH! and on an aside note. We were talking at work one day, and the name of a co worker came up and one of the guys remarked it was the worst blow job he ever had! Another guy chimed in and said, "Gee that's funny, I never had a bad one! Some were more memorable than others but they were all good!"

PS that's it, 3 posts in a row, I promise now that I'm finished, but for God sakes! go watch the old guy with the penis song! I thought Howie Mandel was going to wet his drawers he was laughing so hard!

Listening and learning and lots of practice. I had the best girlfriend in the world when I was a kid. We listened to each other and never held anything back. That means swallowing and basking in our juices when we were done. It comes down to having good parents and other good roll models that can guide you so that we communicate all our needs and desires to our partners.

When I was a teenager a very good friend taught me everything about how to give oral to both men and to women. She was very experienced, and her advice was invaluable to me sort of starting out in a new life as it were