Ladies that don't masturbate

I’ve met women and men, who appear to be disinterested in having relationships and social interactions. I wouldn’t expect them to masturbate or even think about sex. They likely wouldn’t make good play partners.

My wife claimed she never masturbated as a teen or an adult. Once I asked her to masturbate for me and she had real difficulty with it - she was either too self conscious or really did not know where to start. Because she was always stoic in bed and unimaginative when it came to sex, I truly believe she never masturbated or had any interest in it.

I usually masturbate once or twice a day, but there are days when I can’t control myself and do it even more.

If the sex is really good, with enough foreplay and I actually orgasm, maybe I could go a whole day without masturbating.

I use my imagination and touch my body, not just one area but my nipples and ass too. I don’t watch much porn, but I combine a good scenario with some zity content and then I’m a very happy lady.

I never masturbated until recently. And I find it hurts, so I don’t really ever do it.

I’m still virgin so no comment on the sex part

Captain Caregiver, while there's no right or wrong way to masturbate, I have to wonder if you're masturbating via penetrative objects (or fingers) because that mimics penis-in-vagina sex.

That can hurt for several reasons--you're dry, your body not self-lubricating like it does on arousal; your vaginal opening is tight because you're not sexually active; you're clenched because you anticipate pain; or you still have all or part of your hymen.

While there's nothing wrong with sticking things in your vagina if it feels good (and if the thing chosen is safe, of course), that's not necessarily a path to sexual pleasure for a woman.

Can I suggest you try focusing on your clitoris, not worrying about what's happening with your vagina, the next time you feel like masturbating? It's the seat of the female orgasm, and rubbing it with the flat of your finger(s), not pressing hard, at whatever speed feels okay, may bring you pleasure or even an orgasm, and it definitely won't cause you pain.

Recommended reading: "The Vagina Bible" by Dr. Jen Gunter. It's only ten bucks and has a lot of useful information for any pre-menopausal woman.

It has been twice a day for me since I was 13. I still like it before bed and in the morning before getting the kids ready for school...

My wife claimed she never masturbated as a teen or an adult. Once I asked her to masturbate for me and she had real difficulty with it - she was either too self conscious or really did not know where to start. Because she was always stoic in bed and unimaginative when it came to sex, I truly believe she never masturbated or had any interest in it.

My wife exactly. So frustrating! I have a high libido and she has none, no interest, nothing. I, on the other hand, try to get to masturbate despite her disgust fir my doing so.

Not so much since menopause but I used to masturbate all the time. I started quite young and would do it while watching TV (Gilligan's Island in particular. Maryann. 😇🤣). Once I hit puberty it became a several times a week thing. After I had kids I was doing it less, but my first husband wasn't interested in sex as often as I wanted so I was still doing it a few times a week. Current hubby has a higher libido than I do (which isn't something that happened before) so I started doing it less as not only was he fucking me more often than I had been fucked in the past, but he was doing a better job of it so I was very satisfied. Post menopause I only do it occasionally, maybe once or twice a month, if that. We still have sex at least 2x a week and it's universally amazing. Even a bad session is better than what I used to get. Yes I'm bragging.

I have a three friends who have zero interest in sex. They have been that way for as long as I can remember too. One is married and claims she has only ever actually had sex with her husband to procreate she said 6 times total (2 kids) and they have been married over 10 years but it was an arrainged marriage so I don't know if that also has something to do with it. Another one is a 40ish year old virgin and she's completely happy single and alone. The last one is in a lavender marriage which she has been in for almost 20 years at this point.

I couldn't live without masturbating LOL. No one does me like I do me hehe.

I dated one woman twice who, at least up until we broke up the 2nd time, claimed to have never successfully masturbated to orgasm. She'd tried it once or twice, but felt awkward and did not come. She must have had some weird hang up about it. She also claimed that I was the only one who'd ever given her orgasms, which I found odd because it was easy to bring her off (always with fingers or tongue) relative to most of my other partners through the years.

My wife has no such hang ups. I love that she'll masturbate in front of me if that strikes our fancy. That doesn't happen much, though, because we both generally much prefer me getting her off versus a masturbation show. Plus, she'll thank me afterwards for her orgasm by giving me an enema with a blow job.

@Amy93 I'm with you 100%. It's a great way to end the day, and a great way to start a new day.

I actually don’t want to miss it although I am happy married. For me it feels different and I just love to close my eyes and dream. I love to get into the bed again when hubby and the kids left the house in the morning and the sheets are still warm. It is some time just for me and I really enjoy it. That said I only like it if I really have enough time, I don’t want to hurry or getting distracted. Most of my friends do it as far as I know. With some I talked about it, some avoid the sex topic. In school, so many years ago, it was a big topic between us. We had no smartphones to stare at and loved talking about things like sex. It started at school as well, long before any bf. There I got the hint to explore and find my clit and I am still thankfull to the girl who gave me that little advice! Thank you Christine, where ever you are now! One of the most exiting advices of my life!

@MelanieK It's interesting that you did not think about exploring on your own and find your clitoris. Maybe it is easier for boys to discover by accident that it feels good, since they necessarily end up touching their penis when peeing.

(On a similar note I've talked to women who said they found their own clitoris early but never had an idea to explore their vagina until they had sex.)

I enjoy masturbating but I am trying to control my sexuality and stop masturbating as much as I am able to, and am experimenting with a friend’s guidance to use experiencing pain to discourage me from touching myself. I have so far not masturbated this year.

@fillmesofull - very interesting! impressed you've gone so long without masturbating! may i ask why, and how you are controlling your urges?

Seriously, the more I think about this topic, I really don't know any of a lady in person who don't do it.

@fillmesofull, I admire your strength and willpower, wish I was more strong, that's quite an achievement ♥️

I masturbate when I'm in the mood or to get me in the mood and I do it alone or at the time I'm fucking or making love, it's just natural and there is no reason for me not to. And why not? I know how to make it work for me and it's good all by myself or if I'm being watched or just working through things in my life.

I find it hard to believe there are women today that do not masturbate or never have. Maybe those that don't masturbate were taught growing up that it was a taboo or even a sin to do so. I would think that kind of teaching, is hardly done today. Since the majority of zity members seem to be more mature, zity men reporting this is likely about more mature women that they have had experience with. Denise

@Dahiana Nice answer. Self pleasure or masturbating with a partner for mutual pleasure Is just so enjoyable and satisfying!

@Dahiana Nice answer. Self pleasure or masturbating with a partner for mutual pleasure Is just so enjoyable and satisfying!

@FunGuy I love masturbating anyway and I think I like it even more if someone is with me and watching me as I am rubbing one off. They tell me that they like to watch me when I am getting near the edge and when I finally go over and let it all go. It's natural for me to rub one off and sometimes it's not all the way but just to give me a little glow to keep me going until something more cums along. 😉

My wife started masturbating around age 50. Before that, she didn't feel the need or even the desire.

You might find this surprising, but she watched videos on porn sites to see how other women did it.

Throughout our intimate life, she had never really enjoyed digital stimulation, but she had received a lot of oral sex from me.

Now she masturbates regularly, uses dildos and plugs, without me...😕