Prostate massage

I want to get my boyfriend interested in prostate massage. I think he would have a very strong orgasm, (that's what I hear) but other than licking his anus, he doesn't seem to give me the go ahead to go inside...how do I approach this with him?

First give him a enema.turn him on to water sporst. this is a wonderfull way to spend a afternoon. then start a finger on the outside of his ah then he will more and more. ps a prostate massage is great wonderful good it is really nice.good luck

I will tell you how I got interested in it, so maybe you can get him interested in it in the same way. Of course everyone is different, but just like your boyfriend I am a straight male who was never interested in prostate massage in the past.

The thing that changed my mind is that I read that the prostate is the equivalent of a woman's g-spot. Ever since I learned this, I have desired a woman to stimulate my prostate just as much as I have always desired to stimulate her g-spot. I was never interested in receiving anal play before, but this made me realize that it is merely a way for a woman to access another area of my genitals that I was missing out on stimulating, just as I would never deprive a woman of g-spot play.

I'm sure it would help if you explain how the prostate is analogous to the g-spot. Just as a woman who goes through life without a good g-spot massage is most likely missing out on a great experience of her genitals ability to bring her an orgasm, a man who does without prostate massage is also missing out on a great deal of enjoyment of his own genitals potential to bring him pleasure. I'm sure these things take practice and do not always automatically happen the first time.

The books I read that inspired me into this way of thinking are:

Female Ejaculation by Somraj Pokras and Jeffre Talltrees- http://www.amazon.com/dp/1569756791/ref=rdr_ext_sb_ti_sims_1

Male Multiple Orgasm by Somraj Pokras-

http://www.amazon.com/Male-Multiple-Orgasm-Techniques-Guarantee/dp/1569756252/ref=pd_sim_b_24?ie=UTF8&refRID=1CNZTTMCKXC5W5E9TB1C

I bought the two books above out of curiosity, to learn ways to take sex to a new level. I already knew I had multiple orgasms once in a while, and I wanted to figure out how to master my ability to do it. I was already aware that women can ejaculate, and I wanted to learn how to help more women get in touch with their ability to do that. It was only after I read the information about the prostate that I also gained an interest in prostate massage. Perhaps you can get these books for him and just ask him what he thinks of what he has read, then ask him what he thinks about the stuff it says regarding the prostate.

I also read another book before trying any anal experience, and it made me feel more comfortable, reassured me that this sort of thing is much simpler than it seems, and explained how to make sure that it remains enjoyable, clean, and safe:

Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin

http://www.amazon.com/Anal-Pleasure-Health-Guide-Couples/dp/0940208377/ref=pd_sim_b_1?ie=UTF8&refRID=0NCPTW7YK5YY84QTDEJW

Since you are on this site and interested in this topic, I am sure you probably know everything I tell you. I just felt I would include what works best for me to get ready. That way you can help him get interested with the smoothest possible transition into the activity, since the only thing that kept me from trying it before then was that I lacked information and did not know how I was supposed to prepare myself before the activity.

Personally I think all of this is most comfortable when I have taken a shower and washed and shaved my anal area and had a few enemas until the water comes out clear and I feel everything has drained. It's worth looking up the proper way to shave that area, to avoid irritation. Normal body wash/ soap can be irritating after a shave, so I use unscented castile soap instead of body wash. As for enemas I just use water, so I connect a steel enema nozzle ( http://www.amazon.com/Cleanstream-Wide-Shower-Enema-Nozzle/dp/B007KL44PO/ref=pd_sim_hpc_3?ie=UTF8&refRID=14XYJY0XS9VW6AD1VSPQ ) to the shower hose and use extremely low, gentle water pressure that feels neither hot nor cold as it runs over the inside of my wrist. The wrong temperature and too much water pressure is supposedly very dangerous. It is also supposedly unsafe to use too much water, so once I get the water flowing just right I use a stopwatch to see how long it takes for the water to fill a 16 oz. water bottle, and after that I lube the nozzle and my anus and insert just the tip of the nozzle for the amount of time it took it to fill one water bottle, then expel on the toilet, then go back to the shower and fill up for the amount of time it takes to fill between 2 and 4 water bottles, depending on comfort, hold it in a few minutes, expel on the toilet, and do it again until all the water comes out clear. I figured I would add this info on enemas because if he has never done prostate massage he has probably never done enemas.

By the way, I always use a KY water based lube that does not contain glycerin. I think the lube is necessary for the enjoyment of the massage, and lube is most likely far more convenient and comfortable than if you just lick your finger.

Thank you for the advice...the thought of him taking an enema is very exciting, but I think it might be out of the question right now....in his mind anyways 😃

You're welcome- And I can see how it makes sense that someone who might have reservations about prostate massage might be even more opposed to receiving enemas. On the other hand, though, the whole reason why someone may be reluctant to try anal play is because they think it is dirty. Enemas tend to make sure that it will be clean, as long as a person takes enough time to make sure there is nothing left to flush out of themselves from the enema before they move on to the other sexual activities.

Anyway that is how I first became interested in both prostate massage and enemas at the same time. I knew I wanted to be as clean as possible if a woman is going to do anything with my ass, just as I have always assumed a woman would take enemas so she would be as clean as possible if she wanted me to do anything with her ass. And it is so much more fun for both people when they know they can relax and enjoy it because it is totally clean.

Hey, ocrosebud, it seems you have been given some good advice regarding prostate massage and anal play. It may be advantageous if you are fairly experienced with enemas, as well. If he knows or sees that you use an enema prior to him engaging in anal stimulation with you, he might become less inhibited and become willing to take a turn.

One advantage many of us older guys have, is that we have likely had our share of enemas, DRE's, and prostate exams. In time, many of us got past the embarrassment and discovered just how much more stimulation occurs with a little attention to the "P" spot.

While many of us have become very fond of larger enemas and different solutions, I would suggest that you start small and with nothing more than some warm tap water. Once one learns to manage smaller enemas, and becomes more accustomed to the sensations, Move on to something else.

Wow, my dream girl. I always feel like it's the other way around in my life. Please finger me or use a strapon on my ass - I'm always begging for it. The orgasm is so much more intense for me. Maybe try finding some porno with a good prostate massage and an intense orgasm and watch it with him. It's hard sometimes but you just need to ask and hopefully he will oblige.

Wow i could only dream of having a girlfriend like you …Do it, go slow at first then proceed…HE WILL GO CRAZY…….

Since your BF is okay with you rimming his anus, you are 95% of the way there. I would get him worked up to the point where he's not going to say no to anything, bring out a tube of lubricant and say, "baby, trust me, I'm going to give you the best orgasm of your life". Stopping the bus at this point is not a reasonable option for most of us guys.

Guys are simple, you have the whole world in your hands, as the saying goes. Be gentle, start slowly, be sexy, make it fun. Timing is everything. Play it right and he will be begging you to do whatever you want!

Keep us informed of your progress……love to know…….

In regards to this discussion, prostate massage is a healthy procedure. It is also recommended to ejaculate at least 20 times a month to maintain a healthy prostate.

Guys are easy to convince when it comes to sex. But a little background information / discussion will go a long way before getting into bed. First get a sense of how open he is to prostate stimulation generally. If he is willing to try it, then you just have to use the right techniques to ensure it is a first pleasurable experience. If he has issues with or any negative preconceptions about any kind of anal penetration on him, find out the underlying concern or fear, e.g., play will be dirty smelly; anal penetration equates to a latent homosexual desire; it's going to hurt or not be pleasurable. In any case, find out why he doesn't want to do it.

Once you address these or other issues and can overcome the fear / objections then it's up to you to go slow and make it a pleasurable experience. If you combine prostate massage with oral sex or a handjob, I can pretty much say with certainty that he will want to do it again and again and again- he will be hooked.

Prostate massage is not for everyone. You may think he will enjoy it and have better orgasm, but that might not be the case.

I once tried it and had absolutely no pleasure from it. No sensation. Not to mention am otherwise very sensitive on my penis and balls and enjoy stimulation there.

Prostate massage is not for everyone. You may think he will enjoy it and have better orgasm, but that might not be the case.

I once tried it and had absolutely no pleasure from it. No sensation. Not to mention am otherwise very sensitive on my penis and balls and enjoy stimulation there.

Your wiring (and that of a few others here) is either defective or needs a better technician. 😁 😁 😁

I have to say ive tried prostate massage and i didnt feel that much from , maybe she wasnt doing it right or my prostate is behind my ears

Had it done yesterday and it was great!

Had it done yesterday and it was great!

On your own? Did someone do it for you?

I totally enjoy a prostate massage. Would like to find others around Atlanta.

Thanks,

Dave

Get him to clean out thoroughly and tell him you want to really take some time playing with his ass. As you get him aroused, lubricate your finger and slowly touch his anus and rotate around it. If he starts to show he is liking it, then hold your finger on his anus and see if he tries to push your finger deeper into his ass. If he does, then slowly tease him and as you insert your finger deeper and he tries to push your finger in, pull back slightly and then slowly push it in a little deeper. Eventually he will be begging you to slide it in him and at that point slowly work it in, then try 2 fingers. Once you have them deeply inserted start massaging his prostate and you will have him begging for more. Remember to gently massage his prostate since being too rough could case problem. Rub it as if you were rubbing your eye. Gently and in circles. Who knows... He might want you to slowly work your fist in eventually and talk about a full blown orgasmic state. Whew!!

Reading Morin's book years ago put me at ease regarding all things anal.

Anal Pleasure and Health (Morin) is good, as is The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure (Glickman) and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women (Taormino).

A prostate massage is done with a lubed finger and glove and gently inserted. Once in, you either feel the prostate right away or have to wait for it to drop lower (that happens when the person gets more aroused) you gently press with circular motion , round and round, and the closer to climax, the prostate lands on your finger(s) and you continue till completion.

Quite a few years ago my then partner suggested we try a prostate massage. This was before the days of the internet so all of our learning came from a book. Either the book was not that well written or in our eagerness we missed something

The rubber glove went on, he was lubed up and I went in and up, yes I found it but I am afraid I hit it with quite a bit of gusto. First time I ever saw a man ever try to climb a ceiling fan.

I found it but I am afraid I hit it with quite a bit of gusto. First time I ever saw a man ever try to climb a ceiling fan.

Tillie, you made my day.

There is a wide range of pressures men seem to like with prostate massages.

My husband likes pretty firm pressure and rapid stroking.

yes I found it but I am afraid I hit it with quite a bit of gusto. First time I ever saw a man ever try to climb a ceiling fan.

If a guy has prostatitis and you hit the prostate with any force you'll watch him try to vault Mount Denali. Been there.

I'm interested whether it is possible to have an orgasm this way.

For me it feels good but I need some stimulation of the penis.

Depending on the pressing I feel like an urge to pee, which is distracting.

For me it feels good but I need some stimulation of the penis.

So do the vast majority of the "hands free" guys, especially the older ones.

I'm interested whether it is possible to have an orgasm this way.

You can force ejaculation without an orgasm. You won't shoot just make a slow steady stream, not much fun.

For me it feels good but I need some stimulation of the penis.

So do the vast majority of the "hands free" guys, especially the older ones.

Sometimes even "that" doesn't help!

You can force "ejaculation" without an orgasm. It's an interesting feeling but not hugely erotic. You can also trigger an orgasm from the anal/prostate/whatever else is up there stimulation, and THAT is a whole lot more fun. I don't know if it counts as "help" to the point where it renders it non-hands-free, but I usually have to have some foreplay to lead up to it.