[quote author=2ndEnasmuel link=topic=7913.msg330063#msg330063 date=1294238559]
Interesting...
I just had the situation of almost parting from my girlfriend because there was not much going on in our sexual life...
...to be explicit, there was no sex at all for about two or three weeks and it was very hard for me.
on some occasion she´s really up to try out some kinky stuff but that happened ones or twice in a month...
So we settled for two sundays in a month that will be completely devoted to try out kinky stuff of all kinds, in the mean time we go for vanilla...
Its not perfect but I am collecting my Ideas until the great day to try them out all at once...
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Okay, I am going to say this and please do not take it the wrong way. I am just giving you some friendly advice from on old battle ax.
First of all, consider yourself VERY lucky that your girlfriend is even willing to try out other things besides vanilla sex in the first place. That fact alone puts you way ahead of most others here.
Secondly, you said that you almost broke up with her because she wouldn't give you any sex for 2 or 3 weeks. Well, if you are willing to break up with her over lack of sex for that SHORT of a period, then you have more serious issues to deal with than bringing in a third party my friend.
Again, you don't realize how lucky you are. Do you know that on average, after the first year in a relationship, most couples on average only have sex about 4-6 times a year? So again, you not getting any for a few weeks, you are still more fortunate than most, count your blessings my friend.
If you love her and you think she is worth whatever you feel is important, then turn your hand upside down when you "take care of business" so it will feel like she's doing it, if not, get out now and run like hell. Having to make personal sacrafices, meaning ones that are deeply important to who you are as a person to try to make a relationship work, this early on in one isn't a good sign, trust me here.
Hope this helps, and good luck.