Are your fetishes dangerous?

I was pondering this the other day and realize that some of the things that would turn me on, really are not that safe. What do you do when you really want to play something out that could be dangerous?

I'm not talking about doing anything illegal, but say you get turned on by alcohol enemas, or some type of cutting, or bladder invasion or something. Not saying those are my cup o tea, but I'm just curious how you go about handling that. How can you get yourself to stop being so turned on by it?

I saw a post that asked if you are happy about having your particular fetish or not. And me, I'm definitely not happy about it. I wish I could be satisfied by just the 'normal' socially acceptable types of sex/play. I am sooooo grateful to have found this site so that I don't feel like such a freak anymore, but still, life would be so much easier if I could be happy with the 'regular' sex in my 'regular' relationship.

Just wondering what your thoughts are on this. Do you crave something dangerous? How do you handle it?

You know you have a problem when you LOCK yourself up (in a riske outfit) and then forget where you hid the keys - Oh and oopps you are in public place and the sun is coming up and people are stirring and where are you going to hide and then reality sets in that you can't escape because you screwed up royally.

Then the scenario of doing something medically dangerous forgetting the 'what-if' factor and explaining to the medical technician while he pulls this larger than life object out of your ass. Well relax he no doubt has seen more than he would care to comment on and you most certainly will be the topic of discussion at the next coffee break.

Well how do you get yourself to stop - if your imagination can't get you to the point where you understand the situation with all its consequences i.e. law violations and neighborly embarrassment you most certainly deserve what you have set up for yourself. But then maybe thinking is not part of your being turned on - so go figure !

Or in other words maybe "If it feels good - just maybe I should not be doing this -and- get caught" !

As someone who is into enemas using a long colon tube, estim, and some other more invasive forms of medplay I must just say use common sense.

If it feels good that dosn't say it is not dangerous.

If you just feel you must try something research it first and know what you should not do.

And always have someone else there to ring the alarm bells if something does go wrong.

Yes that is true. I suppose just about anything can be done safely if at least one partner has experience. Just have to keep in mind what things I might not want to have to explain to a real doctor should things go wrong!

As someone who is into enemas using a long colon tube, estim, and some other more invasive forms of medplay I must just say use common sense.

If it feels good that dosn't say it is not dangerous.

If you just feel you must try something research it first and know what you should not do.

And always have someone else there to ring the alarm bells if something does go wrong.

If you are questioning your safety, the expertise of the person you are playing with, your gut intuition says no, others are telling you no that do know what they are talking about, if the risk for something going wrong and causing great injury and serious complications, potentially deadly is a possibility, then it may be something you should not be doing. I definitely agree with jansatin.

Yes, some will argue their is risk with everything, that we don't get out of this life without dying. Both statements are true. Doing something because it may feel goo or their is an interest in it where the risks are to high is stupid, irresponsible, irrational.

...Just my humble opinion...

Play safe, sane and consensual.

Intomesee to me medfet is about play, sensation and fun. If you are questioning the safety of medfet play then one would have to consider the justification about having the procedure performed. You must consider that even experienced medical personnel make mistakes and usually have the resources readily and on hand to correct these. Playdocs have limited experience dealing with emergency situation and are not equipped to do so, even if they have medical training there's a lot that still can go wrong.

As Andie stated "Doing something because it may feel good or their is an interest in it where the risks are to high is stupid, irresponsible, irrational" and that's the best advise to follow.

So if your gut tells you to say no, then I would follow it, as intuition is never wrong in my experience.

@RN1993,

I would also add in addition to experienced medical personnel that they should practice within their training and not go out of it unless they are the only possible option such as in a life threatening emergency. As an example, my GP will not do an endometrial biopsy on me. He knows how to do it. He sends me to my GYN to do it. He knows how to do medrol intercostal injections against the sternum, though he sends me to my orthopaedic surgeon to do them. My orthopaedic surgeon has a PA who is VERY skilled, VERY well trained. He does all sorts of injections into joints. He knows how to do the intercostal injections. He won't do them at all. He has my surgeon do them.

@ intomesee, per some of our chats, ER physicians and General Surgeons are very well trained in countless things. However, that does not mean I want one to take care of me or perform a procedure on me when there is the option for another physician/surgeon who specializes in what I need done to care for me. I also would not have an ER physician or General Surgeon perform a procedure with risk on me just to satisfy a kink/fet interest. I wish I had seen your post on this when we were chatting about it.

Being into enemas myself, there is nothing dangerous that I know of with enemas. The problem arises when you go to using "extreme" solutions, such as hot water, strong caustic soap, or some other strong solution in the enema water

I think, in general, it is not the fetish itself that might be dangerous, but what people make of it. There are many ways to harm yourself, even with seemingly harmless things. In my case it is enemas. When you are careful and know what you are doing, it even benefits your health. But it *is* possible to harm and even kill yourself with an enema.

Like with almost everything, one should always be careful.

@Curly66 there are a number of risks associated with enemas, they can cause rupture, tearing or cause internal bleeding of the colon as well as fatal infections (fecal peritonitis). In addition they may result in fluid overload, bowel irritation, loss of muscle tone of the bowel and anal sphincter or an ileus. The enema tube and solution may stimulate the vagus nerve, which triggers an arrhythmia such as bradycardia.( slow heart rate ).

However as you have correctly stated its the use of " extremes" which puts you at risk.

Some of mine seem dangerous to me, like small surgery to just open up my abdomen and see my insides and then closing me up again, nothing major actually being changed except for the sutures. Also possible cutting or needle play seems dangerous as well depending on where it goes.

I have a fantasy of being given a drug to make me drowsy, then being examined and maybe even the doctor mounting me. I have only told one person r/l about it and this is only the second time I've talked about it anywhere. I'm not sure I would ever play it out. If I did, it would have to be with someone I knew and trusted really well and who knew what he was doing ie. a real doctor. Sometimes, fantasies are best left in our imaginations.

My original medfet was the black beauty anesthesia mask, and that hasn't entirely gone. I would never be tempted to look into procuring said equipment, though, and using it on a girl. You'd likely need a doctorate to do that safely. If I were an actual doctor, I might feel differently, but I might not. Planning anesthesia is a drawn out, mathematical process. I don't need that responsibiity.

My only other major medfet is to see a female patient wear a mask to protect herself medically. A few weeks ago, I came across a photo of a girl of maybe 18 or 19 who had been diagnosed with a peanut allergy, and had to wear a mask for a flight on an airplane. Short Filipina girl in shorts and a gray University of Texas hoodie. She was sitting in her seat. A huge empty white bag was at her side. She was holding a gray silicone 3M respirator (with pink pancake filters on the sides) on her mouth and nose and looking at he camera.

I'm not sure how heavy those are to wear, and I'm not sure it's safe for her to doze off with such a mask strapped to her mouth. Those are made more for industrial purposes than medical issues, though they are obviously used for that as well.

No, none of mine are dangerous per se, except for unusual reactions or extreme versions of my kinks. For enemas, the dangers have been well-described in this thread including dangerous solutions and possibly overly long retentions. I must be doing something right as I've never had any health problems or near-misses after 50+ years of taking them. Among my other known kinks including anal play, rubber, sneakers, D/s and bondage, about the only serious situation might be serious overheating or dehydration during prolonged rubber enclosure or use of some other extreme version of one of them. Like with enemas, no problems so far, fingers crossed.

HFAPS,

Eric

Excluding paraphilias that are illegal in and of themselves.

I Like to define a difference between a fetish and a paraphilia as dx'ed. for example you hear a lot of psychiatrists say that anxiety diagnosable if it causes bigger problems in your life

Everybody has anxiety.

If you are not losing jobs, marriages or wrecking your car, passing out in grocery stores, etc… then you don't have anxiety problem.

That being said like for example my fetish with ball busting and pain is not a big deal it isn't a paraphilia because I haven't torn up my balls and I'm not hurt anybody else without consent. I'm not obsessed with it going out beating up guy's balls in the middle of night.

Other hand my fetish with feet socks and shoes could be considered cuz I've been stealing socks and shoes since I was a kid . Almost can't go to the gym or the pool anymore cuz I'll take a while. You can my story in my library about stealing socks and shoes and some of the things that I have. Grab a sniff here or there I've been so damn lucky I've heard been caught I don't want to get dx'ed. .

I'm really lucky I am into older men so the few times I did get caught it worked out

My fetishes are shaping around stethoscopes and auscultation. Since they are not somewhat invasive, I think that they are not dangerous at all. İf my fetishes were shaping around anesthesia, needles or enema, they may be dangerous. I'm not at all judging those fetishes or people who has got those fetishes. I may also have them or if I had them, I'd easily accept them. But I'm in no way a health employee so, because of that, I prefer to avoid dangerous fetishes in order to not giving harm to myself or other peoples.

I have heard people doing dumb things with several of these fetishes. I think common sense goes a long way and always safety first in a kinky play type situation. I wouldn't want to take someone to the ER and then explain why their colon is ruptured or inflamed. Know when to stop.

Do you crave something dangerous? How do you handle it?

I kind of handle my kinky side like I do regular life…with some common sense and caution. That being said I do dabble in breath play and I cath my sub. Both can be dangerous if not done right.

I watch my sub very carefully when we do breath play. I monitor how he is feeling and his urine content when he is cathed. I ask “Is he in distress? Is he over stressed, acting very concerned, ect.”

I do not wish to harm him so would prefer to err on the safe side than try to explain to EMTs what happened. It may shorten our play time but then we are both still safe.

Credit card fetish is the most dangerous lol

Credit card fetish is the most dangerous lol

More so if the fetish is one of shoving them up one's butt…. 😂 🤣 sorry, couldn't resist and made myself laugh…

Doing things that are potentially dangerous is pretty common - motorcycle racing, driving fast, sky diving, wing flying, extreme sports etc. Certain people thrive on the rush they receive doing those things. I think for those it's natural to carry that craving over into fetish life where you push the safety envelope. When you're playing with someone else you must assume responsibilty for any potential adverse outcomes. Susie and her circle of friends engage in some pretty extreme activities, but with plenty of planning and safety measures in place.

No

Why you may ask ?

Because firstly I know what I'm doing….Secondly I consider myself well informed….mostly though acquired knowledge spanning decades.

And lastly I had a bloody good teacher…which now reads teachers….I'm sure one can figure what the last one might mean.

Evolution over time

Physically or mentally dangerous?

Medical professionals warn against a couple of things I like, but I think they have to. I play safely and cautiously, so don't feel I'm in danger. Mentally, I suppose medfet can be dangerous (as any obsession can be) if it takes over 24/7 … but it doesn't. It's a small part of who I am and what I do.

@gwhap Doing things that are potentially dangerous is pretty common - motorcycle racing, driving fast, sky diving, wing flying, extreme sports etc…

Made me think of all the dumb things I did when young…. just wasn't thinking - lucky to still be alive..

Invading your bladder is a very dangerous thing to do. People who use catheters are setting themselves up for a serious infection. Urologists always give a patient antibiotics .

Made me think of all the dump things I did when young…. just wasn't thinking - lucky to still be alive..

@reddevil Makes me miss all the crazy things I used to do - wish I could do them again!

Invading your bladder is a very dangerous thing to do. People who use catheters are setting themselves up for a serious infection. Urologists always give a patient antibiotics .

It's a very common thing when you are in the hospital or have a bladder problem (retention issue or leakage). Our urology office gives my wife one Cipro tablet at her monthly Cath change out. Lots of people do self cauterizations without antibiotics. Some for the fetish, some do it for medical reasons.

There's some stuff I'm into that I worry may affect my vanilla side. Nothing bad's happened yet, I think. Kind of sliding deeper into medfet and hoping it doesn't take over, if ya'll get what I mean.

Catheter infections are very real and very dangerous, as are injection. Essentially any invasive procedure always has inherent risks, and in the medical profession we always ask does the risk outweigh the benefits? Even a simple IM injection can go terribly wrong, things we do everyday always have a potential for harm.

https://www.cdc.gov/hai/ca_uti/uti.html

Of course they are. If you MedFet beyond auscultation you’re engaging in dangerous behavior- which is why you need to be very careful in choosing a partner.