I've found this “short window” experience out with my sub, and this is now without the enema or any other stimulus (they seem to not excite him as they once did). That time limit ticks through my head as we are attempting sex. Greatly distracting me from much enjoyment.
Frustrating as hell for both of us.
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I've found that I have lowered my expectations. If it happens fine, if not my goal is to produce multiple orgasms through other means including an enema with some wand included.
Rule #1 is : “It sucks to get old” but it's still better than the alternative! There is more than one way to skin a cat!
I'm not telling tales out of school and I have asked @Cedar if I can post this, but 🌹‘suck’🌹 is the operative word here as I have observed @Lora_C some time ago with EB 🌹 Both he and she were acutely aware of his limitation set upon him by his diabetes and they both worked through those limitations and times by her putting his cock where her mouth was. 🌹🌹🌹 They were magnificent to watch and observe at how they each would either compliment each other or compensate with each other as they sought to bring sexual gratification to the other. At some point in time or through their friendship and sexual desire she developed a philosophy of being solely responsible for ‘getting hers’ as he was for ‘getting his’. I heard from Lora more than once that her main thing was that he was there in whatever capacity when ‘she got hers’ just so she was with him when she had her orgasm.
They would use toys, fingers, tongues, their minds and their imaginations to bring each other off and it was beautiful and 😈 hawt 😈 to see the pair of them fuck. 🌹 I have taken those lessons I saw and learned from and taken them to mine and EB's own sexual encounters. I love fucking this man 🌹EB🌹 very much but we do have to communicate with each other and be ever aware that there are indeed those ‘short windows’ and they are very real and they can and are frustrating for both of us if we let them be so. But he and I communicate honestly with each other and he is very frustrated that he can't just get a ‘diamond cutter’ 😉 have a go on a whim and that it was no small matter between he and his wife. He tells me that the frustration and the FTP, failure to perform, snowballed and hit his confidence considerably and the consequences just piled up. He can and probably has written of this far better and with more insight that I have.
I knew of EB's limitations long before he and I became sexually involved and I've also had long conversations with @gibby whose own experience closely resemble yours. She and I both learned a lot about fucking men with diabetes from Lora. 🌹🌹🌹 And the conversations and reaffirmations about what we can realistically expect from each other as to EB and myself, are usually after I have ‘got mine’ and I have the taste of his ejaculate on my tongue while we are both naked and sometimes having an enema together. There is so much to be said about Lora's philosophy and practice of wanting EB to be there when she got hers by whatever means, a toy, fingers, or his cock 🌹. Her main or only requirement is that he be there as she got hers.
In so many ways, as women, we only have ‘to be there’ for the male to attain sexual gratification but as I more closely examined when I wrote a post in a topic started by @sirensong ‘A DICK FOR A DAY’, the mechanics of getting and maintaining an erection are not so simple. To EB's everlasting credit, he has had the courage to speak with me about this and even forewarned me about becoming sexually involved with him because of his diabetes and that he could not guarantee a ‘home run’. Lora had told him he only had to bring the bat and balls and they would make up their own game. 🌹🌹🌹 😁 😁 😁 🌹🌹🌹
EB also said that he should have picked his ancestors more carefully because there was diabetes in the family history but that he didn't do himself any favours either by delaying going to the doctor or some such excuse as men are prone to give. Lora told me she was on ‘EB’s ass' just to get him to have a colonoscopy, a subject that irked her to no end. @Night_Pilot has at least paid some attention to what has posted and knows that one day he may have some FTP issues of his own when age sets in as it always does. No matter. ❤️ I'm going to fuck his wheels off well into our 100's with what I'm learning now. ❤️ So let him have his headache, I'm still going to get mine and he's going to be there when I do. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️