Dominant Women

I don't really "get" me. I had a good family life. I have no latent desire to be with my mother in the "biblical" sense. But I have this love-hate relationship with strong female figures. Really bossy women annoy me to no end, yet there is this part of me who wants to be dominated by them. Kind of like a boss who rides you all the time. I know that I don't want to be a traditional sub. Like, I wanna be a man and go toe to toe and maybe even dominate her sometimes. But I also want her to grab me by the collar and spank my ass when I need it. Idk if that makes sense at all.

Makes perfect sense here. What you are saying is you want to be able to switch roles with your partner. I get that feeling to sometimes. Though I prefer the submissive role I have been a master/daddy before and it's so fun. I understand where you are coming from and I hope you find a woman that can help you out with that.

There are tens of millions of people who love to get strapped into a fast moving roller coaster to get he rush of pleasure they receive as their brain. Is responding to radical drops that make them feel like they are falling to their death. Likewise we can find ways to trigger strong releases of brain chemicals through books, movies, video games, without having to risk really being in dange

An endorphin surge in response to pain can be quite pleasurable. Likewise nor epinephrine can feel good after releasing due to fear. There is likely a biological reason for why we are drawn to some things others are not. We can't discount your or my trick to experience the pleasures that com to each of us in our peculiar way.

I feel the same way. A dominant woman is both an annoyance and a turn on to me. I have found that different parts of me want to be "Sub" and other parts want to be "Dom". I like to be completely in charge of my work and my money, but I let my girlfriend make most the decisions about our home and the time we spend together. I also have a deep seated need to be spanked at times , she fulfills my need whenever I ask her and she does it incredibly well.

We have a great life together by sharing "power" and each of us "dominate" in our own ways.

I am a "normal" person until I start to get horny. After a prolonged session of tease and denial, I will do practically anything to be allowed to have an orgasm. The hornier I get, the more submissive I get. that's when I need a dominant woman to enslave me and give me pain/pleasure until I can't stand it anymore and am allowed an orgasm and then made to clean it all up with my tongue. I am cuckold to my beautiful wife/Mistress and have to do "cleanup: on her and her lovers when required. Is there anyone else out there that feels this way? thanks, cuck tom.

Well the Kubler Ross Model Of Grief is a perfect example here, it is usually portrayed while undergoing mourning, the grief of loosing someone. but almost everybody goes to it when they discover a major fetish like those (like Diaper loving, regressing, and most commonly bondage (BDSM)

First you go through Denial "no! i will not be like this" not accepting that you are different in a way, this is by far the longest step, and it can last years, if not decades for some. but rarely it happens within days or months

Next is Anger, "I won't be like this" it usually lasts a short time, loathing of yourself, hating your brain for not being as you want it to be, not everyone it seems goes through this face though

There after is Bargaining, "okay! i might be this way, but i won't be like the others!" most likely what you are facing, you might find your way and not be like others. But you still like to be tied up/spank still, what is the difference then?

After that there is Depression, "i guess i have to be like that" Realizing that you are this way and there is no changing it, (some stray away and get 'fixed' along the way) you try to minimize the activity, not really wanting it anymore, but still finding the enormous pleasure that goes with it.

Finally there is Acceptance, "it is just better to be this way" you finally accept it and the real fun begins, with no set backs, just pure pleasure... not meaning you can't be humiliated anymore.....

I woud love a dominant woman to abuse me. Well I can at least dream.

I have married for 30yrs small wife younger somewhat dominate woman no hitting or hurting.Due to being a diabetic have been in diapers for along time so can,t really be dom.

My ideal dominant woman is a beautiful but strict nurse who makes me drop trousers, pull down pants and bend over for painful injections in my vulnerable bare bottom.

Having a truly dominant woman especially one who likes total command is a very good thing. would love a dominant mommy who would keep me in diapers forever and keep me as her little sissybaby.but hard to find a women who would truly do this to bad as we would be totally loyal to them and isnt that what dominant woman want anyway

In order to survive any dependent man needs a dominant woman.

I think I'm like a lot of the people here, bossy women can irritate me but my irritation is quickly overtaken by my submission. The fact is I am in awe of dominant women. I melt in their presence. The more dominant, the more I melt. Dominant women know they are dominant and they know that submissives like to bask in their glow.

Exactly...

I believe there is a fine line between a woman being Dominant and being just bitchy or bossy. My Mistress was definitely Dominant but was never bitchy or bossy to anyone. Everyone thought she was the kindest, warmest, down-to-earth person they ever met. I do not believe any one she met ever disliked her. However, when you told me to drop, I dropped. When she asked other people to do things, they would just do them. I'm not even sure they knew why they were doing it except she told them to do so.

I know this may seem like I'm mincing words but like I said, I believe there is a fine line. I would never be submissive to some one who is just bitchy or bossy all the time. I have met those women and I never felt submissive around them. In fact, I was just the opposite. I have a very sharp, very quick, very sarcastic wit and will use it in the blink of an eye. I have met the “Dommes” who must always be right, always have the last word. Not going to happen with me.

So, you have to ask… “Who makes the female Dominant; Her or You?”

I like a dominant woman in the bedroom who can also be submissive. As long as the sexual chemistry is good I am happy with either, but I do love being submissive to a naughty minded dom woman.

As far as relationships and like that I am gay and I don't care for women but if there's a truly dominant woman or dominantatrix I like them but it's purely for BDSM not sex had a couple ladies that used to come beat me up and bust my balls we never really actually sex or anything. They took me out and I field one day meanly stripped me they would kick me. In th balls. Say spread you legs and they both hit my balls crack handle them they used riding crops inner thighs hurt hel again there was never in sex it was him number neither of us wanted sex with the other sex they were both lesbians

I've been dominated by females all my life and I wouldn't have it any other way.

In my experience its much more likely that a dominate woman will be willing to change my diapers and rubber pants, than a submissive lady. My mother was both loving and dominate and put up with diapering me every night until I was 17. My fiance loves me and diapers me all the time, in fact she won't allow me to diaper myself at all, which is just fine for me. She decides when I'm changed, which diapers I wear, what colors, how to dress, where we go when we go out, when I should be changed when we are out and about and where she will change me-in our car, a public restroom, behind a bush, whatever. She lets me nurse from her but always is the one who decides when I can nurse, when we can have sex, when I can cum, when I can lick her pussy, when I can just kiss her. I love to have her in charge.

I don't really "get" me. (...) But I have this love-hate relationship with strong female figures. Really bossy women annoy me to no end, yet there is this part of me who wants to be dominated by them. (...) I know that I don't want to be a traditional sub. Like, I wanna be a man and go toe to toe and maybe even dominate her sometimes. But I also want her to grab me by the collar and spank my ass when I need it. Idk if that makes sense at all.

What you write makes sense and there is no need to look for problems in it. You are a mentally strong man, but you sometimes want to learn a lesson from a woman. In Greek mythology, Hercules, the quintessential man, had to submit to the domination of the Ophale woman. The woman took the role of a man, a man of a woman. This myth shows that even a strong man needs such an experience.

My wife owned the pussy, she pretty much got anything she wanted. Sort of a form of domination! 😡

Gwhap has it exactly right. The pussy has caused wars, dominates lots of men, and can be in itself a weapon of sorts.

We love it, they have it. Should we expect the ladies to never take advantage of that fact of life?

I was never in my life, dominated by a woman. I actually would really love to try it and have a woman take over and force me to do what she wanted. It actually is somewhat of a fantasy of mine!

I love women who are dominant in a schoolmistress-like way.

I love women who are dominant in a schoolmistress-like way.

I would agree, but up to a certain limit. Their behavior usually characterizes itself in strict norms for behavior and comportment. And that can be great fun sexually.

But when it comes to actual factual knowledge and knowing what motivates people, they are hopeless. Fixed and set minds, unyielding in changing their opinions and quick to be disparaging of others. In real life, that is not fun.

I love women who are dominant in a schoolmistress-like way.

Such a woman evokes mixed feelings. On the one hand, he has power over the "disciple". On the other hand, students often fall in love with their teachers.

I would fall in love with the lady teachers who spanked me.

@Andrew_Finklehouse I love women who are dominant in a schoolmistress-like way.

Oh yes! Something about a dominant women that is exciting. Especially knowing that she wants to punish me!

This thread kind of goes hand-in-hand with the SPH = small penis humiliation thread https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=399525 Okay, couldn't resist cheesy pun, but the two threads do relate in a way.

Unlike the OP, I don't want a dominate woman to boss me around or "ride me" in an annoying way during normal day to day life. However, a dominate woman who knows what she wants and how to get it during sex is a real turn on. It's nice to not have to take the lead every now and then, and just enjoy the ride. Usually I'm the one who initiates sex, determines the positions, and sets the pace. Not having to think about all that and just focus on the feelings while she positions me how she wants me is fabulous sometimes.

But what really turns me on is a dominate woman in the medical field. Not a cold, bossy bitch, but a female doctor or nurse who has no problems giving me directions and instructions. During exams, I love hearing the words and phrases used to give instructions or directions. How to undress, how to position my body, even how to breathe, and of course when to turn my head and cough. Some doctors and assistants seem timid or even slightly embarrassed when they tell you to expose yourself or that they are about to give you an intimate exam. Some don't even give you instructions, they just tell you what they are about to do and wait for you to figure it out and comply. I've had exams where I'm told, "time for your hernia exam". They then just wait on their stool for me to stand in front of them and drop my pants. I want to be told exactly what to do and how to do it. I love thinking back on the memory of the words used and the emotions they elicit.

However, a dominate woman who knows what she wants and how to get it during sex is a real turn on.

Oh so true and I believe in sexless marriages (like mine) that a big reason why it's sexless. Not really blaming my spouse - it's simply a case of where each wants the other to dominate.