How many STRAIGHT men would spank or be spanked by another man?

I am straight. Spanking is my fetish but it's not a sexual thing for me. It's about the chemistry between me and my punisher. When I am punished, it's a formal serious occasion. What matters is the credibility and authority of the person dealing with me - I have to believe in their power and take them seriously - and their ability to administer a serious thrashing that will hurt. So I don't care about the sex of the person who will be disciplining me, and the reality is that they are normally male.

When arranging a meeting with someone new, I do like to talk to them a fair bit first to understand what they are looking for out of a session and if I get any hint of them wanting a sexual element to a session then it doesn't go any further.

And the reality is, if it's a proper serious beating, my focus is on managing the pain and not thinking about the sex of the person who is administering it.

Having said that, there is a sense of awkwardness and discomfort being exposed to another male, but I'm not sure it would be that different if it was a woman in the same circumstances.

My high school friend Max admitted to me that he'd fantasized about it. We lost touch after college so I don't know what ever came of it.

I’m a married man in my early 40s with young kids, and I haven’t been paddled by another person since sixth grade, when my dad last paddled. I have paddled myself at times as an adult, but that isn’t really what I find myself craving.

What I keep coming back to is the idea of finding an older man, not necessarily my dad’s age of 75, but old enough to genuinely feel like a father or mentor figure, and being completely honest with him about where I’m falling short. Stress, financial mistakes, things I’ve hidden from my spouse, poor decisions, responsibilities I haven’t handled the way I should, all of it. I don’t want somebody who just tells me everything is fine. I want accountability, correction, and ultimately restoration.

The religious aspect could be part of it, and prayer would honestly mean a lot to me, but it wouldn’t absolutely have to be. What matters most is the seriousness and the sense that I’m placing myself under the accountability of someone older and trusted, letting him hear everything and then lead what happens next.

If he believed a paddling should be part of that, I would want it to resemble what I knew growing up. My dad used a longer, thinner paddle, and the routine was always very structured: pants and underwear down, bend over, hands placed on the back of the toilet tank, look straight ahead, and Dad would paddle. There was vulnerability and embarrassment in that, but also a very clear sense that something was being confronted and brought to an end.

As an adult, I think that same combination of honesty, vulnerability, correction, accountability, and closure is what I’m looking for. I wouldn’t want to dictate that a paddling had to happen every time. In fact, part of what appeals to me is trusting the other person enough to let him decide after we’ve talked through everything whether it’s warranted.

I’m curious whether any other straight, married men have ever felt something similar, especially men carrying the pressures of marriage, kids, work, finances, and things they may not be proud of. Not as a sexual thing, but as a genuine desire to be held accountable by another man, let your guard down completely, face what you’ve done, and come out the other side feeling like it has actually been dealt with.

I'm straight but have thought about getting a disciplinary spanking by another guy, especially one in a "dad" role. I think I might even find it erotic, paradoxically if it wasn't overtly sexual in tone.

I am straight, but spanking are something that I have no interest in either from a male or female.