Subtle Public Humiliation

What are some ideas for subtle public humiliation? My mistress has made me go out to stores barefoot. I have definitely gotten some weird looks. We want to take it to the next level, without involving the public.

May I suggest trying out a somewhat-discreet collar while out and about in public? Speaking of going shopping, my Mistress had me purchase a new butt plug and a few pairs of panties from a local Female owned adult store early on in the relationship. It was a little intimidating to be ordered to do that, being quite early into our Lifestyle. I felt embarrassed while Mistress stood nearby the whole time, but it was in a great way of course lol

Wearing a butt plug along with a tight pair of panties while out and about in public became a our go-to form of subtle control/humiliation in our relationship.

A particularly favorite ritual that Mistress enjoys is making me wear a remote-controlled vibrating butt plug while we go out in public together 😁

Other subtle things don't even need to be sensual. For instance, strive to always carry Her shopping and push the cart, and open every door for Her, drive Her around whenever She needs to go somewhere. Hell, even a couple carefully placed "Yes, Mistress's" or "Yes, Madame's" while out in the public will be hardly noticeable to vanilla folks while perhaps meaning all the world to you and your Mistress.

I admire your last statement regarding the public's non-involvement. This is a tricky at times, but it is the right thing to do. We have the freedom, and the right, to be in a power-exchange relationship as consenting adults (even if expressing said freedom is ironically surrendering one's freedom to a Dom/me), although those in the vanilla world also have a right to not be subjected to overly extravagant demonstrations of one's Lifestyle.

I hope I was able to share some ideas, thanks for reading!

Shopping for womens clothing....using the dressing/ fitting room.

What a great thread: I hope there are some more answers coming!

For me, I definitely appreciate / dread things that are painful enough I wish they weren't happening. Wearing tight nipple clamps under my clothes, for example, is pretty great, and so is leaving something tied around my testicles. If you're going out with your mistress, try wearing really loose pants and having to ask permission to pull them up (with a code phrase, so as not to be too obvious).

Grocery shopping. Texts me to leave my shopping cart and go out to the car to put one of the many plugs I am required to carry on my car into my ass. Of course I need to send a pic of all of them so he can choose. He always chooses the most uncomfortable, painful one. Then I am to put it in and go back to the store. Tells me to leave my cart and get an empty one. I am to keep shopping until the cart is full and it needs to take at least an hour. I have to talk a pic at the checkout of my full cart before I am allowed to leave.

I still like the oldfashioned 'Go the the toilet, remove you're underwear and hand it over to me in public...'

A few things I've had to do.

Wear panties and bra, usually with subtle hints - i.e. can see the shape of the bra, or panties slightly showing, fly has to be down.

Butt plug or vibrator with tight g-string to hold it in.

Walking usually in a semi quiet area have to take my underwear off, must get hard before putting pants back on. Then at another stop take pants off, must get hard before being allowed to put underwear and pants back on. Sometimes have to find my underwear first, then get hard before allowed to put back on.

Bush walking, fully stripped, normally something inserted, various clothes on/off but underwear left off till almost back at the car.

Public toilets. have to fully strip sometimes not allowed to lock the door. Other times might be given lingerie to swap in to in the open area - so do that damn quick 😃

Never been really caught out, a few looks at times, or very very close encounters.

Diapers!

I don't know how subtle it is, but I love to make my wife leave the dressing room door/curtain open part way to allow watchers to enjoy the sights. When I see a lurker, I'll call her on her cell phone and suggest some movements to excite the audience. Once, I even had her masturbate to the enjoyment of the lucky guy - until his wife caught him............

Its not subtle exactly, but how about being sent to the supermarket with a shopping list.

1. Large cucumber

2. Extra-strong condoms

3. KY or similar lubricant

No other items are allowed in the basket. The receipt should be produced showing only those three items as proof that other items were not added to camouflage the main three items!

As a bonus, you can collect loyalty points on the purchases if you have a card.

Or you can be taken shopping, to the pharmacy. The top asks for Dulcolax suppositories or a Fleet enema. When the assistant rings up the purchase, (s)he turns to the bottom and says something like "Well come on, I have done the difficult part. I'm not the one who needs help on the potty, you needn't think I'm paying as well."

Once you have paid, the top can add something along the lines of "Come along, let's get home and get your panties down so we can get you going to the potty like you need to."

The possibilities are almost endless....

(1) Have a range of women's boots, ones where the foot part looks more masculine, but the heel is a give away. Start with a low heel, then you have to purchase boots with a progressively higher heel. A 2 inch block heel is very noticeable to anyone looking at your feet, even if the foot part looks masculine.

(2) Use women's firm control foundation garments as underwear, they will change your gait, and you will feel that everyone is noticing (even though they aren't).

(3) Stockings and suspenders under your jeans / trousers. The fetish type suspender belts with lots of hooks that go all round are best as they are potentially noticeable under you clothes, and the hooks over your bottom will dig in and be uncomfortable when you sit.

(4) That old chestnut....the bra! If you've been good you don't have to stuff, if you've been bad, you have to stuff the bra. Either way you will have to co-ordinate your clothes very carefully or else you will get a lot of funny looks, although a stuffed bra is virtually impossible to hide fully.

(5) In summer, wearing shorts with waxed legs. No-one really notices, but it you will be self conscious if you have hairy legs.

(6) In winter, wearing a women's padded coat. It will keep you warm, and depending on style can be subtle or obvious that it is a feminine garment.

(7) Wearing a women's style engagement ring. This seems to get noticed more by women.

(8 ) Stuff your crotch. Make your crotch bulge impossibly bigger, this is another that gets predominantly noticed more by women.

A remote control vibe cock ring/egg is always fun in public

A simple wedgie assignment for a sub who was going off on vacation caused her some difficult moments during her trip. Same concept should work for anyone wanting to keep a subbie's mind on her Dom. Here is her report:

"While away on holiday, I did my wedgie-assignment 5 times as you ordered.

I wore my normal panties while doing the assignment. On the first occasion, while dressing the morning, I twisted the crotch of my panties and pulled them up between my pussy lips and at the back as well. The material was hardly visible between my pussy lips as my lips folded around and over it.

I did this every morning for the first five days while on holiday. After that I put on my pants as normal and continued throughout the day as if nothing was wrong. My friends did not expect a thing.

It was very uncomfortable at first, but after the first half hour or so, I got used to it. The panties were rubbing against my clit and through my pussy lips as I walked. This was quite exciting, as it felt as if I was rubbing my pussy constantly. I found that, after walking for a while, my cunt got wet, soaking the panties in between my lips.

Very soon I also discovered that, if I keep walking long enough, I could feel my clit get hard and my pussy getting wetter.

On day two we went jogging in the morning. Fifteen minutes into the jog, I came so hard I had to stop and pretend I had a cramp. My legs were shaking as I was still cumming, even after stopping and sitting down. I rested for a minute or two and then continued. Not five minutes later, I came again, this time more intense.

I so wished you were there to have your way with me then !

When done jogging, I went to take a hot shower. My pussy was SOAKED !

Over the next few days, it took me longer to get excited, because I had to walk slower, my pussy was so sore from the rubbing of the panties the previous days!"

How can it be “public” humiliation without involving the public? I suppose you don’t want to upset other people (or only cause a little discomfort). Many responses have suggested shopping for obviously feminine items, with implications they are for you. Partially cross-dress, say with a blouse buttoned on the female side and a bra (if you dare). Then at a lingerie store tell the clerk you want help buying the right size bra. You could try some urinary humiliations. Go to a drug store which sells medical supplies. Buy an external catheter. You really don’t know anything about them, but tell the clerk, hopefully a female, that you’re incontinent and don’t want to wear diapers anymore and you want some help in selecting a size (they come sized to fit the diameter of the penis from 45mm down to 25 mm) and style. You also need a leg bag and tubing. Once you've been fitted and try out the catheter by urinating successfully into the bag strapped to your lower leg. Now wear it in public with pants that allow the bottom of the bag to be seen. Drink lots of water before going out and urinate in public through the external catheter and bag. Let other people see the bag sticking out of your pants with the urine. A mild humiliation would be to go to a small drug store that sells incontinent pads or pants and ask for advice.

Tell your sub that you want to test the level of embarrassment that would developed if they were to have an "accident" in public. Have them drink a nice tall glass of iced tea, give them a shot glass to put in their pocket, and then drive to a public location like downtown or a shopping mall. Park at one end, give then a bottle of water to sip from, and then you both start walking. At some point you should stop somewhere for you to use the bathroom, but they may not. After you have walked 10 blocks, or made it to the far end if the mall, find somewhere to sit down. They now have a choice to make. They can either fill up the shot glass and pour one full shot into their lap right at the base of the zipper of their jeans, or they can wet their pants, however little or much they want, as lomg as it is visible when they stand up. They will then debated whether they have enough control to let out less than a shot glass. After their pants have been wetted you get to walk all the way back to the car holding hands. You both get to watch people steeling glances at the wet crotch, but you don't have to acknowledge that you are aware of the sub's condition.

Public humiliation fantasy: to take or be given a hot bulgingly soapyenema in front of an open bay window where many go by and observe.

I went to dinner once with my playmate...she made me take off my panties during our meal (in the bathroom) and as we left the resturant she stoped me out side kissed in and stuffed my panties in my mouth..IN CLEAR VIEW of the host

We have been in Wal-mart a time or two when my wife will say to me "we're leaving now. Just wait till I get you home, you'll be singing a different tune and eating dinner standing up". She usually waits until 2 or 3 women are within ear shot of her in an isle or at the resister as they look at me and I turn red with embarrassment. Other couples must be doing the same thing as, on two different occasions I heard similar things. The first time, I was in a grocery store and around the corner came a young couple, she was very pregnant hand he was a small mousey young man, when she said to him "don't think your too old for a spanking" and he looked down and blushed. The second was at Wal-mart and a couple in their 30s and looking at fireplace tools when she took the long handled shovel in her hand and was slapping it against her palm as she looked at her husband or boyfriend as I came around the corner and we maid eye contact and she smiled at me as I looked down at the shovel in her hands and tapped it again as I turned red and she smiled again as if she knew.

I don't have this kind of relationship but I had an idea. Maybe this would work only between Memorial Day and Labor day, but the sub wears white pants that are kind of see through. But, he has to wear some small girly panties that can be seen through the white pants. Or he or she wears pants with a hole in the back. Maybe not too big but big enough to see some bare butt or crack without being too obvious. Or wear loose fitting pants or sweatpants that might fall down on occasion. But pants down in public isn't too subtle. I guess I had lots of ideas.

One time my mistress took me out to walmart. She filled the cart with tons of lacy underwear. She gave me a disposible camera and told me to go try them on in the dressing room and take a picture of me in each one. This was when walmart allowed trying on underwear. She also made me call her mistress the entire trip. I thought after the dressing room was over that the humiliation was over but no. She took me back to the photo center and had the photos developed there. TO MAKE MATTERS WORSE, she made me stand next to her as she laid out all of the picture on the counter, infront of the clerk and the line which included 2 hot young 18 year old girls giggling at my humility.

I "had to go" to the drug store and she bought several fleet and other items to clean me out.

I must call him Master or Sir in public. He Leads me by the wrist and if he lets go I must stop. I Never wear undergarments. I must sit with my legs spread... I've been spanked in the parking lot with my skirt hiked up and my bare ass showing. 25 swift hard swats . And usually a butt plug for added discomfort. But when I'm bad I'm real bad so I deserve it... Like right now I should be cleaning up after dinner but I'm writing this....for sure I'll get 100 swats when he finds out...... Yup.... He just walked in..... THIS IS HER MASTER AND SHE IS WRONG SHES NOT GETTING 100.... SHES GETTING 200 ON HER BARE ASS AND ANOTHER 100 ON HER PUSSY BECAUSE MY KITCHEN ISNT CLEAN.....

Daveyboyjones posted:

"Its not subtle exactly, but how about being sent to the supermarket with a shopping list.

1. Large cucumber

2. Extra-strong condoms

3. KY or similar lubricant

No other items are allowed in the basket. The receipt should be produced showing only those three items as proof that other items were not added to camouflage the main three items!

As a bonus, you can collect loyalty points on the purchases if you have a card."

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Funniest, coolest subtle act to have a sub perform. The only thing that I would add is I would have the sub say to the cashier that she/he was disappointed that an even bigger cucumber couldn't be found and he/she hoped that the condoms were going to be strong enough.

Thanks to Davey for a great idea. I'm going to try it out tomorrow. 😃

There’s an ever-growing line of remote-controlled anal vibrators that have come on the market recently. Of course your Dom must test the power by hand first, then have you pocket the device while she walks a distance away from you to check its range. But in public you’d be sent to the bar to bring back a couple of drinks and maybe as you’re paying she could switch that thing on, high-powered, in your rectum. No matter if your straight, bi or gay, it’s going to make you squirm, writhe, wish you could set the drinks down and rush to the men’s room—but rules are rules and you can’t.

A really hot humiliation I once witnessed going on between a male/female couple was: to start with the guy was very well built, definitely a gym body, so obviously didn’t need help fighting for physical dominance if he desired to, but out on a busy city sidewalk he was walking around with his spiked-heeled Mistress (I assumed) with an outrageous slit up the back of his very tight jeans—and he was wearing no underwear! Obviously, women and gay men will be the ones that notice—men’s butts are prime real estate for us—but the fact he had an armful of packages and couldn’t cover or conceal his condition in any way was just extra hot.

Many adult novelty shops, in their clothing sections, have specially modified pants and jeans favored by gay men which might add a little to the effect? These garments have zippers subtly sewn into the BACK of the jeans which could be left unzipped part way when your Dom takes you out, and would—I’m guessing—force you to sit down to urinate in any crowded venue. It might be interesting to get “felt up” while you and your Dom were navigating the crowd.

I’ve always thought it would make sports more interesting if one attended a game forced to wear either the Aneros model or another anal vibrator which maintains its power for five to eight hours. Also, I have a vibrator (can’t think what it’s called) that has like seven thrusting levels and movements and is controlled via remote. Imagine being forced to wear tight white pants and having your Dom induce involuntary boners, the sensation of being pegged, the feeling a boa-constrictor had taken access of your anus, any number of enchantments while you helplessly leaked pre-cum onto the front of your pants?

Other ideas come to mind, almost entirely anal, but then look at my profile name? Maybe more later.

Butt plug spedo shorts and cock ring

I have asked my wife to make me wear a butt plug when I go out in public with her...though it would not be visible...

A couple of things that haven't been mentioned here. i have my face slapped at least once every time we go out. People rarely see it actually happen but they do hear the slap and the red mark remains for several minutes. Possibly the most humiliating is when she has collected a considerable amount of saliva, brings my face close to hers and she spits. has to be done with some discretion sooas not to cause offense to others

I talk to my GF's female friends about her getting home gyno exams, in details, our usage of electricity and toys, anal sex, me watching her real gyno exams, etc. she's even walked around naked in front of some the ladies and their boyfriends.

Wearing your collar walking around in wal mart or kmart .

Go shopping wearing latex and nothing else