Ladies - Your Most Private Activity?

For any women on the forum that would care to comment, I wonder what act would be the most embarrassing/humiliating for you to perform in front of strangers? Would it be related to giving details of your most secret fetish/sexual fantasy, masturbation, hygiene tasks such as changing tampons, or perhaps defecation or urination? Is there something other than what I've mentioned that you would feel more uncomfortable about doing in front of strangers?

A former girlfriend was absolutely phobic about bathroom "elimination" activities. She would even close and lock the door to the bathroom when she was the only one in the house. I'm simply curious what ladies consider their most personal activity.

For me, it's plucking, strange I know, but it's true, lol.

Mashie

If we told you (and potentially every other person on the forum) it wouldn't be private any more, would it?

Nope, no harm in trying.

Not so much embarrassing or humiliating, but I do want privacy for things like changing maxi pads or using the toilet. I like my back being scrubbed in the shower but I prefer privacy for more intimate cleaning. Partly just because it won't get done right if I don't do it myself.

I was very shy as a teen ager. But that has changed during the years with sexual exploration. Marriage also has a tendency to change a person. My spouse and I are quite open about natural things. I frequently sit on the toilet to pee (and yes even have a BM) while he is standing at the sink shaving. Would never have done that when we were first married. Childbirth, being in the delivery stirrups, pooping before the baby is borne, etc all changes a person. I had a bf before marriage who was really into kinky things like changing my tampons.

Menstrual leaks.

This will probably be considered a weird answer but the whole idea of having a child, especially in front of other people, is the thing that freaks me out the very most... I'm hoping that I never have to do it and if I do, I hope there is a way I can opt for a C-section.

I'm aware that as I get older my feelings may eventually change, but for as long as I remember, since I was about five years old, I have known that I didn't want to have my own children... Its just a fear of mine, I guess fear of childbirth is weird for a woman to have, but I'm okay with it...

Not to mention, as someone who was adopted (luckily by family), I would actually prefer to adopt, I want to help other children instead of adding to the population...

Embers, I must commend you on your position of want to adopt children. There are far too many people having kids today that are unwanted and unloved and wanting to do harm to those kids. A karma point to you on this, too.

Thank you.

I do think that its totally cool for other women to become mothers naturally, its just not for me and I feel like I could do the world better by adopting if I feel that I eventually want children...

I too applaud your desire to adopt, it's not for everybody but for those who are willing it makes perfect sense.

From a more practical standpoint, at the end of my pregnancy, I didn't care who was in the room; I just wanted that baby OUT. There was a student nurse in the room all day who just annoyed the snot out of me and I finally had to ask her to leave. In the end, it was just me, my husband, a nurse, and the doctor. The neonatal specialist was right outside, just in case. I knew they'd seen it all before. By the way, fear of childbirth is something every woman experiences. Nobody would subject themselves to the pain and indignity if it wasn't worth it in the end.

Well said Embers. I admire you for your comments. Both partners, or a single parent can benefit from adoption and give the child/children a life that they may not have been fortunate to have had in the first place, due to circumstances beyond their control.

Karma point for you.

Thanks guys, its nice to hear positive comments about my choice to not have children of my own instead of the confusion and disappointment that I hear from my family about this subject.

I am an open person and many years of nudism certainly has helped that. Being watched when on the toilet would be the most embarrassing. Going pee is okay. Hubby, a nudist friend and I all peed in front of each other while hiking nude. But beyond pee, toilet functions in front of strangers would be totally embarrassing.

I've only had one girlfriend who was totally unselfconscious about taking a dump in front of me. She would say "here comes a wicked shit" while I was stuck in the bathtub. It invariably was too. All the others only peed in front of me. I appreciated the lack of inhibition but couldn't reciprocate.

Mine is really pathetic but it has to be done when I'm a patient in hospital .

Usually when I'm an inpatient I get a Foley catheter for a few reasons. But I absolutely hate the catheter care that comes with it.

There are lots of new rules here in the UK regarding catheter care when you are an inpatient.

Each day it has to be checked and the area cleaned several times over a 24hr period . I really can't bear anyone else touching it. I refuse and do the cleaning myself , but they insist a nurse has to look at it at least twice a day.

I'm home again after a procedure yesterday and have a foley in until Monday at least . My nurses that visit 3 x a day at the min to do my Ivs and physio also insist they have to check it at least twice a day.

I just find it so embarrassing. Yet it's perfectly ok for me to have a gynae exam . Maybe it's the fact that it's a bodily function.

After 30 years of marriage, getting pregnant, and having a baby, and raising a daughter there is not much left to be private about.

Haha, I just want to comment on this question to say, I absolutely love menstruation, have no qualms about it, and will talk about it with anyone who is interested. Not taboo for me at all, I don't mind partners seeing my blood, having sex while menstruating, etc.

I don't use disposable menstrual products - I use cloth pads and reusable medical grade silicon menstrual cups. There are a few brands, I have a diva cup. It is the best thing since sliced bread. It virtually never leaks (unless it gets really full), doesn't have a TSS risk, you can wear it for up to 12 hours, so overnight. It doesn't contribute to landfill. It's comfortable, you don't notice you're wearing it. Easy to empty and easy to clean, just boil it once your cycle is done.

And since I stopped using disposable products, my menstrual cramps have reduced massively. Bleeding onto cloth or into a cup is much more comfortable.

And if you want to be really hippy about it, you can use your blood to fertilise your garden (great for roses).

I don't have any qualms about being naked or peeing. I could not poo in front of someone. Not unless I was giving birth - then I would be too busy to care, I suspect! But I do not plan on giving birth in front of strangers, unless there is a medical emergency. Midwives who I have gotten to know really well all the way for me.

Emom is right. A lot of personal embarrassment disappears once your married. Routine bodily functions are no longer an issue. Having a baby changes things even more. If there are things that were over the top for me it was getting that first enema from my husband and later nursing our first with family and friends nearby.

My most personal activity right now would have to be looking at and/or posting on this site. You guys out there are the only ones who know! ☺️

I will answer for my wife. She can easily pee while I am close by or in the bathroom but the line is drawn when she poops. She really doesn't want to be seen openly when pooping. When she was younger, she would change tampons in front of me without any embarrassment but she has always been a bit uncomfortable when she has to poop. So that is the main and only activity that she wants privacy.

The only thing that has always embarrassed me is to make feel uncomfortable those who are around me.

Therefore I avoid to do in front of other persons only those things that I know that would put them uncomfortable.

So, I avoid to poop in front of my hubby who considers this function strictly private, whereas I wouldn't have any embarrassment in front of my brother, with whom we shared everything and more since our childhood.

I don't care about showering or peeing in front of other women or even changing pads when I was having my period but I going poo is when I want privacy. I was the same with way with my ex.

I find bathroom "elimination" activities a topic off limits my boyfriend and I find that totally gross. We have enough dealing with the cats litter box.

The only fetish I crave is real life medical humiliation and the only person who knows about it off the web is my BF. All this other stuff is unappealing to me.

I do not have any activity that my husband does not see and a lot of the time he is just part of things. Me having a piss or a crap is what he sees all the time and he is the man I love so I do not get why I would not do these things in front of him. He wipes me too. I change my tampons in front of him and when he offers to do it for me I do not refuse. He is just being kind so I would not want to stop him.

When I lived at home with my mum we just saw each other going to the toilet as well. When I was at school I had a lot of times when I pissed with other girls when we did P.E. outside and we would just see everything. I just stopped being shy about all that.

I don't mind peeing or even changing tampons but defecation is where I draw the line. Unless it is to expell enemas. I don't know why that doesn't bother me as much as regular defecation. Probably because she will be doing the same.

My wife likes it when I hold her douche bag up and watch her use it in the bath tub. She feels pampered. I also give her all her enemas and she's fine with that, but when she is expelling, I disappear, for her modesty. I can hear her expel, but stay out of the bathroom when she is expelling. Afterward, I go back into the bath room to see if she wants another 16 oz. bulb, or a bag enema, but I always let her expel alone.

I'm happy to pee and change panty liners or tampons with people watching but pooing is defiantly private for me

I used to work at a place and twice in one week someone flushed tampons down the toilet in the women's bathroom and clogged the toilets up. The owner let the maintenance man assemble everybody into the lunchroom and with a big smile on his face he went over the problem. There was some giggling from the guys and a little from the girls. Than he said if it happened again the stalls were going to go away in the woman's room. The law did not require stalls. Lots of giggling from the guys. Not so much from the girls, but the problem was solved. The plumbing was not clogged up again from a tampon being flushed.

For me it would be wiping myself after urinating. Not the urinating itself