Should you risk your relationship for your enemas?

GREAT post Lora! I think you've opened a lot of peoples eyes, or at least have them thinking. 😉 🌹

I just joined this forum today, after lurking for about a year. I am 70+ and met the love of my life two years ago. He recommended this site to me. I had never heard of an enema fetish before I met him. Originally I was repulsed at the thought of any anal activity. Gradually, through his kindness, patience and humility, I became interested in exploring new horizons, while I still am able. After raising a couple of kids and some dogs and caring for elderly infirm parents, I realized I wasn't as skittish as I thought I might be.

Loving open dialogue is always the best course, in my opinion. We have long romantic enema sessions that are always reaching new heights. I am the giver, for now, but am open to learning to be the receiver in time. I find it very erotic to administer an enema during love making. (The human mind works in mysterious ways.) There was no pressure to accomplish this, but I want to achieve the reward of truly sharing the experience. If anal eroticism is the first step, I'm on my way.

I realize that not everyone is able to find that special partner in life. It took me 72 years. I have to say that reading the accounts of many respectable people on this forum, I find it not-so-kinky after all. Furthermore, don't be so ready to dismiss the mature, but wiser, partner. Mine is 74 now and we met on a dating web site. Lucky us.

Rayme, I hope you and curious1313 are able to really develop a good friendship. It sounds like you might be on the right track for a friendship. Like Lora, I would like it if you and curious1313 write about your own experiences. I'd like to hear how you two handle enemas and friendship.

I am assuming that you two are more than enemas alone.

What would be worst for your relationship? Telling your SO that you enjoy enemas, or telling them you are having affair? If you are a public figure what would be worst in the public eye? These are the risks you take by telling anyone about enemas, etc. That's probably why enema use has such a weak public display these days, let along telling anyone....

I met a woman from this site several years ago. She lived in Washington State and I lived about a days travel from her. We became friends quickly and arranged to meet. Our interests were certainly mutual and erotic, and I found the woman dreams are made of. We tried meeting again, but it was difficult for me to get away from my responsibilities at the time, and had to cancel meeting on several occasions due to my x wife causing me allot of grief. She broke off our friendship and I'm am ever so sorry for that to have happened. If you read this please know that you were amazing and very special, and if there was anything I could do to turn the clock back, I would do it in a heartbeat. I still think of you and how special you were and are.

My advice? If you find the woman of your dreams, take her and don't let go...

A

Bless you, Lora. You ROCK, Girl!

the boxcar

Lora's a sensual, attractive woman. 😉 🌹

Lora...post 120.....

Thanks for your comment...It is because of your writing that reminds me of my writing........ Since i have been able to come here to Zity and put my deepest thoughts out here in front of my Zity Friends have i been able to "BREATHE" again when I say the word "ENEMA" or ANAL!!!!!" Thanks again Lady.......My best wishes to You and Yours!!

With that "Click!!!!!!!!,"

highwater

Things have changed dramatically - for the best, with my husband, and friends, and I will be adding a post or two in the near future. Early this morning - my husband woke me up when he was hanging my enema bag on the hook above our bed. 🌹 Since I was already naked - all I had to do was roll over onto my side a little more, and that wonderful little bow legged guy slipped the enema nozzle into me like the pro he is becoming. 🌹 I was still half asleep - and very relaxed, and that enema, like this one, felt so good. It's a grea way to start the day - and this isn't the first time, and after I released that enem, I gave him a little reward. 😉 Let's just say - I really like his taste. 😉

Right now - I'm in an IM with Gibby 🌹 and she told me there had been some comments. An enema from my husband - an enema with my friend, and this looks like it is going to be a great day! And if the kids - and grandkids don't come over, which they usually do, my husband and I may go over to our friends, and spend the day naked.

@rayme - @drn4321 - @mike45 - @highwater - this place was just what this ol' girl needed. I don't think I would have - no, I know I wouldn't have, had the courage to even try out some of the 'kink' that I want to try. This has been the best - and I love what I've found here on Zity.Biz, people who understand the dreams of others.

@Cedar 🌹 🌹 🌹 - thank you, you are just what I need. @Gibby - I need to release this enema, get back with you later. 🌹

Lora, it sounds like you are in "Seventh Heaven".

I told my girlfriend two weeks after we started seeing each other that I did enemas regularly. She was open minded about me doing them, but she wasn't really into them herself. We have been together going on four years now and about the same a day I will give her a kiss, and she will always ask if I'm "going potty." That's her code to ask if I'm going to clean myself out, and my normal response is, "Yep."

Smell the roses now because you won't on your coffin.

I brought up Enemas when our sex life was dull; hubby was repulsed and even told friends "Do you know what she wanted to do...."

I acted like I was joking.

The truth is that I orgasm when I give myself an enema but I would like to incorporate it into our marriage,which is almost sexless.

I used to have a friend who would come over; we gave each other enemas but she moved last year.

I am going to place a personal ad when allowed to talk on phone with other women who love the enema experience. I am willing to give my number and they can block theirs if they want.

I am ashamed to admit I called a pay line and the bill for a gal to act like she was giving me an enema was 30.00 !

Hubby sounds as if he is an abusive kind, especially when you also share, "... when allowed to talk on the phone with other women..."

Take care, you seem to be in a precarious position.

A husband that cares for you at all Enemagal wouldn't do that to you. If I had a wife that did that to me, I'd be on my way, finding a better relationship. Either that, or just be enjoying my own company, which sometimes with a good enema, isn't all that bad. 😃

I think a couple should be honest to each other from the beginning. From day one my Wife and I knew that enemas were going be a part of our lives. In the beginning we both were users of the red bag. We have purchased several enema bags over the years. As time passed she lost interest but I have not. I still take enemas and she knows this. The bag hangs plain site. She takes one monthly. Being honest to each other is the best way to go.

Marriage is, and always has been, a two way street. If you love and respect each other, you both must communicate with each other, about every aspect of your life together... every thing! To be able to please your lover in bed, you must know what she likes, and she must know what you like, and that comes from being able to communicate your likes and dislikes to each other and respect them.

When I was going with the girl I married, while still living at home, the bathroom had an enema/douch bag hanging in the shower. It came up in conversation early on, because the enema tip stayed on the bag when not in use. In the early 70's, it was normal to see a douch tip, not an enema tip, when not in use for feminine personal hygiene, and she asked me, "why", and I told her, "I, as well as others in my family used enemas to keep our colon's clean, and the douch tip went on only as need, when my sisters used it for their personal hygiene". She said, "that's new to me", then said, "I only received enemas as a child for constipation". It didn't come up again till our honeymoon when we went to the drugstore to purchase a enema/douch bag for her feminine hygiene. I ask her, that evening, to try an enema for somthing other than constipation, she did, and liked it, she said, "it turned her on". I then taught her how to give enemas that evening by talking her through giving me an enema. After that, we gave each other enemas once a month to keep our colon's clean. All other times were for forplay, before and sometimes after sex. In the first few years, after we got married, we could really have dropped the once a month clean out, because we were doing plenty in between our normal monthly colon cleaning.