How do I get my wife to spank me HARD?

Having a hard time geting my wife to be serous about spanking me I try to tell her what I want but I think it goes in one ear and out the other when she is done I don't want to be able to sit down for a week any body got any ideas that may help thanks.

Is she spanking you at all. I mean is she even trying, or does she not even try?

No not really but when she does i think she does what she thinks is right but its the same thing every time and she gets flusterd because it dosent phase me but what makes it so bad is i that i have talked to her and told her what i want almost step by step so any thing you think will help will be appreciated

Same problem here. My wife is not strict enough or maybe she holds back, now we are trying to go a little bit further each time. Maybe in future she'll be able to spank me properly

We've had this same issue. We had a frank discussion about what I want out of a spanking. I don't want to be spanked often, but when I am, I want it to hurt. A spanking should be hard to endure, taxing one's willpower to resist begging or fighting. She was, I think, afraid of hurting me. Finally, we ended up negotiating a color out of the paint charts for what my bottom should look like after a spanking and agreed that no matter what I might say or do, the spaning will continue unti she gets my bottom that color. Has worked out pretty well.

Maybe try coming at it from a psychological angle. Maybe explain to her why you need the spanking. Remember, women are thinkers. A lot of times if we know why something is or isn't, needs to be or not, we are more likely to want to reach the final goal.

Sorry I couldn't be more help.

Mashie

Mashie may be right, she may not understand the why you want her to spank you so hard. I almost put "hurt" you, but she may see it as she is going to hurt you. You may want to do some more talking with her. Maybe you should give her an incentive to spank you the way you want: money, jewelery, sex of her choice. Something that she gets for a reward for doing such a good job spanking you.

Also, remember where our mind is, what nature has handed us, which is often times beyond our control. Women are mothers, we baby things, take care of things, heal things. It's our job to nurture and lovingly protect what we love. Have you ever looked into a mothers eyes when someone is hurting her child? Trust me, it's not pretty, and she will eat anything that stands in her way.

Your wife loves you, and it's totally against human nature for her to want to hurt you or cause you any pain at "her hand" so to speak. You must tell her and explain to her why you want the spanking, and that she is not really hurting you in a bad way, and tell her that by her spanking you, it is one way men often feel most loved, wanted, and valued. Which is actually true. That might help her along in your quest.

Good luck.

Mashie

Be careful what you wish for. I had a girlfriend, a black women, and I asked her to spank me. She put me across her lap held me down and beat my ass with a paddle until I was bruised.( i supplied the paddle) It hurt a lot. After that she really got into it and used the paddle and belt on my bare ass way too often. Her attitude changed after that and became too controlling and demanding. I believe in domestic discipline, not domestic abuse.

We actually had a very interesting encounter last night.

I don't get spanked often. I probably give 95% of our household spankings. And, when I do get spanked, they are not hard or long enough to be real spakings. But, you have to be careful about topping from the bottom.

So, we had a disagreement. Got heated. Made a bet. And, I made a big deal about the loser not just getting a spanking, but an actual punishment spanking. Of course it was going to hurt. they were not going to like it, but it needed to be severe enough that they would learn have their facts straight before mouthing off. And, as it should turn out, she was right.

This turned out to be a spanking like she had never delivered before. I think she was trying to break the hairbrush. And, a deal is a deal, but it hurt, so I wiggled, complained, said it was too hard, etc. After a little of this she told me had had it and that if I didn't keep my end of the bargain it would be the last spanking either of us had. She got up and returned with a bar of Ivory and a pair of handcuffs. She put the bar of soap in my mouth (I have never been into this; had my mouth washed out as a kid and hated it), put me back over her knees, and cuffed my hands behind my back (absolutely not my thing). Then she held my cuffed hands in one hand, locked my legs into place, and hairbrushed me until I was genuinely red and my ass was puffy. I mean swollen.

To say it turned her on is an understatement. She was seriously horny.

Going to be interesting to see if this is a one time thing or the new standard.

I tired to get my wife to spank me hard too. But she can't bring herself to do it. So now its a do it to myself project when I get the chance.

I had the same problems wife was afraid to hurt me. Then after several conversations wherein I assured her a real spanking could affect some of my bad habits she said she understood . Without saying anything she had purchased an English Tawsr. This is 2 long strips of leather bound at a handle,y wife is very petite, but she has a formidable temper, recently I got three speeding tickets which might have cost us our insurance. She was with me for the third one and when I got upset with the officer and yelled at him she told him I was having a bad day. Then she apologized and said when we got he my day was going to get much worse. When we got home she told me to Ho wait for her, that I was now going to get the spanking I had been asking for. I waited a long time and then she came in with the tawse. I had never seen one before and she calmly told me to take my pants down and bend over the bed. Then she laid into me with that strap,an did that hurt . As she was strapping me she was saying remember this because this is what's coming if you misbehave, it hurt way more than I ever thought it could and when she was finished I was really sore for several days . She liked my behaviour after and has threatened more if the same. It was hard to stay put during it and I am not inclined to intentionally try her patience

My wife and I have lightly smacked each others bottoms during sex, Ive asked her to do it harder but she says she doesn't want to hurt me. Although just recently during sex with me on top she started smacking my bottom pretty hard and said afterwards she forgot to check how red my butt was, I told her we need to do this again but this time with me over her knee, she just said interesting. We are planning a little vacation next week to a mountain cabin where we will be completely alone since it is around Valentines day a suggested a kind of wild weekend with surprises, she agreed and has told me she has some surprises for me. So i will keep y'all posted

When my wife first learned of my spanking fetish, she was very reluctant to spank me hard. I didn't complain because one must be grateful for what one gets. Later on, I learned that she had never been paddled or strapped, which is what she was doing to me at the time at my request.

It turned out that she had always received fresh switches on her bare bottom, growing up. When I said that I had never been switched, she delivered almost more than I could handle ... I guess the message here is go with what you know...

Pretend to be very snotty about it. Like saying (in a bad tone) "Oh please. When you spank me I can barley even feel it."

I get spanked often but not hard & long, which is also what i need & want.

My last severe spanking was about 4 years ago, until the other morning,

Wife ordered my back to bed, & stated you need a spanking give me the brush!

i wish she would be holding the brush & not telling me to give it to her!

i did get a hard bath brush spanking, at last, wish it would happen more often!

i do get spankings that sting a lot often...

Well heck ya poolboy we want more info. Please keep disturbing us pretty pretty please! Oh, and with sugar and honey on top along wiith a cherry.

Mashie

I have only had about 1 severe spanking about every 10 years, I wish it would happen 2 or 3 times a year!

My wife tells me she needs to find someone to spank me very hard & long.

this is just a fantasy of hers, for a man to do this & also be submissive yo her, I wish she would find a woman to help her spank me!

I've also have a hard time getting my wife to spank me hard. She has given it the minimum effort once or twice but just doesn't seem to have much interest in it. I would have thought she would enjoy it as she can be a colossal bitch!

My wife stops when she thinks she is wet enough for sex.

I try to provoke her into real punishment spankings.

It does for the most part, not work.

It took some time to get her to give me a really got spanking. A few times I got upset when she gave me only a few light spanks and I gave what I wanted by doing it to her.

When my wife first started to get into spanking me, she did not want to do it hard in fear of hurting me. I told her I would let her know if it was to hard. Now she does a pretty good job of it without me saying anything.

I had the same issue with my wife she spanks me often but in my opinion, not hard enough. I have explained to her what I want but it didn't happen until we had an arguement. We fell out big style and she stormed upstairs. As a way of recompense I went into the kitchen, stripped naked and got out the paddle and a hair brush.

I then texted her how sorry I was and that I was waiting in the kitchen to be spanked. She came down stairs, into the kitchen and pushed me over the kitchen table. She then started to spank me with the paddle. Wow what a difference. She had me crying for the first time in ages. After a while she stopped and told me to stay there and not move. She then walked away and used the bathroom. When she returned she used the hairbrush on me. Again I was in so much pain and crying. Eventually she stopped and took a photo of my bright red bottom. I calmed down but couldn't sit as it hurt too much.

Then next day I told her that was the type of spanking I was after. She apologised but said she would only do that every so often. She showed me her text to her mum. 'Lost my temper tonight, so I spanked nnnnn very hard as he pissed me off. See photo'.

The reply was 'omg'

Be careful what you ask for.

Forget her birthday and wedding/anniversary.

I suggest you consider introducing a relationship contract whereby you both agree that spankings are punishment and not necessarily erotic or pleasurable. My wife and I have a contract and have had for many years which also outlines the levels of punishment. If I am to be punished, I only find out when I come downstairs in the morning when I will see on the breakfast bar the paddle and 1 of 4 cards that has a number on it and this will be the number of strokes I am to receive. Simple but effective.

It seems to work for us because when I get a spanking it is a proper spanking and throughout the year I might suffered 5 or 6 times. Sometimes I get more spankings than in other years. It just depends.

Talk to each other about what and why you want it - spanking, enemas, bondage, medfet, ect. If your partner does not know they can't give you what you want or atleast try.

I have a feeling that she just can't bring herself to really hit/hurt someone she cares about. I suspect that is not uncommon.

Tell her you do not feel anything. That the difference of strength is such that even though she might think she is hurting you, she really is not. Also clarify that that instrument is making a lot of noise, but not a lot of pain. This did it for me.