Newly Dating

Alrighty I need some advice

I am 25... and newly single and dating..

I am really interested in exploring and being dominated.. I have always enjoyed rougher sex.. but I'd like more.

How do you bring up this type of conversation without coming off creepy? Or are there hints that a person can give off without saying anything?

One guy that I am seeing now..seems like he would be on the adventurous side.. but then again... we have only fooled around once..

Any tips??

Thanks!

Men are a LOT more receptive to "other than vanilla" things than women are. We are much more adventurous than women are, I believe.

I might suggest simply leading the conversation that way, then just point-blank telling him. He will do one of two things. He will either go for it or balk at it. If he balks, then you need to find another playmate. I don't think that will be the case, though.

I met my wife thru an online spanking group, so I knew she had some interest in BDSM. I did not propose marriage till after she had accepted my collar. Unfortunately, after 3 kids and becoming disabled she is unable to fulfill her duties. One of many reasons she suggested, to my surprise, a Sister Wife as a second slave.

You need to decide how serious you are about about the lifestyle, then sound how your date about their role in the lifestyle. You will find many people who are unhappy because they did not marry a mate able to fulfill their needs.

Honesty is not the Best policy, It is the ONLY policy!

Wiggle your way across his knee while messing around. He'll lightly smack your bottom... he's a man; we cannot help ourselves. Then, "didn't hurt", "is that all you got?" or "don't start that unless you mean to finish it" should do the trick.

Hi kinkylady, there are a number of ways you can show him you're interested in a less vanilla relationship. Buy a few books (on the subject) and leave one open to a page that you're particularly interested when he sees the cover his curiosity will have him picking it up to see what you were reading. If you are the more forward type, you could get (if you're into restraints), some handcuffs at a local sex store - when he comes over/comes home tonight - meet him at the door in some provacative lingerie and dangle the cuffs from one hand and say something like "I've been a very naughty girl..." lol, he'll likely get the picture. Watching a video that isn't vanilla that maybe has some spanking or something in it - have it cued up to play - and then gauge his reaction - spanking really isn't that out there - if he's receptive to that - keep introducing more videos that are slanted to what you're interested in. In the past, I have had a man in my life who wasn't into bdsm - I introduced it in a very candid talk we had about sexual likes and dislikes. When I expressed my desire to be spanked, restrained, flogged - and told him about my various toys - he actually ran right out and researched the topic online. One night when we were talking on the phone - he started giving me instructions - "take off all your clothes, get your glass dildo and your crop, put on your sluttiest heels - now kneel on the bed..." The instructions kept "cumming" lol, it was one of the hottest phone sex sessions I've ever had. He had me panting with excitement, lol.

Hi kinkylady. I wish you the best of luck and fun with your new BF. Please, for your own safety, read my post on bondage! This is a new aquaintance and you have to work hard to get to know him BEFORE you take any chances on bondage.

I wish I knew... 😜

After 27 years of kinky and most enjoyable sex with my wife, to my suprise, one day she said she wasnt interested anymore and got nothing out of kinky stuff (and even sex!!) anymore.

It has now been 4 years since our last kinky evening... oh well, enjoyed it while it lasted.

Good luck with your adventures...

I think pmoi is spot on! Most men just need a push or green light to get a little freaky! When he does something you like let him know...a few well placed moans go a long way.

Why don't you leave a copy of "Fifty Shades of Grey" on your nightstand? Or, go see the movie with him and then suggest trying something like that?