Help with convincing wife....

OK Ladies,

How about a little help? My wife is scheduled soon for an exam. I've been with her once for a special procedure...only because she was pretty nervious.

All other times when I've asked if she wanted me to come with her I get a pretty emphatic no. When I press she says something along the lines of "it's just a guick in and out thing no reason for you to come...it's tiny room...thanks but I'll be OK on my own...did it for years by myself before."

She has no idea that gyno is a huge turn on for me and I'd prefer to keep it that way...I seriously doubt she'd be very receptive to the concept.

Any thoughts on ways to convince her to let me accompany?

No one has any thing??? Was this a ridiculous question??

The only way I was able to fess up about my fantasy is after a couple of beers. I never recommend drinking to anyone...but if you happen to be drinking one night...it may be a good time to clue her in;-)

I have had mixed results.. I told one one time that I wanted to come in the room with her and was flat out told no way in hell.. it was even worse when I told her I was turned on by gyn play... she and I weren't very compatible, so, theres more there...

Others I've had 0 resistance from.. they let me come right on in and it didn't even bother them..

One older woman was turned on by me being turned on and invited me to come with her to her next exam, try to snap some pics with my cell, etc... she was in to it..

Honestly, I think it has to do with the woman you're with, the health of your relationship, etc.. At the moment, she just thinks you want to be in the room to "support" her and tag-along, but, if you were to talk to her about your fetish, that might change... on the other hand, if she's uncomfortable with that or not in to it, it might not change... I don't know either of you, so I can't say.. You might not be allowed right away, but if you're both in to making the other happy, then hopefully she'll go along with your interest and you can get accustomed to your own personal gyn play, then she might let you come with her.... -- I will give you a word of warning, if she is hesitant but lets you in.. be on your best behaviour.. =)

A med fetish is a very private and personal thing. I would be hard pressed to believe that there are many couples (especially married ones) that share this interest. Trying to "teach an old dog new tricks" is difficult. Sorry about the animal analogy, but there is balance in a relationship and many fetish/fantasy topics could tip the balance of a relationship. I imagine that most couples keep this site private from their s/o. Even in fantasy/role playing, this type of interest could be detrimental to ones relationship. It is one thing to meet the person of your dreams to find out about interests like all of ours, but to expose yourself to the reaction to "honey, I want to pop you up into stirrups......"

I feel that it is more rewarding to share on a site like this rather than letting an established relationship be influenced by this stuff.

That having been said, there are going to be more, "gee Gil, you are wrong", comments on this board from the lucky ones who enjoy a s/o who has been introduced to med fetish successfully.

Love to hear from those who disagree or agree.

Sure an't easy if they're not in to it. Just time and patience I guess.

Great feedback. Thanks. I guess time and patiance is the way to go. And jbrauer28 I councur 100% about the best behaivior thing.

I almost hate to say it, but a part of me thinks that either someone will love it or they will hate it. It's either there or it's not. Now I could be wrong because some people ARE willing to try new things. But I think when it comes to having a "fetish" and being really into something passionately, it's either there or its not. It never hurts to ask though. Then you'll know for sure.

Hope well do you know your wife? You should have an idea how she will react even before you ask her. I have found it easiest to just be open and honest when bringing this up. One way to bring this up is to... just mention to her you are curious about her health and wellbeing and would like to accompany her to her next appointment. There is a great chance she will give you her approval!

(1) Tell her your feelings about it if you can

(2) If you cant tell her your feelings, ask her to be able to attend for curiosity

At the end of the day though, it is up to her.

Real life exams is another game alltogether, and not neccesarily something to enjoy at all. That calls for being honest about ones motivations for wanting to accompany her, first and formost. And if she dosent want it, then i wouldnt

As a female I would have to say that for the most part those types of exams are something to be endured not necessarily enjoyed by a partner but with my partner now and at this stage in my life (im 45) I am very comfortable with my body and my sexuality so I would welcome even maybe encourage my partner but he also knows about my fetish and we could talk openly about this. My prob is that I have a smokin hot doc and have yet to get up the courage to make the appt because I am afraid I will get turned on! This doc also gives a lot of shots which I love and have to wonder about a little bit...hmmm what do you think?

You guys need to talk to your wifes and gfs about how turned on you get about there exams and it will help keep your sex in bed hott

Hello all

Just my two cents worth, especially considering my interest in the entire med fet game is generally centered around auscultation, so it is more of the "vanilla" side of the interest. My wife at best tollerates letting me auscultate her when I want, and has never directly told me no, but given her overall lukewarm reaction to just that, I have no idea what she would say to more "invasive" maneuvers. If I am able to come up with any insight, I will be sure to chime in.

It helps to set up the mood for it

No use trying to force things to happen

If you feel she is not opennig up, let it pass....

next time.... :-(

I was lucky. It was doctor who invited me to the exam room during my wife's exam first time. it was because the nurse work with him was on leave that day and her duties were covered by his wife who happened to be a trained nurse became house wife after the marriage. The doctor told me that she help him in minor cases. But he do't like the idea of having her by side when he is doing full physical exam to women specially to young beautiful ones like my wife. he thinks his wife feel jelous of him if she sees him with naked women. so he invited me to be his side while he was probing my naked wife .

After that I accompany her without invitations.

So how do you convince her that it is not strange or not normal???? Any females out their that have gone from feeling strange and weird about their spouse doing an exam.

First, I would be honest about it getting you hot. If this is yur fetish, amd you need to explore it, you need to find someone compatable with that. My partner is not thrilled going in, some of that may be because of me, but I think even without me, she would not be thried. However, she does find some of the practitioners are a whole lot more gentle to her when I am around. That may not be good if the two of you are into pain, but we are not, so my being there helps on that count. We also screw like bunnies as soon as we get home. She is all wet by than plus all greesed up from the exam still. Put your cards on the table. Let her know it means a lot to you. Let her know your beinig there may have a positive effect on her experience and see where it takes you.

Bill, I would suggest what others have suggested, share your feeling with her on how much it turns you on. Get her thinking about it, maybe as a compromise you could take her to the exam and rush her home and have wild sex as she described what happened to her. When she sees and feels your reaction first hand, you might convince her of how it drives you crazy and how this could really spice up your sex life. I think it's worth a try. I have witnessed my wife's exams and she has described others to me, both ways are fantastic

I go to all the wife's exams. Me and the doc get along well.

My wife has had female doctors for as long as I can remember. I want my wife to go to a male gyno for me and let me watch. She had an exam 1 time by a male when she was 15 and won't try it again. I cant find any good reason to convince her to indulge my fantasies.

Just be up front with her and ask if she would be open to some kind of exploration. For example, suggest to her to start having a monthly breast exam and you could help her with it.

@bubster; when it comes to your wife's health care, there is no good reason for her to indulge YOUR fantasies. She's entitled to choose the health care provider she wishes to use and that includes gender. For the most part, that's one of the freedoms we still enjoy.