I have had mixed results.. I told one one time that I wanted to come in the room with her and was flat out told no way in hell.. it was even worse when I told her I was turned on by gyn play... she and I weren't very compatible, so, theres more there...
Others I've had 0 resistance from.. they let me come right on in and it didn't even bother them..
One older woman was turned on by me being turned on and invited me to come with her to her next exam, try to snap some pics with my cell, etc... she was in to it..
Honestly, I think it has to do with the woman you're with, the health of your relationship, etc.. At the moment, she just thinks you want to be in the room to "support" her and tag-along, but, if you were to talk to her about your fetish, that might change... on the other hand, if she's uncomfortable with that or not in to it, it might not change... I don't know either of you, so I can't say.. You might not be allowed right away, but if you're both in to making the other happy, then hopefully she'll go along with your interest and you can get accustomed to your own personal gyn play, then she might let you come with her.... -- I will give you a word of warning, if she is hesitant but lets you in.. be on your best behaviour.. =)