What is worse? Having spanker lower your panties or being ordered to do so?

For me personally having them removed by the spanker is more embarrassing or humiliating as I’m being scolded and told why my spanking is necessary,naturally heart is racing a bit hearing the scolding and what is to take place still not knowing what will be used or the severity of the spanking.

I always lower the panties of the person getting spanked its more embarrassing to them without any control of what's about to happen

Worse? You mean, What is better! Both are great.

Having to do it oneself increases the feeling of submissiveness, participating in your own punishment, also the feeling of being on display and watched as it happens.

But when the spanker does it, it increased the sense of loss of control, being forcefully exposed, usually as ones hands are stuck where they were told to be.

Both options very tantalizing.

Really there is much more to this than just who does the baring, but it is still a good question. Both can be very humiliating, depending on how they are carried out. Being told to take your pants and underwear down while the spanker is seated with legs spread and waiting while holding an implement can be very intimidating. Especially if they are very carefully watching you (and of course they always are). You are subject to being scolded for not moving fast enough, not pulling things down far enough, etc. On the other hand, it is degrading when they set the implement down, tell you to put your hands on your head, and then do the honors for you, while everything flicks out of your briefs and bounces into full view. Or perhaps your briefs will be left up for a warm up but come down later. I do think this is a crucial part of every encounter, and worthy of attention to detail. The spankee should have to stay standing for a moment and receive a lecture or scolding before the arm is grabbed and he is taken over the knee. Or perhaps you will tell him to come across your knee…. raise his bottom… keep his head down.

When my mother punished me with a spanking, I had to lower my panties myself. My mother did it when I was younger. When I was a little older my mother told me to take my panties off. If I was doing it too slowly my mother would “help” me.

It's hard for me to say which was worse. It was definitely the moment I was most afraid of. I remember an incident where my mom decided I was going to be spanked. She was sitting on the couch and I was standing in front of her. I asked her not to spank me and I came up with all sorts of arguments. At one point my mum, impatiently, unbuttoned my pants and dropped them down with my panties. If someone was looking at it from the side he would be amused by it: the boy convinces his mother and has his pants and panties down. It wasn't funny to me.

When I was older, I had to take off my pants and lower my panties on my own. It was humiliating for me to have to show my bare bottom like a little child. I was not ashamed that my mother sees me undressed. In my home, it was natural for parents to see their children naked. My mother said it was necessary, she said she must see the effects of the spanking. She also said that if I prepare myself to be spanked, it means that I understand my mistakes.

I think that it is humiliating for children and teenagers to lower their panties on their own. However, this is part of the penalty. Besides, the child knows that he must submit to the parent.

I wasn't spanked as a child. As an adult I've received two spankings both from professional mistresses. So what is worse? Since I was actually paying for the spankings I don't view either choice being worse. In the first instance mistress pulled down my pants and underwear while I did my best to talk her out of it, as part of our role playing. How did I feel? Embarrassing and exciting, maybe a little scary. A dominant woman ignoring my pleas and pulling down my pants.

For my last encounter mistress ordered me to pull down my pants. That statement by itself is a turn on. Pull down your pants/take your pants down as the spanker watches you expose yourself. In this case I was ordered over her lap, underwear still in place. She took those down after I was over her lap. After the spanking I was ordered to strip to receive an enema. So for me, neither is worse, I like both.

My parents used to tell me to take my trousers and underpants down. I simply obeyed, assuming it would only be worse if I didn't.

I used be told to pull my pants down for a spanking. That always meant pants and underwear. Sometimes I would resist and not pull them down. Mom or dad would just start spanking over my pants and telling me to take them off. I don't know why I resisted, it always made things worse lol. Eventually they would get my pants and underwear down, and usually completely off anyway and I would get my naked butt beat.

I don't know which is more embarrassing though. Like just pulling them down, exposing myself, and willingly submitting is humiliating but struggling and having them forced down and everything being exposed anyway is equally as embarrassing.

Struggling, I noticed leads to more embarrassing positions of exposure though. With pulling them down myself I control which direction I'm facing and how much parts can be seen. Like I can turn away so my penis isn't facing anyone, or not bend over too far to keep my ass from spreading and butthole showing. Struggling would often lead to being twisted and turned with my parts spread and flopping around lol

Although, I guess in the end exposure didn't really matter because I was half naked bent over and fully exposed anyway throughout the spanking.

Last spanking session, Sir removed my clothing, piece by piece. It is very embarrassing and humiliating to be in the nude while he is fully clothed….and for him to be the one doing the removing. If I'm removing the clothing it gives me something to focus on. When he does it, I have to stand there and the only thing to focus on is him. Sometimes inspections are part of it once all clothing is removed and then the spanking begins. I'm always a little anxious and aroused because I know what's coming (and I enjoy it).

Punishment spankings are completely different….much more communication involved (what I did wrong, how many swats I'm going to receive, etc.) and a lot more pain than pleasure. Fortunately punishment spankings are few and far between…..but I do have some coming to me next time we meet up.

Having pants lowered

Being exposed by someone else gives me a delicious feeling of power exchange. Like the spanker has more control over my bodily autonomy then I do.

Having to stand with hands on my head, having my panties lowered by my spanker would be far more humiliating.

“worse” is a funny word since forced nudity/embarrassment is a big part of my spanking/punishment kink. In that sense I prefer to be bared in a ritualized way by my spanker (or to do the baring if I'm in that role) while having attention drawn to that fact as part of the scolding.

Having the spanker pull my pants down, and panties is more humiliating and embarrassing to me.

Loss of control.

Feeling of submission.

I talked my clothes off and put them on everyday.

I want someone to do it to me, for me, to show their dominance.

The spanker pulling down my underpants while I stand in front of him is the humiliating point of no return. I've crossed the line and I'm going to be soundly punished for as long as he sees fit. As my undies come down, I'm totally exposed both sides. In front, and then back as he puts me over his lap.

I believe that having your pants pulled down, and then your undies, adds to the humbling effect that a spanking should have. Nothing says that it is all out of your control than being undressed by someone who is about to pull over their knee, hold you in place, and give you a spanking over a bared bottom. I should add that I think the whole situation is even more effective it the pants and underwear are pulled down almost to the ankles, giving the spankee the impression that they are fully exposed. It also makes it harder to kick freely, and it the spankee really starts to try and kick, they may end up kicking off their clothes. Again, adds to the humbling effect of a spanking.

For me, it's always been one way. I have bladder incontinence and have to wear diapers full time, as a child getting spanked often meant that my pants came down, or skirt was flipped up. and the tapes of my diaper needed to be taken off before someone could get at my bottom. I assume later in life I could have done this myself. But I cannot remember ever doing so.

With my Mom and Aunt they always pulled our pants and underwear down exposing our bare buttocks and other parts of our anatomy also! This was all part of the spanking ritual and was done for the reasons outlined in eddyj's post! The same procedure was used for both boys and girls! With my Dad on the other hand we, including my 2 sisters Ruth and Sarah, had to bare our own bottoms! In fact we were expected to be in place lying across our beds with our bottoms elevated by 2 or 3 pillows ready for our whuppings! And ‘woe betide us’ if we were not ready and in position by the time he came into the room! That would mean a couple of extra licks!

I know when I was younger growing up 5-9 mom would just pull them down hand spank. as I got older from that point . She would either just go get a switch or belt from the bedroom . I would just wait to see what she did or said . Mom wasn’t the type to send you to the bedroom to wait for the spanking. Most time as she was walking back towards you she would say get them down . It was worse if u protested made her even more mad. I do remember one time at my aunts my 2 cousins my sister and myself all got paddled from my aunt we had to pull our pants and underwear down bend over for that

I am still spanked even though I am out of high school. Always when I or my sisters were tore a spanking we had to lower our pantyhose and panties ourselves and then bend over the table or bed to get the strap

For me the toughest part is when I'm face down bare bottom waiting for that first spank, knowing it's gonna be painful. The anticipation is the worst part.

For me the toughest part is when I'm face down bare bottom waiting for that first spank, knowing it's gonna be painful. The anticipation is the worst part.

Hi nativetexan,

It was almost a relief when the first spank or lick (of the belt or strap) landed! Yet such ‘relief’ was short lived since the pain of that first spank and the ones that subsequently followed it soon replaced the tension of waiting for the punishment with something just as bad if not infinitely worse!

I always am the one who lowers her panties, rwhether over my knee or lying down. I slowly slip 2 fingers under the waistband at both hips, and then slowly ease them down to just below her cheeks as I talk to her as to why she is getting spanked.

@Turkey1 Humiliation and embarrassment are essential before and after a good spanking... The spankee should be made to have a ginger root inserted into the rectum causing them to stand there with their legs spread wide not to be clenching their cheecks.