Fetishes/paraphilias

My fetish is twofold, medical examinations, and circumcision, and also to a lesser extent, restraint and corporal punishment, all stemming from my childhood.

I am also interested how my fetishes and experiences link in with my sexuality, and probable being on the autistic spectrum,

One of the posters mentioned them choking on ether fumes,

I can somewhat relate. I have always been drawn to oral things for some reason, from an early age. I had a love/hate relationship as a child with looking vulnerable. Medical exams, saying "ahhhhhhh" became a bit of a turn on. Dental exams and having my oral temperature (go figure) being taken. Ok Freud, what's going on? lol

Sexual fetishes are kinky, sometimes sexy, and sometimes weird. There’s probably a fetish for whatever thing you can think of, no matter how crazy it is. One that stood out for me was Cake Sitting. At least 2 sex workers have even made a business out of it.

https://nypost.com/2018/08/24/cake-sitter-makes-frosting-fetish-dreams-come-true/

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/lindsay-dye-cake-sitting-cam-girl_n_5b44ce78e4b07aea75449ac9

Taking it a step farther, Cake Farting is also a fetish and videos can be found on various porn sites. Girls (not implying only women do this) literally sit on a cake and fart on it!!!

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5cae069916a76

In the research that I've done over a lifetime, I've learned that fetishes usually develop over an attraction to certain objects. The objectification is often carried to an extreme that results in potentially unfavorable behaviors. They are often tied to some ultimate sexual stimulation or other mental health issues. In my case, enema and douche equipment are the crux of my “fetish” although some rubber/latex items can also trigger a reaction. My fetish is manageable and has not resulted in illegal or socially unacceptable behavior. In fact, I quite enjoy it as a hobby.

The associated paraphilia, often called “klismaphilia”, is usually described as an aberrant behavior or deviant behavior in psychology texts. Some paraphilias are actually illegal and result in very negative consequences for practitioners. My use and enjoyment of enemas is neither illegal nor likely to bring harm to someone else. In fact, people of a like mind or attraction can practice this paraphilia without fear of running afoul of legal or social norms. That is, of course, assuming that each participant consents and the activities are not likely harmful or dangerous. This is where moderation and safe, sane use is practiced.

As others have indicated, lumping all into an exclusive group doesn't recognize the nuances that are often involved. It certainly hasn't allowed the “professionals” to treat individuals who may desire to overcome their attractions. Aversion therapy would likely never eliminate my love of a good enema or those beautiful pieces of equipment, especially the vintage items from my upbringing. Besides, why would I ever want to?

BTW…I carry on an otherwise normal, healthy, and professional lifestyle!

Oh Yes, mine certainly was caused by, during my childhood. When I was a kid didn't ward in a large children's hospital we wore a wrist cuff on our right hand. This was my four laws about restraints and seclusion and shots and all that. If you acted up they would cuff your hand to a rail on the front of the nurses station and sit on this bench so they were happy. You still wouldn't calm down and get a shot... If they couldn't restrain you or give you a shot anymore for the day they put you in isolation which were padded closets like 4x8.

I love the medical restraints, like I wouldn't lay down on the table to have an EEG when I was having a seizure so they restrained me.

This has continued through my adult life too.

Got into a BDSM relationship within a few years that really developed it and showed me.

Over the years I developed from that sub to a Dom now, mostly I still like to be the patient but I'm mostly the doctor.

I have a different sense of smell because I have sensory processing disorders socks and shoes and feet.

I had some of the trauma not so much that I was abused but I had seen other people abused and when the other kids were talking about why would he want to put his penis in your butt, I was thinking I want to put my penis in that moth..fu..kers butt even though I was only 11 years old I was bigger than that m***********. And I still enjoy fuckimg old heavier men in the ass.

Also I've been restrained medically like when I had pneumonia I got up from the ICU got dressed went down the hall collapsed and they hauled me back into bed and I did it again so they put a lap belt on me and ankle cuffs. I've been restrained with pneumonia or such when I was a full risk about five or six times.

Been restrained in the ambulance on the way to the hospital a number times both to the ER and to the side hospital.

Been restraining ER because I ran off or tried to anyway.

I got a gown, slipper, sock and disposable underwear fetish because I was on isolation or quiet room for a week and I'm a hypersexual, so the only thing I had to jack off to was those three things and i and being locked in a room. It don't matter where I am or what it is, if I'm horny I'm going to beat off and I'm going to get off to it and those thoughts all combined you consider 7 days of 5 or 6 times a day of jacking off, that's 35 times I'm jacking off being locked in a room in a gown, slipper, socks and disposable underwear got into them hard. I was still young and I still get off 2 to 4 ... I'm 50 now.

Hybristophilia, a condition where sexual arousal is linked to a partner who acts out against society via outrage and crime, is one scientific reason why women might be drawn to serial killers—and even, in some cases, have romantic relationships with them. There seems to be a sexual attraction to mass merderes. Some of there reasons cited are:

• the not-so-uncommon desire for the “bad boy,” particularly with more immature females
• attraction to deviance, which can trigger in the brain the release of the neurotransmitter norepinephrine, which itself increases arousal and attention; in other words, the deviance of the relationship can be felt positively
• feeling she can change him . promise of fame
• mental instability
• feeling of being “special” in that he chose her of all the women seeking him
• potentially financial in terms of selling the story or the killer’s memorabilia
• fascination with wanting to understand darkness,
• Many mass murderers are sought after Ted Bundy received hundreds of love letters while behind bars and Richard Ramirez married one of his “fans,” so did Tex Watson, Lyle Mendendez, Angelo Buono (Hillside Strangler). Now, Accused murderer Brian Kohberger has a lot of admirers on Reddit who want to send him gifts and money.

What a way to attract women - and what about the women you attract???

I enjoy being explored. I get so nervous and shy about it but the after thoughts can be some of the most erotic fantasies for me. It can be little things during a session that turn me on. For example, remembering the gloved fingers being inserted and filling my vaginal walls and the way it felt. I love hearing the explanations too during an exam.

Miss marcia I believe my fixation with nappies and plastic pants stems from my mothers eagerness to get me out of them as quickly as possible. I have never talked to her about it because I doubt that she would think that she did anything wrong and although I had a very happy early childhood the events in question are just a bit further back than I can remember.

My fetish for wearing diapers and rubber pants I'm sure was influenced by my mother's lack of interest in potty training me, or put another way, her passivity in letting me wet my bed nightly well into my teens and insisting on pinning my diapers on me every night. Unpinning them in the morning, doing my diaper hygiene and even making me wear diapers and rubber pants when we went out during the day on longer car rides, go to the drive in movies, have fun at amusement parks, visit our relatives.

In some ways I don't think she wanted me to grow up, but liked that I was dependent on her, especially when I was in my teens and my dad was away on business. And I grew very dependent on her taking care of me, diapering me and letting me play with myself in my diapers. Something she knew I was doing long before she said anything about it to me.

By the time I was 17, I was ejaculating whenever I wore diapers and once I stopped wetting my bed I still wanted to wear diapers just to ejaculate in them..

My strongest likes center around themes of blindness and vision loss/eyes loss and also around full time blindness pretending. I'm a really touch and voice focused person so I think into those fantasies easily. I love the dependency and helplessness factor of it.

That I also find in my other paraphilias, such as fantasizing about being physically completely immobilized (on breathing support) and this also satisfies my med non-fet, realistic medical settings cravings. Especially medically necessary encasement in an iron lung. Medical exams and tests connected to my damaged breathing.

Ambulance transfers too that require multiple personnel because of my projected helpless condition.

Diapers out of a medical need, to some degree but without too much detail.

I very much like to embrace uncontrolled movements/sounds and insanity themes for my projected character. With this one, I get the unintentional self-embarrassing element more. Probably the voyeur element is also amplified in these for me because of attracting more attention. And, of course: medically necessary restraints. A great one for me 😃

I also have a strong leaning towards realistic medical discussions that evolve around the permanent nature of the physical handicap I'm imagining for myself, like the delivery of bad news, doctors discussing my case between them, planning for my future after my discharge.

Finally, I also have a great like for writing M x M erotic scenes that take place either in a vehicle or in the kitchen. Although that may not be so strange at all.

I mostly imagine myself as the softer, receiving (bottom) part of the match but if my character is the older one in age than the other man then I can also see myself as the more initiating (top) part.

I'm not into Bsdm/dom-sub culture.

Adult age characters only for me.

K.

Sex - hahaha - taken any noun, pronoun, verb, adverb, adjective - any time of day - any place or season - and, somebody someplace will “get off” on it. Example: running with a can opener on a summer afternoon at the lake…. I guarantee somebody will find that sexually exciting.