Diaper change in public

What do you think would be the best way to change in a public restroom, without being too obvious? I will be taking a long car trip soon and I will probably be needing frequent changes in places like these

Well, we try to find restrooms that are not extraordinarily busy for starters.

You'll be shocked by how LOUD undoing diaper tapes are when you first pull one apart in a public restroom. That Zzzaaarrrrt sound suddenly seems like 85 decibels, minimum.

And I know of no way to look "normal" while changing your diaper if someone was to choose to look at your feet under the edge of the stall while in mid change. We both "back up" against something to hold our nappy in place while we get the top tapes done up. So it is pretty clear we are not sitting on the john and why would anyone be standing sideways with their pants down etc etc.

We try to find places with single locking bathrooms. If no go, head for the far corner stall so that your feet are as little visible as possible. And take along a plastic grocery bag so you have something to put the used nappy in as you try to discretely make it to the trash to deposit it!

Good advice tomb. And another thing try to be as slow as possible when tearing the tapes it makes it more quite then just ripping the diaper tapes off. However if you do get caught so what!! who are these poeple to judge why you need diapers?

yes you will be embaressed a little but when you reach your car and drive away you will see you are alive and no harm has come your way other then a bruised ego

[quote author=mamasboy link=topic=18227.msg181142#msg181142 date=1234664803]

However if you do get caught so what!! who are these poeple to judge why you need diapers?[/quote]

Damn straight! Exactly our approach, and why wearing on travel is so fun and easy.

I remember a wonderfully fun breakfast we had together on a ferry, with both of us completely soaked and wondering if we were going to leak, and both of us peeing again cause we had to go! (Again!) While having an obvious diaper leak was not really our goal, so what if it happened?

We did both end up getting changed in different ferry restrooms after breakfast, and that was when I first noted the 85 decibel diaper tapes!

I've had to do that when I was out in public and didn't want to embarrass myself by wetting my diapers and having them leak, so what I did was to go into a bathroom and look for a stall that at the end and pull down my pants and my plastic pants and unpin the diaper on one side go pee or poo it that's the case,then suck in my gut and pin that side of the diaper so that it's at least snug and wont fall down,slowly pull my plastic pants back up and my jeans and wash my hands

One tactic that can make changing in a public restroom a bit less challenging is to use a booster pad. If I change soon enough, I can usually just change the booster pad, which involves only a quick un-tape and re-tape. I use Abri-Let Normal booster pads when I expect to have to change away from home. At home, I use cloth baby diapers, even with Abena Super disposables.

Another tactic, which I have not tried, is to use two booster pads and remove the interior pad when it's done its job.

Another tactic is to wear either an Abena Abri-Wing or a Tena-Flex which has a belt that you wrap around your waist and then the diaper pad is pulled up from the back and secures to the belt on the front. They are also good for taking on and off when you need to drop a deuce. You can just undo the front and not the belt so the diaper doesn't even have to completely come off, and it is velcro so it is easily re-applied. These can easily be applied while standing in any direction and easily adjusted to fit. If going into a crowded restroom i recommend opening it up beforehand and loosening all the tabs and belts to they don't make noise when you are in the bathroom. Just fold it up for transport.

I also carry a paper bag from like a fast food place because it's not see through when disposing of the wet diapers.

No one know what you are doing in a locked washroom except Diaper Lovers 😁

No one will know if you need to wear a diaper for medical reasons, if it will be another diaper lover he nay look at you different,

any way, I change my self in public restroom and throw the used diaper without making too much of it.

I usually change in the washroom at work, it's not a very big washroom so I'll go into a stall and wait for anyone else to leave if any one is there, then I change as fast as I can before someone else comes in.

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I will be taking a long car trip soon and I will probably be needing frequent changes in places like these

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That really depends on the country in which you are travelling. In the US the stalls are usually not all the way to the floor.

But in some countries (notably the Netherlands) they always seem to have a completely separate room for the toilet. This would be no problem at all!

Asia seems to vary all over, in Thailand at a bus lunch stop all of the toilets were in one long row! Men on the left, women on the right - sort of. The walls came to the ground, but the doors had about an 18 inch opening at the bottom and the whole place was open at the top under a roof. I would guess there were around 20 stalls all told.

The only "western" style toilets were the handicap ones (unisex) at the front of the row. The center was a large one, about the size of a typical shopping center with dozens of buses coming and going.

I would think that the handicap stall would always be the stall of choice though, even if only for the extra room!

And if some should be looking into the bottom of your stall and saw a disposable or cloth diaper and plastic pants on the floor why would you care? It's really none of his/her business, is it?

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And if some should be looking into the bottom of your stall and saw a disposable or cloth diaper and plastic pants on the floor why would you care? It's really none of his/her business, is it?

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Of course it is none of their business, but some of us still prefer a degree of privacy. Just curious, but do you change your diaper in fully public places? Or would you rather have a degree of privacy?

I would much rather have privacy of course . But as we all know when you need a diaper change, you need a diaper change!!! It doesnt matter where you are you or who your with , i would rather be embaressed in fornt of a few men changing my diaper in a stall then be embaresses in fornt of say a mall of people becuase my diaper leaked all over me. Knwo what i mean? Yes i want privacy but if i need a diaper chnage then im changing it now and wherever i can regardless of who may hear me tkaing off and putting on my diaper

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I would much rather have privacy of course .

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My point exactly. I prefer privacy, but am not going to have a crises if I cannot get it.

I need for med reason but I wanted to share. I go to our local YMCA and change in the lockerrooms just like everyone else. There has been one pointing or laughter at all. Now I have had a few people question me kindly on where I got my cloth diapers and larger plastic pants. Most were from father that have a little older kids that still needed night time usage ones. I just tell them the truth that they can be obtained on line and that they can be gotten in an assortment of sizes,colors and even print to make it less of a just plain old white world. Most people now aday mind their own bussiness. Just don't show fear and act like you are totaly embarrassed and they will think you are use to it and have needed them for a long time and will say nothing. If someone does say any thing try to be helpful as they will then think you really do need them. Who knows you might even help someone else keep their bed dry at night from it.

Question: Is it appropriate for a male in his sixties with urinary incontinence to use a family restroom in, say, a department store? The privacy would be nice. Or as an alternative, is it appropriate for me to use a stall for the disabled in a men's restroom? I do not consider myself disabled, but it sure is easier to change.

I want privacy of course but usually I've change in public toilets and made sure that most if not all stalls were empty. I was always nervous about some guy suddenly sitting in a stal beside me but it never happened and if it did I'm sure I could come with a reasonable explanation

I use the Family restroom when they are available if not I use the handicapped stall.

My advice is to use a restrom that locks, ive had to change in rest areas and didnt really feel comfortable doing so but usually gas stations have a lock so thats how i preferr to change on the road, as far as taking it in with you (your new diaper) i usually have a bag or backpack

I had change my diaper before in the restroom, that was last time when i went clubbing and i just slip on my goodnites and go. Changed and throw my diaper in the bin inside the restroom lol 😜

Just do it. The problem is in your head. If someone hears, let them hear. The will pretend that they didn't hear.

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If someone hears, let them hear.[/quote]

To each their own. My wife prefers not to be discovered, so we play it differently.

You wear in public a lot, then?

I hope you through it in the trash in stead of leaving it there to disgust others, ???

I agree with tomb and mama's boy... if your changing in the public restroom away from where you live I say just go at it, those people don't know who you are, and for all they know you have a medical condition 😉

What they don't know doesn't hurt them, and if they judge you, well that is there own problem.

I would really only be worried about doing this publicly if you live in a small town where you see a lot of the same people often, then I wouldn't ever attempt it cause eventually someone would probably ask.

And something else to mention, who says that wearing a diaper is against the norm? How do we know that NOT wearing diapers is against the norm? 😃 That's how I have always justified my DL fetish, I have tried to treat it and get rid of it over the years, but as I get older I grow to embrace it more 😄

Do you find you become desensitized to it?

best,

A.

I tried that one! It was a walgreens diaper and I soaked it ( didn't take much though). I went to borders and looked at some manga and then decided to change. So I went to the bathroom and once I opened the door I heard a VERY large fart followed by squirting sounds. EWWW, I thought! I just proceeded to the far stall and undid tapes and all that jazz. In the end he NEVER heard me because of his big big BIG trouble! lol That was funny!

Somtims i change at plublic toilet and put muy derty diaper in a plastic bag

I almost never change my diapers in a multistall restroom. Especially the busy ones like you find in airports. There are always better options such as the family, unisex restrooms that are becoming so common in malls, large department stores and public places like airports.

At the mall, I always change my diapers in the unisex restrooms. Several of my favorites have a large granite diaper changing counter built into the wall that is strong enough to hold me weight and large enough for me to comfortably lie down. I always get excited knowing that hundreds of infants have lain in that exact same spot getting diapers changed just like me.

If I am feeling a bit risky, I like to stay in the room lying peacefully on the changing counter until I hear someone trying the door handle and sometimes then knocking at the door. Once that happens, I will quickly put my clothes back on and leave the family restroom never knowing what is waiting for me outside the door. About half the time I discover that whomever was knocking has either left or just used the ladies restroom instead. But the excitement occurs when it is a mom impatiently waiting for me. Some of them don't act very upset while others give me a dirty look which I don't respond to. But then there are others who feel obligated to complain and tell me that I shouldn't be using that restroom. The first couple of times I just slinked away but no more.

If the woman doing the complaining has grade school children with her, I just tell her that 'some people have special needs that aren't obvious' and leave it at that since I don't want to involve children. But if the woman has only a small infant or toddler, I quickly pull up my shirt to reveal the disposable diaper that I have made sure is several inches above my waistband. I'll follow up with telling her something along the line that I was in there doing the exact same thing that she is getting ready to do with her child.

The look on the faces of these women when they are that I am diapered is priceless. Most of them apologize, a few just get quite and ignore me. But not once has one of them complained or assumed that my diaper wear was anything but a medically necessary condition. I always leave my wrapped up and used diaper at the top of the trash can and have always wanted to see their reaction when they see it and realize just how wet or even messy I was.

Hello i learnt to just change and not care if anyone else would notice.