Examined by the same sex

I prefer to be examined by females, men scare me slightly.

I prefer it when a woman examines me. I have nothing against a male doctor, but I prefer a woman. When a man undresses in front of a man and undergoes an examination it is as if he gave up. I've never been examined naked by a much younger woman. I don't know how wtey he felt.

I get what the OP is saying. I’ve had bi experiences sure but my primary attraction is to men. I’m monagamous with my husband but were I ever to branch out it would probably be in the guise of a play exam by a woman play doc. That and blowing my husband with another woman. 2 chicks on one cock just turns me on, not sure why.

I've only ever been examined by the same sex, but since I'm gay, I guess my equivalent to your fetish would be an examination by the opposite sex. Gotta admit that I probably would be turned off by it. I like watching CFNM videos, but I think that's my interest in seeing the NM. I don't think being the NM in a real-life CFNM situation now that I'm in my 40s would be very interesting to me. Being the NM in a CMNM situation though is still a huge turn-on, so I can see where you're coming from.

Women are gentler is my experience.

But my first and most and only truly erotic medical exam was at age 12 while being examined by my male pediatrician. His hands were warm, soft, and gentle. Though I’m heterosexual and have only been with women, that exam remains a powerful memory.

I'm female and I'm only aroused by male doctors. Female doctors don't do anything for me at all. I suppose that has mostly to do with the fact that I always had male doctors as a kid when my fascination with being naked in front of male doctors developed.

@pdxman I don't think this is strange. Fetish vs. romantic vs. sexual partners can be different things/identities and each with their own preferences.

I for one sexually am more interested in women, but when it comes to med-fet my most enjoyable experiences have been with male play doctors, to include things like masturbation, anal stimulation, and ejaculation. Sexuality can certainly be more complicated that just who you prefer to have sex with for sure!

I think that this is a complex question. On the one hand, the prospect of being examined by a female for a straight male likely is laden with sexual preoccupation. The very fact that one is surrendering to the female and exposed in ways that reveal all is a powerful source of arousal. It doesn't take much for the penis to react to touch and touch there will be. It's only a matter of when and whether one's briefs are off or merely lowered. Surely one will avoid eye contact as she grasps our sack. Genital and likely rectal examination has to heighten one's sensitivity to respond. Responding to her commands is absolute. One doesn't want to appear sheepish. Secretly, one wants the penis to look bold and not shriveled. The fear of appearing inferior; not measuring up is huge. Alas, there is no guarantee when it is being held between her fingers. The gentle rotation of each testicle reminds you that you are at her mercy. At this point, tension merely builds. So for most of us, the embarrassment would be huge along with the inevitable spontaneous erection. Then comes the directive for your DRE to which you obey but may fantasize as her finger twists fully up your passage.

As for a male to male exam, the tables are turned. Throughout all of this, the sensitivity to touch and reaction of the penis and anus is like no other moment.

Here, the focus may be more on what is to happen. The sequence of events sets in motion a very strong psychological process, if you will, that has us wondering how much of me will he see and touch. The time spent waiting for the doctor leads to tension and likely erection activity. For some, the days preceding the exam is met with ongoing masturbation and reliving previous physicals. Once there, one is likely to ruminate about undressing as if being strategically stripped or required to show all and to do so promptly. The sudden awareness of “How will I measure up,” happens fast, and then the evidence is revealed as one lowers his underpants. The doing of this is so personal. The only question is whether to be bold and lower your briefs while facing the examiner or turn as if to shield yourself. Of course, the doctor can trump all by saying, “Toss your briefs on the chair and stand here.” There could be other variations like having to raise one’s hips and be told to lower or more importantly, remove one’s underpants. Now you are naked and there is no hiding.

I suspect for the male to male exam, there may be less thought about using a modesty sheet since, “Heck, we are all males here.”

For some, this moment is met by a gradual erection such that it engenders pride when the penis assumes the “L” position. The doctor has to navigate this with skill and gentleness. The inevitable testicular exam heightens awareness and if erect, only adds to the possibility of producing some precum. The obligatory hernia exam and the necessity to cough while his finger pushes up the inguinal canal has to garner one’s attention. It is only moments away from the snap of fresh gloves, the appearance of KY, and the directive to either turn onto one’s side or bend over the exam table. If your doc is very discipline, you could have two rectal exams given, one in each position.

Regardless of the sex of the examiner, the exam when done completely is a full on journey into becoming submissive and allowing for one’s private parts to become the focus on attention. How you react is a product of past experiences as well as fantasy thoughts and the ability to allow yourself to be “present in the moment” when it’s “Your Turn.”

I have no problem with it. In fact that is all I have ever had were female doctors. The one who delivered me and my sister and was our peds doctor and regular doctor until I moved down here. I had her find me, someone, down here that is just like her. She did and wow. I have to say that my doctor is gorgeous. I have to keep my mind off of what is about to happen. Of course, my sister and her girlfriend do not help because they always tease me. So I can relate. The first doctor retired.

I have been examined by both sexes and it was nice,sometimes wonder what it would feel like to be examined by m/f doctor at the same time,just thinking of that scenario is very arousing.

I prefer being examined by a woman physician. I've been wearing diapers and rubber pants most of the time and feel much more comfortable when a woman exams me, since she will inevitably see me with only my diapers and rubber pants on. I'm afraid a male doctor would be critical and disapproving of my wearing diapers when I don't have a medical reason for wearing them. My primary care doctor is a woman who I told some years ago that I decided to wear diapers for my own peace of mind and not because I'm incontinent. She has acted much like my mother did and has been understanding, not totally accepting that I like to wear diapers and go potty in them, but accepts my choices non the less and doesn't give me a hard time. Usually her nurse will help me take my diapers off before my doctor gives me a full exam and I have to admit I usually have erections when she unpins my diapers and removes them before I'm examined. It doesn't last for long, goes soft quickly, but I do get aroused.

I’ve never been attracted to my own sex, so during the times that I’ve been examined by a male doctor, nothing sexual ever registered. If I’m sick or injured, I only want relief. For all I care, the gender means nothing.

I have been examined by both male and female doctors. I don't really have a preference as long as who ever I am seeing is competent in what they are doing. As for the med fet aspect of it. I have found my self getting aroused by a female nurse practitioner giving me a physical and also by a male doctor giving me a physical. I don't think the gender of the doctor matters. It's the exam it's self, it's what they do to me and the way that makes me feel that arouses me. Not whether they are male or female.

When I am examined by male doctors, I do not feel any embarrassment. Although this does not suit me very much, I am more frank with them than with female doctors. As a child, I experienced great embarrassment from examinations by female doctors and imagined how easy it would be if there were male doctors in their place.

I had a male pediatrician, who I liked very much. Very kind, gentle, consistent. But the exams were always very embarrassing for me. And exciting too. I've had a few gynocologists and most have been female. Either is OK, as long as they communicate well.

For play exams, I've never been the "doctor" for a female patient, just been the patient, which is crave. Never been examined by a guy and at the moment don't have any desire to. But I like examining a certain type of guy, that is, a very submissive one.

I have always had female gynecologists. It's not that overly modest. I just want someone that is authority doing it. Unless the male has had a sex change he doesn't have one. He can't possibly know what I feel there. I mean going to a male for a vaginal examination would be like going to a dentist who was born without teeth. How in the hell would a dentist know what a toothache feels like if he. she never had teeth?

@ddell2 It's interesting because I've heard exactly the opposite opinion from a female friend of mine. She had some experiences with female gynecologists who would tell her that something does not hurt, or pass judgment on her, because, they argued, as females they knew what they were talking about. In contrast, she told me, male gynecologists avoid this.

My sister had a similar problem with a female physical education teacher. That teacher basically ordered female students to wear tampons not to skip swimming lessons. If they argued that they could not use tampons (my sister had a tight hymen and tampons hurt; I guess some girls have vaginismus), the teacher would tell them not to bullshit her, that as a female she knew what she was talking about, and so on.

These "professionals" acted insensitively according to the fallacy that since they are females, they know anything that a female can feel with their sexual organs, so if a problem did not happen to them, it cannot happen to any woman and those who claim it happened to them lie or at least exaggerate. It is as absurd as a male denying that there is such a thing as premature ejaculation because it never happened to him.

It doesn't really matter to me if I am examined by a male or a female as long as a dre is included!

For me, I prefer female doctors & pracitioners as I have found them to be more empathetic & thorough. Not always, but in general.

I have no objections to male doctors, but it seems I encounter more females in general practice.

From a medfet/arousal standpoint - female definitely. For me, it's largely about the power dynamic and role reversal.

From a play standpoint - never had a partner with any interest in medfet.

Several folks have commented on their experiences with a pediatrician as being foundational. As a kid, I never had a pediatrician. We only saw the doctor for major things like serious illness or broken bones. We'd go to the clinic for shots, but I have no memory of childhood physical exams

In the real doc world I have only had male doctors but I think I would not have a problem with a female. In the play world I would be open to giving or receiving an exam by a female but it has been all males so far.

@Pecan_nutjob My sister had a similar problem with a female physical education teacher. That teacher basically ordered female students to wear tampons not to skip swimming lessons. If they argued that they could not use tampons (my sister had a tight hymen and tampons hurt; I guess some girls have vaginismus), the teacher would tell them not to bullshit her, that as a female she knew what she was talking about, and so on.

Although I lived on the South Coast of France for a couple of years, I don't know much about your legal system. In America, if a teacher ordered someone to wear a tampon, she or he for that matter would be opening themselves to a lawsuit that the plaintiff most assuredly would win.

I don’t think the original poster is wrong or weird to identify as heterosexual with only female romantic/sexual partners, but still have a strong desire to engage in medical fetishism with a male play doctor.

I firmly believe that sexual fetishes can be separate from our romantic/intimacy desires or how we sexually identify. Particularly true, in my opinion, if you are in the patient role, where you don’t have to actually touch the play doctor back necessarily. Yes, the male play doctor is likely at some point to touch said heterosexual male patient’s genitals and likely to make him ejaculate during the exam, but its fetish-related sexual gratification. I believe this is far different cognitively than mutual sexual play between two consenting same sex adults from an intimacy standpoint.

I am certain there are also heterosexual play doctors out there who have no problem with conducting a same-sex play exam too, and I would love to hear their thoughts on this topic too. I suspect this is less the case though.

In short, I don’t think it makes someone “gay” to go through a same sex fetish exam. It’s about fulfilling the sexual roles, not so much the gender of who is in what role.

I am very fascinated by this discussion. May I mention my own wrinkle on this?

I'm a gay male, very much male attracted. However, sometimes in gay circles, I tend to perceive this sort of pressure in sexual situations to "perform," hence, I end up having ridiculous performance anxiety, and will sometimes opt out of situations where sex may/can/will happen.

Now, for me and medical, I am still very much male-oriented. I don't have any real inclination to submit to a female's play exam. If anything, in the real world, having a female caretaker will often help me get out of my head and stay sane when I really need medical attention. But back to play scenarios, I like reading about straight or heteroflexible guys who don't mind male patients. If anything, this takes all the stress off of me "in case sex happens" because it won't. I can then focus on the attraction to the devices, the procedures, etc. And if a sperm sample ends up being a part of it, pfft, that's easy. I can do that if I need to.

Having said all this, it doesn't mean I won't play with a gay male play doc. Front of the line, please! But for the straight and heteroflexible guys... thank you, you just improved my chances of getting a real play exam because someone out there will be getting a first-timer. Hopefully soon. (meaning, the above is all in theory. I'm still figuring this all out)

And for the original poster... I'm hoping to have the play credentials some day to make it possible for another male play doc (me) to be out there practicing to return the favor. But one thing at a time.

I’ve never had a play exam done by the same sex. I have had two instances of genital exams in real exams done by male providers, yet if it is by choice I only see female providers. I was in my early 20’s when a male provider checked me for hernias and in my late 20’s when I had to see the first available provider at the office I went to. That was due to it being for a urinary issue that involved a prostate exam and thorough genital exam. When I was checked for hernias there was no arousal. But the second exam while the male palpated my penis I did get erect.

I am very on the fence of allowing a male to do a play exam, I think it would be interesting to try but there would have to be firm rules set first.

I have had both male and female doctors, and, although I have a preference for female doctors, I have no problem with men. It is more tthe handing over of control to someone who will be completely examining you, including your most intimate parts and hidden recesses that do it for me. As long as the exam is completed by a competent practitioner, all is good.

I was mainly managed by a male doctor my entire life, but my doctor's practice has hired several women PAs that I now see from time to time. I must say that even at my Urologist visit, the females give the deepest and most thorough rectal examination. My male doctors are in and out in seconds but the female ones linger and rub and rub and rub that little walnut in my butt. Not sure why, but it's just that way. Not complaining in the least though.

I must say that even at my Urologist visit, the females give the deepest and most thorough rectal examination. My male doctors are in and out in seconds but the female ones linger and rub and rub and rub that little walnut in my butt. Not sure why, but it's just that way.

I have similar experiences. Women do it longer and more thoroughly. I think for some women, it gives them a sense of power over a man. A man being examined rectally by a woman feels like a stallion being examined by a veterinarian.

I always prefer being examined by a female doctor, I consider them to generally be more caring and empathetic?, having said that when I was young most doctors were male and much sterner and “no-nonsense” and I did find that a little erotic.🤷‍♂️

Over the years I have been examined by both male and female doctors. whenever I have a choice, I always choose female doctors. I find it mildly erotic and I just don't like being touched by other men.