How to approach

I was always shy about it at first but find that a great many- yes many- are into the same kinks and often are eager to participate. No use searching across the country when you can find it in your own neighborhood............

As a partner in a marriage which is a one sided interest in medical fantasy, I would be thankful if my other half found out about my secret and wanted to share with me. I agree the suggestion about the girls at work is the best. He will most probably see through it, but it is an opening that is easier, than a direct realization that you found out on the computer. Good luck

Tell him you have an exam coming up, it worries you, and could he "help you out" with a little simulation? Tell him he'd make a great doctor...

Any way you bring it up is fine..I realize you asked for advise.And generously been provided many choices..

** truth guys *

Girls talk ALOT about very personal stuff growing up as Teens..That doesn't change as they get older and wiser..Locker room talk between women would probably make many of you blush..

Make the move darling..and explore new territory with you man 😜

Amen to that last post. Honesty is always the best policy. Let him know of your interest or curiosity -- and/or your willingness to engage in some preliminary exploration and play. I'm sure he will be thrilled. And you will discover a new dimension to your relationship with him. Let yourself go, honey -- and let us know how it goes!

I'm embarrassed to tell my girlfriend about a lot of my fetishes because I think it would freak her out. If she found out and was in to it enough to do something with me, that would be awesome. I really hope she would approach me about it and offer to explore it with me. That would really be awesome.

The honest way is always the best way! I think any guy would be grateful for that. Plus, as one of the other replies stated... if you tell him that you saw some things on his computer that turned you on...he will stop hearing any other words from that point on! You'll sound like Charlie Brown's teacher ...wah wah wah wah wwah!. Then he will probably say... you had me at "turned me on"

My wife knows i have this fantacy.But is not interested in playing the game.And she does medical billing!!!

Well this is not much of an answer but it would be finding the paradise, I mean I have the best girlfriend of the world and she knows about my fetish but no way with her.

If I find a nice girl with the sme interests it would be forever, I think

I'm a nurse, so if my guy were into med fantasy--no problem! But you could mention you want a career change and you were thinking of going into nursing. Borrow a nursing textbook from the library, maybe a book on physical diagnosis (or nursing assessment) and have it out for him to see. Read it. Then ask if you can practice on him! Show him the section on male genitalia...

Betsy RN

I think you are very lucky to share the same interests. I have told my boyfriend about it a couple of times and he has laughed at me....he is not interested at all. I wish he could share this with me.

The Joy of Sex talks about how everyone has fantasies, and actually a lot of peole have similar fantasies, I don't think the med thing is actually all that uncommon. I think using "Joy..." or some other sex manual is a good way to discuss ANY sex thing that you might be reluctant to bring up, seeing things in print legitimizes them, and makes you ralize, oh, it's not just me, geez....

You might ask him if he ever played "dcotor" when he was a kid. This sort of thing is so common, and so relatively innocent, that it should not make him fell defensive. You could then suggest that you try with him, in a very vanilla way - no tools or particular set pieces, just playing in the bedroom.

If my wife found out I was looking at this site I would want her to tell me she was interested to,now if she was going to get mad i would be a different story

So I've been thinking about this one for a while and reading a lot of the responses and have come up with some of my own ideas on this one.

First off, for the poster who said if they were going to bring it up, they would do so in an innocent "hey i saw this, what do you think" kind of way... I totally agree with you. I think it's important to bring up potentially touchy subjects in a way that makes it feel that both parties are curious about them. I think it makes both people feel more supported and safe that way.

Secondly, the one thing I wanted to point out is that all of the replies here seem to feel that the guy in question is naturally going to be the dominant one in the equation. I think it's a good idea to approach it in a way that doesn't really say who would be on what side of things either.

If we approach this stuff in a non-confrontational manner and not with any stereotypes, then I feel its a conversation that starts awkward, but quickly gets to a point where it's an open and honest conversation.

I tried to approach my wife about this subject be was was severely rebuffed. Now separated. I wanted to watch her annual exam.

Because of spending a lot of time in hospitals when I was young I developed a medical fetish when I grew older. I´ve once told my wife about this when I was drunk, she accepted it and didn´t find me perverted or sick. After that I have introduced her into medical roleplaying. She doesnt enjoy it because it´s not her "thing", but she plays along because she knows I enjoy it. She doesn´t dislike it. So I consider myself fairly lucky. 😜

I feel the best approach is a direct approach. What has worked best for me is to always bring it up in bed. Tell him you have this fantasy, and you want him to help you with it. During foreplay, tell him you will act out one of his fantasies with him, if he will act out one of your fantasies with you. Tell him you would like him to give you a gynecological examination. Once he finds out how hot this makes you, and how enjoyable the sex is, it will probably happen more often. Under no circumstances admit that you found the website he was visiting on his computer, it would be like him asking you about a man's phone number her found in your purse.

My GF just came out and told me that she was turned on by exams. It's been fun ever since.

The fantasy of the exam is arrousing

Sharing sexual fantasies can be a great way to keep your relationship passionate and exciting. Rather than just tell your partner your own sexual fantasy, why not encourage her to do the same? Chances are, she has a sexual fantasy she would also like to share. Even if she isn't into your fantasy (or you aren't into hers), you should still be an able to have an open, honest conversation about your sexuality.

You can also try creating a "fantasy suggestion box," in which each of you writes down a sexual fantasy and puts it in a suggestion box in the bedroom. Whenever things get dull, pull out a fantasy from the box and act it out. By accepting and exploring each other's sexual fantasies, you create an atmosphere that can help each grow as a sexual being and help you grow as a couple, too.

The way to bring this about in convo is to be straight but light heartly mention that you would like your hubby to join you next time your at the doctors office for a yearly check up .or just sit on him before you make love and messing around say the odd word but kiss him and dont let him talk everytime he does try to talk kiss him again and whisper i want you to watch me have a gyn check up or say play doc . and it should be a nice way to break the ice