Enema fetish as addiction?

Hi, all. I'm wondering what you all think about the addictive aspect (if any) of an enema fetish. Sometimes when I'm fantasizing about enemas, or reading other people's stories or viewing picture galleries, I think the excitement makes my body pump addictive hormones into my bloodstream. I get shakey, my heartbeat gets a little funny, I stay horny for a long time, even after masturbation. Maybe a sexual partner who shares my fetish would bring closure, and leave me calm. In any case, an actual enema seems to leave me fulfilled, and back to normal. I'm a little concerned about the possible auto-addictive possibilities, though. Any thoughts or experiences you want to share?

Hi Sphinx. Enemas and suppositories can be perfectly addictive! They don't introduce chemicals that you become physiologically addicted to, but what they do is safer and better. They seem to incorporate the perfect combination of what's going on inside and outside. Bowels were designed to be easily habituated - that's why we can get toilet trained! Inside, E&S certainly stimulate your intestinal system to release endorphins, which is generally common to mucous membranes, but they combine that with the huge rewards of elevated sex hormones and sexual release. And an additional but unproven theory of my own and of others is that they stimulate your entire nervous system to release a powerful spurt of neurotransmitters (which I will explain in a different post) - making it almost uniquely effective, physiologically. On the outside, depending on your circumstances, you have the intimacy of sharing something special, a bit naughty, with a partner, learning that it all goes best when you totally relax and let her control your most personal body functions, letting her extend that guidance a little farther, perhaps, with a little edge of melting fear.

I have no question that I could make you perfectly addicted in six weeks or so. And I'm not speaking of doing anything odd, no really overt bdsm. I'm confident because I've done it to hubby and a friend has to hers; I'll write about those in another post as well.

Here's what I really want to write to you now, though. First of all, enemas are fine for you, physically. They might be beneficial and they might be neutral, but unless you get nutty and try weird recipes or do them multiple times daily, they won't hurt you. What they can do is give you and your partner a way that she can automatically relax you, dissipate a bad mood, turn you on, feel very special intimacy. These are things that you shouldn't be afraid of letting your partner do to you, if you're in a relationship of close trust like a marriage. The risk is that instead of sharing this you might perceive it as some stigma, a sign of weirdness, and try to keep it hidden, getting turned on by peeking at shoppers in drugstores.

I think E&S can be magical for couples. I think maybe they could replace half the psychiatric sessions, not to mention eliminate the need some people see for water boarding. Most all my friends know of my special interests (because I promote them when I can). Some come to agree with me; most don't. Some of them just mention that, of course, I'm a bit weird about bottoms - but no one has ever run from me or hidden away their children because of my interest. Don't hide!

-jillie

Jillie, thanks so much for your great response.

I think it's addictive, in the sense, at least for me, of being an enjoyable and healthful recreation. I got started doing them in part because of constipation, and I REALLY began to like them, as Jillie points out, for the "stimulating side effects;" I enjoy receiving from a good giver, and I truly enjoy giving them. Why?? I'm not too sure. I've tried to analyze it all, and it seems to me that a good cleansing enema(s) are erotic because of the shared feelings, the dominance/submission aspects (I'm naturally dominant), and because of the visual and tactile stimulation. The endorphins and hormones I didn't know about, and thanks much for your contribution in that area, Jillie.

Doc.

Enemas are truly addictive. I get on runs of enema taking so that I never have a BM except with the aid of an enema. These runs never last more than a few weeks and then I am satiated until the next time.

I think the addictive side is the fetish of the enema. I have been taking enemas for years and I truely love the experience. As above my wife takes hers in private and loves the feeling afterwards but she is not "addicted" to them like I am. I can take a quick enema just for the fun of it. And then I can be alone and really have a extended enema session that satifies my needs. I have never gotten to the point where I have to have an enema for closure of any feelings. But then again I am addicted to a good cup of coffee!

Hello,Sphinx: The sensitive nature of your posts leads me to believe that you needn't be concerned about addictionto enemas....unless you feel an obsessive preoccupation with the subject....that's beyond your control!!! Like "sex", there's never "closure" per se. Only temporary satisfaction....until the next wave of urges arrive. My advice would be: Don't let analysis spoil the joy of fantasy and excitement.

Since I first experienced sensual enemas with a girlfriend in my early 20's, enemas have been at the center of my sexual fantasies, always, period. Don't know if that could be called an addiction, but it is what it is, and I made peace with it long ago.

I'm one of the lucky ones to have a spouse who participates, but I have to regulate myself or I'd want enemas every time we have sex. So, I solo to take up the slack..

There are a lot worse things you could be "addicted" to. Enjoy!

I can't claim to be addicted to the enema, but this I know: I think enemas feel wonderful: I think enemas are useful in cleaning the bowel: I know enemas to be extremely erotic: Enemas lead to glorious orgasms through masturbation (they do not cause spontaneous orgasm): Enemas are a wonderful thing to contemplate and anticipate: My wife isn't aware of my preferences regarding anal sex. I sometimes go months without the opportunity to take enemas.

From my experience, both personal and in studies i've made, almost ANY fetish is inherently addictive. If you research hypnosis, brainwashing or mind control to any extent (yes, those are also fetishes of mine 😉 ) one of the easiest and best ways to affect people's behavior is to "anchor" the desired behavior with pleasure.

If you think about what you do regarding whatever your fetishes are, they generally involve sexual arousal and eventually, sexual release. Without getting technical about endorphins and chemicals in your brain, etc., suffice it to say that engaging in any behavior that leads to a positive feeling, especially orgasm/ejaculation, etc., will "anchor" the desire for repeating that behavior in the future.

So, whether it is enemas, breasts, boots, latex, fur, hair or whatever pushes your buttons, there is a strong chance that you are simply reinforcing your own addiction to those items every time you reach a satisfying release. And yes, for enema fetishists, the release of the fluid into the toilet (or bedpan or diaper, etc.) can be a similarly pleasurable release to ejaculation!

Best wishes,

Latexman 😃

Someone has sent me a personal message suggesting that I must be 'wickedly dominant' - based on my early reply in this thread. I had thought to post a denial, but I will settle for a demurrer instead. I mean, I don't own any unusual leather or latex. No chains or velvet, even. (Darn!) And I've never imagined myself Mistress Jillie De Ville - maybe Pirate Jillie, as in Brecht's Jenny, but only for as long as Judy Collins' rendition lasts. But I know that paraphernalia isn't the core of BDSM. I'm not much of an S&M theorist - the bit I've read has been interesting; maybe I'll get a chance over the holidays to read more - but still I would think there ought to be a distinction between practices undertaken primarily for direct or displaced sexual gratification and those, even if involving some of the same acts, undertaken to break through patterned behavior to realize some difference in conceptions of self and of intersubjectivity. (Okay, S&M theorists, maybe not; I see the circularity as I am writing. It looks a lot like the anthropologists' 'difference' between religion and magic, huh - just where one is standing.) Anyway, such hard thinking is going to have to wait till after Thanksgiving.

Returning to earth, here, my point in my first reply was that E&S so perfectly combine ways of chipping through the shells of presentation and even of self conception, such compelling and wonderfully complementary physiological and psychological routes, that overt BDSM isn't necessary, even feels too raw. All you need to do is be aware and encouraging, keep your partner close and safe, and guide him gently. I wear pink, guys, not black.

We generally conceptualize pottying as necessarily private and personal: doing nothing more than a full and rich enema together tends to break the straitjacket of that image. On a somewhat similar cultural assumption, Discover magazine has in their most recent issue, I think, an interesting little article on sleep: that our 'modern western' sleep, for all the naturalness it seems to us, is arid, basically impersonal, individualistic, and sensorily bereft - and that most of the world, by their claim, sleeps in great piles of people, interacting in all kinds of ways to the backdrop of blaring taxi horns and elephant grunts, promoting a world view that is very differently skewed.

So, Thanksgiving happiness and peace to all.

-jillie

I'm not addicted yet. 😁 But I can tell you that I certainly enjoy them more than ever. 😉

You really do not want to use them as an addiction because you can become reliant upon them. they are great to use weekly or even twice a week. they are relaxing and act as a great source for sex or relief. I've heard of some people using some drugs or alcohol but strongly suggest you never do this because it is absorbed much faster and you can lose control or really hurt yourself.

I think it's addictive, in the sense, at least for me, of being an enjoyable and healthful recreation. I got started doing them in part because of constipation, and I REALLY began to like them, as Jillie points out, for the "stimulating side effects;" I enjoy receiving from a good giver, and I truly enjoy giving them. Why?? I'm not too sure. I've tried to analyze it all, and it seems to me that a good cleansing enema(s) are erotic because of the shared feelings, the dominance/submission aspects (I'm naturally dominant), and because of the visual and tactile stimulation. The endorphins and hormones I didn't know about, and thanks much for your contribution in that area, Jillie.

Doc.

I guess one might say that I have an addiction for enemas. I love the feeling that an enema gives me as the water flows slowly in... Totally relaxing...

I've been addicted to enemas since very young. I probably didn't know what addiction was when I was 8 or 9 but I knew I liked them.

I dont believe the enema is addictive, no it is that nice light feeling after and vice versa if Your colon is full and You have that uncomfortable feeling in the lower region it signals subconsciously to Your brain "do something about it" and since You know what can be done, You will do it or it will cause You to make all kind of phonecalls to find out, nobody has time for You. It would have been so nice to lay down and let somebody else pamper You. Preferably some smart dame who would just love it, to have You helpless on Your back and push gratually that oh so awfully long tube inch by inch up Your rear. Perhabs this is the more addictive part of the enema.

I'm definitely addicted to enemas, have been since my childhood and I would say that they are also a fetish, enjoy them for the feeling you get when receiving or the pleasure of being able to give them to someone else more than for health reasons. I can only go so long without receiving an enema and then I have to have them.

Yes, I am a enema addict with the fetish. Started as a child and has been with me all my life. So, far to this point it has not caused to many serious health problems like say smoking. But I must have a enema once a day and after three days I begin to get a bit out of sync. I have even come home from work and taken enemas and did anal play. I do not always ejaculate with each enema as a male, but I do try my best to do some kind of penis, prostate or bladder play with each session. So my male prostate plays a great role in the desire to do enemas or the like.

Diddlestik

I think they definitely are an additive thing. i have enjoyed them for many years, and actualy long for one when i have to travel and not get them. i take them alone, having never had a partner, but the idea of giving a woman an enema is even more inviting. i find nothing wrong with enjoying them and think it is time for more open discussion of them as this forum provides. would enjoy hearing comments here.

I've wondered about this too. I've also wondered if people who are addicted need more and more enema stimulus to feel satisified. Do people end up ramping up their enema use to satisfy their desires. I reached a comfortable plateau but I often wonder if that's how it is with others, or if they are lookng for more.

I'm not sure that a fetish needs to be ramped up. I am thinking that an addiction might need to be. Are we mistaken the word fetish for addiction? One can have a fetish and "indulge" in it more and more often but can we increase the volumn after a certain point. Can we have the fetish with out an addiction to it? I believe we can as many I have talked to have a regular schedule and do not feel the need to "ramp up"

Thanks for clearing that up plnbrown. I was a bit confused about the idea of fetish without addiction. I belive I have an enema fetish but not an addiction but mostly I was wondering if I will remain satisfied at my current level, or want more and more. So far that has not been my experience.

Well many opinions and beliefs about what we are into it for. For me it started out as just another step in my discovering sex and what I liked. For many years I didn't do any, but now I do them every day. Sometimes with a climax included, but mostly just because I like it. Addicted... Absolutely, and wouldn't have it any other way.

I suppose it depends on your definition of addiction. I would say that I am addicted to enemas just as I would masturbation. However, if I miss a day of either one, I wouldn't call it withdrawl that I'm going through. I know that I'll never stop taking enemas. I will admit that the longer I go without taking one, the greater the desire for one until it is practically all I can think about. Addiction? I don't know. I just know I love to take them. Wouldn't want to think about not being able to have one ever again. There's too much pleasure to be had.

I have been addicted to enemas since my mother gave me several when I was somewhere in the range of 10-12. Then I searched for the bag and equipment in the cedar closet where it was stored. I still associate the smell of the cedar closet with enemas to this day. Having an opportunity to take out that bag and use it sent my pulse sky high for most of the time that I spent taking the enema.

ANy thing good, we can get addicted to. Enema is no different. If it is good and you like it, hey, it is an addiction but a very good kind..... I am addicted to administering it to my girls friends or female associates.

When your addiction is harmful to other people is where the problem is. I have found my enema fetish or addiction, ir you will, to be harmful only to my septic tank!

Absolutely, I'm and addict and have been since the first time I took that bag out of the closet and into the bathroon when I was 12 or 13. Had been given enemas and liked them as far back as I can remember and once I started giving myself a hot soapsuds enema I really was hooked. Still am and get as much of a kick giving to others as well!

I'd call it more of a 'habit' than an addiction - and yes the words can be used interchangably, but 'habit' is not necessarily used in a negative connotation.