Professional disciplinarian

Does anyone have any recent experiences with a professional disciplinarian that they'd like to share?

I will be reporting to a pro disciplinarian tomorrow. It will be my second visit. She asked lots of questions before the first meeting and tailored the session to my answers. She arranged to have a second woman there to witness and help. I was spanked with a small paddle, a tawse, a strap and finally a cane. Restraints were used for the second half of the session. It hurt and there were marks for several days. I am looking forward to tomorrow.

How do you find such a person?

I am one but I only do girls.

Although I am in the UK there are any number of Websites such as Serious Mistress and the like that list USA based dominatrices. If you just put in strict mistress in the search engine you should be able to track one down in your locale. Usually you can get to a personal website where you can check if they offer the right 'services' and check to see if the cost fits your budget. Agood lady will give you extra time on your first visit so she can be sure to attend to your needs and desires, after all, its her business and she wants repeat clients!

I met someone onlne who offered to come to my house amd spank me while my husband was at work. After some time I agreed. He turned up at 10am on a weekday. We talked for a while then I got over his lap.

He upped my skirt, pulled my panties down and spanked my ass with his hand until I was red and sore.

My need for discipline was not associated with BDSM. I had issues going back years and craved attonement for past deeds, a cure for current habits, and relief from personality shortcomings.

My first experience with a "professional" disciplinarian was a disaster. She was unkempt, her house smelled of cats, and the session addressed more her desire to inflict pain than to deal with my issues.

The second experience was from a true professional, and I paid dearly... from the wallet! Although she did make a good attempt to set and attain certain goals, hers was a very active and busy schedule, leaving me wanting for a more personal and understanding touch.

Then I met Mistress M. She took a personal interest, spending almost our entire first session just talking, gathering information and discussing possible treatments. A couple of weeks later we met again and I began traveling a straight-and-narrow road to recovery from the many issues that plagued me.

Although expense was not a consideration in my case, Mistress' gain from the experience was not truly monetary; rather, it allowed her to pamper herself by my providing a comfortable venue for our encounter. She would spend the night before luxuriating in the spa, which I paid for, and the next day I would join her for about an hour or hour-and-a-half of disciplinary therapy prior to her late checkout.

There were no 'safe words.' Mistress' intuition monitored my limitations, endurance and progress. I experienced pain at a level I had never thought possible, but the results of her skillful use of equipment and technique brought eventual relief, freedom and a true sense of joy in becoming a stronger and better person.

If you are only looking for a good a spanking, there are endless opportunities. But if you desire to get to the root of WHY you want one, then give it sufficient thought and find the right partner. It will be far more rewarding and you will reach a level of inner peace that many only dream of.

Yes, I went into great detail elsewhere about it the other day. She's an enema nurse named CougarDomme. She's fabulous. I told her I love her and I meant it. I'm counting down seeing her again, I can't wait. She's bigger, not fat, really pretty, older and could handle a big, weight-lifter type like me OTK. It was the best OTK ever! She was better at spanking than any fantasy could be. In fact, she has supplanted all my spanking fantasies. It's well-worth it.

Have seen over 40 Domme' over the years with my last visit 4 months ago in Fl. My only requirement is thy love spanking and enema discipline.

Highly recommended. I am pretty much a Dom. But I have someone I see pro-Dom about once a month. It is time and money well spent. It tends to be about an hour and forty five minutes of enema/spanking/enema/spanking followed by estim or strap on enhanced orgasm. Great for ,entail health if you can afford it. M

Does any of you know if there are such "professional services" also in Germany? I can't find anything like that...

I wish my wife would hire one. She would like to watch me get spanked by a man, I would rather have another woman spank me.

My wife lets me go twice a year as birthday and Christmas presents as sessions are not cheap. I have seen the same Dom for the last four years and she is a real pro, and actually has a degree in psychology. It was never about the pain for me, but more the control and humiliation of submission and our sessions are very verbal, but do involve strapping and CBT.

I see a Pro Dom every 3-4 weeks. I just saw her last week a few days before my birthday so naturally I got a birthday spanking. She put me over her knee and said she would spank me 69 (my age) times with a wooden paddle without stopping. With no hand spanking warm up, it really hurt. She always give me a break but then proceeded to spank me 6 more times with 69 spanks each. My behind was very sore, bright red with small patches of blood which usually happens. She loves putting me over her knee and spanking me, and she seems to get stronger as the spankings continue.

My regular partner moved away, so I am forced to use a professional. I've corresponded a few times, and will have an extended phone conversation with her before my first appointment with her.

My sessions with my old partner were mutually rewarding, as we are both switches. Our spankings were less about transgressions and more about clearing our heads. My upcoming session with my pro will be different.

I was never spanked by my parents (only once received an OTK by a teacher), but I now wish my dad had lowered my pants and underwear and taken me over his knee for some well deserved bottom warming. I am hoping my pro will give me the spanking I never got, if only to put my guilt over my youthful misbehavior to rest.

Willie, I appreciate the sentiment but lets not be coy. You, like I, like spanking, and it doesn't stem from youthful guilt. I was spanked for my early years and then they stopped. I did not feel a remorse for missed spankings, I felt an intense resentment for the spankings I was given because they were bordering abuse. Anyway, for having been spared the rod you seem to have turned out fine and I would not wish you had spankings as a kid. Remember, spanking as adults is different, we can say no. Be careful for what you wish for.

[color=#000000][b]Willie, I appreciate the sentiment but [/b][/color] lets not be coy. . . . [/b]

OK, I won't be coy.

YOU BOTH NEED A SHRINK! LOL 😁 😁 😁

No, really, whatever gets you off is terrific. 😁

I like to give and get a good spanking sometimes too--but not because I feel guilty for anything.

There is a group, http://clubfem.com/international.htm which may be of help. These women are Not pro, as in they do not ask for nor receive payment, but definitely Female Dommes.

Some chapters are very active, some FemDoms already have slaves/play partners etc., but recruitment is key.

We just had a foot rub party where the subs and Mistresses could meet in our growing community.

Meetup is a place to look in your area, not a hookup site, but a social site for groups of all kinds.

As I am a switch, I see a Domme regularly for my personal impact play, but also will have impact play, "torture' etc. with her subs with her.

A always safety first and it is trial and error.

LOL Susie, you gave me a good chuckle. But you have a point, for a while I had to try to tell myself WHY I wanted to be spanked when in reality, I just like it. WHO THE HELL CARES! I enjoy it, its as good of a reason as any.

I visited a professional disciplinarian once in 2006. She gave me an old school-type caning on my bare bottom. I was dressed in a school uniform (or a makeshift uniform using my old school tie and suitable clothes), I wanted to feel like a schoolboy going to the headmistress for the cane.

I have written of my experiences with a domme here on my blog. Last meeting was in July, but expect another visit this month.

I have an appointment with a professional spanker coming up soon. I have been seeing her every couple of months for the past 3 years and every session is different. She has a hand that doesn’t give up and she can bring you to tears with just that, but you can expect more. She always starts with a hand spanking then switches to a paddle or hairbrush. Then it’s corner time for awhile. Then she’ll put me over the arm of a chair, or over some pillows on the sofa or whatever she can come up with and the real punishment starts. She has used a paddle, bath brush, strap, my own belt, a tawse, and whatever else she has. She caned me one time and I hope never again. I’ve had my mouth washed out with soap, and have been sent home wearing a diaper. I’ve been contacted a day before a session and told to wear a pair of lacey panties. She is expensive but worth every penny. I will be with her until one of us moves away.

I visited a pro domme spanker/enema nurse several times before she retired and moved from our area. She divided her time between living in our area and spending time in Italy, and indicated she had worked in New York City for many years, where she had carefully perfected her sessions. At our first appointment she questioned me carefully about my fantasies regarding a series of enemas and what I’d prefer from the spankings. She had a St. Andrew’s cross in her treatment room, but I never took advantage of that implement - she did a great job tailoring sessions to my taste- she changed into a sexy nurse uniform, low cut bra, scanty panties, white hose held up by a white garter belt. She began by giving me an unhurried enema, requiring me to hold it and then make my way to the onsuite to expel. Next I was placed over her lap for a deep prostate massage, followed by a hard hand spanking, and damn, for a slight built woman, she could spank! She would then tell me I’d done well, rub some lotion on my red butt, and leave to refill the fountain syringe I had brought. She returned, minus the white dress, wearing only the panties, white hose and garter belt. Eventually between bag filled and spankings, she is wearing only the hose and garter belt, and I am further aroused when I see that she is completely shaved. As I recall, there were usually 3 enemas, and 3 spankings, a bit a CBT interspersed with those treatments and a cuddle session at the end with release. I probably visited her half a dozen times over a two year period, until she moved a final time and did not return to our area, and yes, I do miss her!

My appointment was scheduled for tomorrow, but my Dom contacted me to change our time till the following day, Thursday. This is the first time this has happened, she’s very efficient so I know it’s for a reason. She said she would make it worth my time if I changed. I don’t know if that is good or Gooder. I do know that I will have a very sore bottom when I leave her after our session. If anyone is interested, I’ll tell you your about when I can sit.

I've had a number of professional spankers and I've given a few being the switch that I am. Plenty of them out there.