Holding the woman's head during fellatio

JimmyJohnson Actually I am 100% lesbian now. Growing up I had a boyfriend the same guy I was talking about. But I also liked girls. After I caught him cheating with my ex-best friend who is totally straight, I stayed single for a while. The reason I mentioned that she is totally straight if because it makes me smile knowing he will never get a threesome with her. Anyway, I started reflecting back on orgasms with other girls/women. Then I was raped. After that, I decided if I start dating girls exclusively I would be safer.

Just because you were raped by a man and feel safer with women doesn't make you a lesbo, lol. You can be raped by a woman just as easily. It just depends on how much of a victim you want to be. I was raped back in college once and that was enough trust me, but being with women does nothing for me whatsoever. It is believed in todays thinking that you are born either straight, bi or gay and that one can't be truly happy until they figure out what they are and with whom they want to be with. Good luck with figuring out exactly who you are and with whom you want to be with.

Mashie

“Keeps his hands on the back of my head” during oral sex can mean any number of things from soft and gentle to very forceful. Any man holding my head too firmly and trying to push his penis in deeper, harder and more forcefully by holding my head in that way should know I do have a strong gag reflex which has been known to lead to me throwing up. He might want to think about what he really wants on his penis and just relax letting me set the pace and the depth!

Is being Bi something that you can turn on and off?

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Just because you were raped by a man and feel safer with women doesn't make you a lesbo, lol.

I think, over time people change. Everyone's needs, wants, goals, beliefs, personality - etc - it's all changing. All the time.

I'm a vastly different person today than I was 10 years ago. While my preference in sexual partners has not changed, that's just me. I've met many people for whom it has. I've met plenty whoses identity has completely changed. Every day, we wake up as slightly different people - enriched by the sum of our experiences of all the days before. Some of those experiences are meaningless (I'm quite certain the fact that I bashed my knee on my desk last time I got up to have a wee cause I drank another full beer will be forgotten in about 3 minutes) - some have profound effects on our life. Often, we cannot foresee which category each experience will fall into until later.

This is a good thing - it allows us to grow as people, to evolve, to learn, to become different, and to become better. Every day we get to experience the world with fresh eyes, and the same experiences we saw on one day, through new eyes, can give us continued joy and satisfaction. This is something to celebrate.

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When I was just out of high school I had an older guy, all of 30 yo lol, hold my head. He didn't force his cock too deep, but he did force me to keep going when I was ready to stop. Finally he let go and we had intercourse and I had an orgasm pretty quick. It was the first real clue that I had a submissive side.

Oh, I know who I am. I was hiding to please my parents and everyone else that is close to me. But I am not totally out due to where I work at a school. With all of the teachers taking advantage of students these days. Being a lesbian school nurse would just bring up questions. It isn't really any of their business as far as I am concerned. But I prefer not to be questioned. I have no interest in children but, there are stuck up people who like to make a mountain out of a molehill if you know what I mean. By looking at me you could never tell. I am a lipstick lesbian. People know I was raped and they assume that is the reason I am not dating men. Which is alright. They can keep on assuming. Yes, I realize I could be raped by a woman but I guarantee anyone who tries to rape me again will have to work really hard at it. They can also pray that they live through it. I have taken courses. Let us just say it will not be easy.

I never held the head of a girl while giving me a bj. I think it's disrespectful. I want to give her the control and be the passive part. I enjoy and wait for the surprise what going on. She is my partner, not my slave.

Holding someone's head is fine, using force is not! Hair pulling can be great and especially sensual. Men forget sometimes that hole has teeth and sometimes when force is used, normal reaction can be to bite, and leave them a very nasty injury or a very ugly girl. Just sayin.....

When I'm giving him a BJ I might be on my knees, but I got him by his balls 😉 Holding my head his fine. I don't like being pushed or when he's trying to deep-throat me, can mange this myself, thx.

This pretty much depends on partner and type of sex that you do. If doing BDSM stuff there might be head holding by the dominant one.

I personally don't find it respectfull to facefuck or force head to dick. I would hold the hair or gently touch the head without forcing it anywhere.

It depends what someone likes and agrees to do but I doubt that many find this fun.

@SwitchableSusie said it well that the one with teeth is in control which in reality is. You are holding their weakest part of the body in your mouth.

We were kinky but not dom/sub. My wife and I both occasionally held the others head during oral sex - more like caressing, not forcing. Usually we just laid back and enjoyed. If I wanted harder/faster/deeper oral I communicated it to her - either verbally or by arching my back and offering her my dick - she got the picture. Extra pressure when needed was provided by the giver at their own level of comfort. More often than not we incorporated anal play and rimming along with oral.

Some people enjoy rough sex and like having their hair pulled/head forced down during oral. Their boundaries are much broader that ours - and that's fine.

I never held the head of a girl while giving me a bj. I think it's disrespectful. I want to give her the control and be the passive part. I enjoy and wait for the surprise what going on. She is my partner, not my slave.

I agree with this as well. I don't think an "Ear Torque" is a polite thing to do.

That's why I also do not like masturbating in another face. It is the use of another person. Only in cheap porn films forcing women's head and facials are normal, but not for me

Works both ways and when gentle is crazy hot.

I cannot stand this. I find it demeaning and objectifying, and always have. I feel the same way when a man pushes down on a woman’s head indicating he wants a BJ.

You do this to me, I’ll bite it.

I cannot stand this. I find it demeaning and objectifying, and always have. I feel the same way when a man pushes down on a woman’s head indicating he wants a BJ.

For me it is a question of respect and love not to do such force.

You do this to me, I’ll bite it.

Promise?