Holding the woman's head during fellatio

I have a question for everyone. What does it mean when you are giving a man oral sex, and he keeps his hand on the back of your head?

To me it means that he is in control of my fellatio performance. He is telling me that he wants it a certain way, and that he will receive it the way he wants it.

How is the hand placed? Frankly, your head is a natural place to rest his hand at that time. If he is caressing your hair or ears, there may not be a control aspect to it.

If you want him to do something else, tell him!

Intruder, generally his hand is very firmly on the back of my head, or holding on to my pony tail. Sometimes a guy will put pressure on my head, and sometimes he won't.

Cklous I agree with you and I tell my man "let go of my ears I know my bussiness" He has never not let, go food for thought guys

Maybe he dosen't want u to quit before he is ready, or as some one suggested wants to be in control.

Jmann10 when has a man ever been in control if a woman is doing that to him?

As a man, I believe that putting your hand on the persons head while receiving head is demeaning to them. I think that giving or receiving oral sex is the ultimate way of showing your love for the other person. Doing that limits the other person from performing the way they want to show their love. Bottom line it is a controlling gesture.

Well I think he is enjoying it greatly and does not want you to stop

I always put my hand on her head while receiving oral.

Unless my lady wants me to handle her head during her oral sex performance I would rather sit back and enjoy it.

Give up the pimp/porn star control ideation.

I can assure you that an orally talented lady is in absolute control... and there is NOTHING wrong with that! 😁

Thank you bigrob,

You get it! So many don't It's a shame, and I doubt they are getting as much oral as they brag about!irme

I just lay back and let her do it all. Sometimes I think it is a bigger turn on for her than for me.

Ironically I had a conversation with a friend of mine the other day about this. She told me if a guy puts his hand on her head when she is giving him oral sex, she bites! YIKES! I don't mind if a guy rests his hand on my head while I perform oral sex. It's when he starts treating me as if I were a yoke in a crashing airplane we start having issues!

I would think that he is asking you to take more of his cock in your mouth and if able, in your throat.

Story guy, I think that is a lot of it. I know that a lot of times he will push my head down, and sometimes he will push until I choke a little and then let up. I don't mind it though, as long as he isn't really rough with me. It depends on the position we are in, but sometimes I have had guys hold my head and pump.

Think of the other side of the coin. Haven't you ever pushed a man's face into your quiver when he's giving you oral sex.., and guys, don't you just love it, even to the point of being suffocated? What a turn on!!!

It means that he likes being able to control you at that moment in time I am guessing...But choking when he does?...So not my thing

I do it because the blowjob is feeling so good i dont want her to stop, so i hold her head there, so i can keep going till i come but shes still seems to get away before iam done, oh well many more tries

I can only guess that for me it would mean that I don't want him to pull away until I have shot my load into his mouth.

I just had 25 minutes of sheer delight. In this case I tried to pull away, but I was held very close. I'm not capable of a multiple orgasm due to my age, so it was magnificent to last as long as I did. The lady was grateful.

When I became a sexually active adult and out on my own I established 6 rules for myself, and I stuck with them. Rule number 5 was and I quote, "don't put your hands on my head because I don't need any help", meaning during oral sex of course. To me at the time it was degrading and I really don't like being choked.

It's amazing how we change and evolve over time though. Because one of my greatest desires is for the BF to first of all, TELL me, or demand that I pleasure him orally, and then for him to take total control of me and put his hands on my head, or hold on to my hair. Mmmmmm, that to me so super freakin hot !

I love doing the oral thing as it is, it's one of my all time favorites, and having him in control by doing to former would just make it all that much better.

However, I am still trying to convince him to do it. He is currently of the mindset that him asking me would be degrading and disrespectful to me. I have told him a thousand times that it is something I want, so he is working on it.

The last time I had him all tied up I made him beg me for oral, lol, not quite the same as him demanding it on his own, but it's a step closer, and hearing himself asking for that was a baby step in the right direction.

When I am doing my GF I love to have her hold my head and guide it to just where she wants attention. Its different every time but very enjoyable for both of us.

When I am doing my GF I love to have her hold my head and guide it to just where she wants attention. Its different every time but very enjoyable for both of us.

Exactly, it's different when a woman holds your head to position it. Nobody chokes on a vulva being shoved down their throat. Although, if you need to come up for air, we'll be glad to oblige as long as long as we aren't in the throws of an orgasm. 😁

When we hold a man's head, it is because we want you to move up down or sideways a bit to fine-tune your tongue and lips action.

And as you said, for many women, IT IS DIFFERENT almost every time. Some women have a specific "rub" they enjoy and come to orgasm, other women have different spots they need massaged to orgasm each time. The sooner men learn this, the happier we will all be.

Well a new twist is when you are in a hood or head harness and your man or woman locks you onto their belt or strap and that locks you right into the area they desire pleased. I have found that that is as erotic as have my hair held firmly and pulled on. But I love to get covered and be messy for my master/mistress/lover/ whichever.

It means you're doing it just right and please don't stop what you are doing...

I just like the way my wife's hair feels and it is a natural place to put my hand. I never thought about why.

Exactly Dana... 😄

Having the hands on my head tells me he is guiding me how he wants it and vice-versa. I also like the feeling of my hair being played with.

Oral on my GF was always one of my favorite activities. For one thing, she had her best orgasms from oral sex and said so. She said that she almost never could climax vaginally. She would just touch my head very softly to indicate she wanted me to move up or down, or from one side to the other. I always thought that was extremely sensual, and it told me that she was "fine tuning" my tongue for the best result. Her orgasms were usually very intense and I could feel her uterus as it thrust toward her vaginal opening as the orgasm pulsed through her. I'll tell more about oral with her in other posts, but I don't want to get too off subject here.

To me its about the lady losing herself in the course of the orgasm and in seeing that level of satisfaction repition becomes second nature,when she asks brealthlessly for a break can't wait to get started again hands on the head only adds completly

Since I give and enjoy giving blowjobs, I will answer this. No one has ever put there hand on the back of my head. I like to take their cock in as deeply as I possibly can. I think anyone who puts their hand on your head, wants to push their cock deeper down the givers throat. This I think is rude and selfish. The giver has all they can do to deliver a well done bj without gagging. It takes practice and dedication to take a large cock down your throat. I would have issues if this was done to me.

One other thing if your a female, especially a small female, and your guy has an extra big cock, then it becomes more difficult to swallow a large cock. If your man doesn't understand, then maybe it's time to find another man.