Holding the woman's head during fellatio

I think it means they are too controlling and it makes me feel uncomfortable as they can push too fast or hard and cause me to gag a lot.

These answers indicate that there is no one-or two-or three ways to enjoy oral sex. My GF was great at giving oral, and by the way, she always swallowed. As for holding her head, I never did because it seems to me that would be rude or offensive. What I did do though was to touch her hair on each side of her head so she could have an idea of my sense of arousal. By moving my hands slightly, she knew just what to do, and when, and she could always tell when I was about to orgasm. We always enjoyed several minutes of kissing and hugging after orgasms.

I do enjoy having my partner gently hold my head and even get more aggressive in the throws of orgasm.

I had one partner, a transgender woman who was a runner with hugely strong legs that almost crushed my head. I learned to position myself with at least one arm over her leg for self protection.

I agree when your partner holds your head, you aren't giving him oral anymore, he is fucking your mouth. Sometimes I'm okay with that. I've had a few guys try to choke me with a particularly large penis and that is not enjoyable. As long as we're both enjoying the experience, great.

I totally disagree with you on that. I think that we can both be right. If he is holding your head and manipulating you and your movements then yes, he is fucking your mouth. However, Doc often times just holds my head, or pulls my hair but I maintain 100 percent control of all of my movements. It's a matter of who's in control of the movements.

Mashie

When I do it to my husband I am in control of what I do. If he touches me on my head it is his way of telling me he likes what I am doing to him and showing his appreciation. He is not in control of me and he would not try to do that.

It's a matter of who's in control of the movements.

Exactly.

When receiving a BJ, I will often want to touch my partners head, but it's only in affection and from a desire to feel more physically connected while I receive this pleasure. If it interferes she'll let me know.

If my husband or the guy I am giving the bj to holds my head, it is usually to hold it close to him when I have the entire c*ck down my throat.

What I have experienced is the he is afraid you will stop or he wants you to take him deeper.

When a man hold a woman's head during oral sex, it can be an affectionate cradling or a way to control the motion.

I would add that the person in control during fellatio is the one with the TEETH.

When a man hold a woman's head during oral sex, it can be an affectionate cradling or a way to control the motion.

I would add that the person in control during fellatio is the one with the TEETH.

I agree with Susie. To say I 'hold' my wife's head during oral sex is probably to use the wrong word. It is more of a light touch than a hold, and is a way of appreciating the connection between us. It is neither an instruction or a way of showing control or dominance. As @Amethyst said in her earlier post on this thread, she's the one actually in control. NOT me.

You think a lot of things while approaching orgasm. Some of them are things you wouldn't think about otherwise. A man might want to fantasize about ramming his cock even harder and perhaps, holding your head helps him with the fantasy without actually hurting you. It could also be the connection thing. When my partner would perform oral sex on me or take me from behind, I liked to hold hands with fingers intertwined. This made it more about the connection for me.

I caress her head but never "hold" it.

I dont like it. I want to be in control and make sure Im not going to choke. I give it a 100% there is no need to push my head. Just sayin

Giving head is a gift of sorts. I don't object to a man holding my head during fellatio as long as it is affectionate cradling or stroking and I don't object to his moving my head either because I want it to feel the best for him. I'll even apply more suction or tongue pressure if they ask.

What I object to is when they forcefully move my head against my resistance when I need to come up for air or feel like I am choking.

So once again, the person with the teeth is the one who is really in control.

I agree with Ginnie 100% ! Gently cradle my head , keep my hair out of the way , even get a good grip of my hair when on the brink but DO NOT push my head ! That would be real quick way to put on the brakes for me .

Most of the time my husband and I have oral sex as part of our fore play but now and again we go all the way to orgasm with oral stimulation. The head holding thing is part of it sometimes for both of us.

As someone else pointed out in an earlier response some women hold their parner’s head when he is down on them. I know I do sometimes to prevent him from stopping at the wrong moment. If I am close and I don’t want to stop to convert to vaginal fucking, I will close my legs and trap his head and pull his head into me as hard as possible. If I am squatting on his head I just drop down and you can figure out what happens!

Most of the time he just lays back and strokes my hair. Now and then he will grab my head and gently guide my head. To me it is a sign he does not want me to stop oral and use my hand or convert to intercourse. Once and a while his behavior changes and he does take control of my head and forces his cock in and out often all the way in. Just before he ejaculates he shoves it in all the way. It took me a while to learn how to avoid gagging. If he is in the control mode, I usually finger myself to orgasm while he is “fucking” my face. When I am in the mood, I will ask him to face fuck me so obviously it does not bother me.

Dita

@Dita said

As someone else pointed out in an earlier response.some women hold their parner’s head when he is down on them. I know I do sometimes to prevent him from stopping at the wrong moment. If I am close and I don’t want to stop to convert to vaginal fucking, I will close my legs and trap his head and pull his head into me as hard as possible. If I am squatting on his head I just drop down and you can figure out what happens!

You accidentally fart ? ? ? 😁 😁 😁

Sorry. I couldn't resist that one.

Maybe it's just me but I would rather give her or him free reign to any direction they wish.

When I was bi and had a boyfriend I gave him oral the first time and he grabbed my head and pushed it against him and his penis went down my throat and I gagged. Gagging is not fun for me. I asked him why he did that. He said it was like when he was in my vagina and was about to have an orgasm and during the orgasm and right after when he doesn't like any movement because he is so sensitive. His cum tasted bitter and was gross. After weeks I asked a few friends who were sitting around having drinks with me if that had ever happened to them. They said it was normal but you can talk to him. They said the bitter part may have had something to do with what he ate. They told me what to make him starting a few days before to possibly change the flavor of his cum. I forgot what all they said like asparagus was one. So after some time, I decided to try it again and I talked to him first and told him not to grab my head. He said alright. Well just as he was about to cum he again grabbed my head and shoved his penis down my throat again but not as far because I pulled away but still gagged. His cum was still bitter. So then when I went up to kiss him I spit in his mouth and said here you can have it back. I thought he was going to vomit. I went and brushed my teeth. Now with another woman I don't mind because I know I am not going to gag. I have had one girl that pushed my head away because she got too sensitive and she squirted. I have done the same thing. It's not nice to squirt if the other girl is unaware that you might do it.

It's never nice to urinate on someone when they are unaware of it or don't want it. As a nurse Tabitha you should know that women do not squirt anything but pee. We can cum yes but squirt anything but pee no. We just don't have the anatomy to do so.

Mashie

@Tabitha32

I have had one girl that pushed my head away because she got too sensitive and she squirted. I have done the same thing. It's not nice to squirt if the other girl is unaware that you might do it.

I would LOVE a woman to squirt her cum in my mouth. That's always my ultimate goal! 😜

@Tabitha32

that guy was a jerk and only seemed to care about his gratification. No respect on his part

Glad you snowballed him. - great move!!!

No it isn't pee like at one time it was believed to be. I noticed it is clear and thicker than urine. Female ejaculation refers to the expulsion of fluid from a female's urethra during orgasm or sexual arousal. The urethra is the duct that carries urine from the bladder to the outside of the body.

There are two different types of female ejaculate:

Squirting fluid. This fluid is usually colorless and odorless, and it occurs in large quantities.

Ejaculate fluid. This type more closely resembles male semen. It is typically thick and appears milky.

Analysis has shown that the fluid contains prostatic acid phosphatase (PSA). PSA is an enzyme present in male semen that helps sperm motility.

In addition, female ejaculate usually contains fructose, which is a form of sugar. Fructose is also generally present in male semen where it acts as an energy source for sperm.

Experts believe that the PSA and fructose present in the fluid come from the Skene's glands. Other names for these glands include the paraurethral glands, Garter's duct, and female prostate.

Skene's glands sit on the front, inside wall of the vagina near the G-spot. Researchers believe that stimulation causes these glands to produce PSA and fructose, which then move into the urethra.

For many years, scientists thought that females who ejaculated during sex were experiencing continence problems. Research has since disproved this idea and confirmed the existence of female ejaculation.

A 2014 study found that the fluid accumulates in the bladder during arousal and leaves through the urethra during ejaculation. Seven women who reported experiencing female ejaculation during sex took part in the trial.

First, the researchers used ultrasound exams to confirm that the participants' bladders were empty. The women then stimulated themselves until they ejaculated while the researchers continued to monitor them using ultrasounds.

The study found that all the women started with an empty bladder, which began to fill during arousal. The post-ejaculation scans revealed that the participants' bladders were empty again.

When I was bi and had a boyfriend...

Not to totally change the subject, but I have to ask: Is being Bi something that you can turn on and off? I've recently come to the realization that I am bi, but if I make the conscious decision to only be with one gender or the other, I don't think that changes me from bi to either gay or straight. I would suggest in your case that you're still bi, you have just decided that you like one gender more than the other for now.

@Tabitha32

A 2014 study found that the fluid accumulates in the bladder during arousal and leaves through the urethra during ejaculation. Seven women who reported experiencing female ejaculation during sex took part in the trial.

First, the researchers used ultrasound exams to confirm that the participants' bladders were empty. The women then stimulated themselves until they ejaculated while the researchers continued to monitor them using ultrasounds.

The study found that all the women started with an empty bladder, which began to fill during arousal. The post-ejaculation scans revealed that the participants' bladders were empty again.

I would've LOVED to be one of the researchers, I would've lapped all that ejaculate up. 😜

Holding her head in place is the second part, first part is when she starts sucking, the second part is holding her head, in place, this is when she gives all control to him, to fuck her face. On the lighter side riding on Metro North to NYC, with another couple, I dropped my ticket ( By mistake) it went under my seat. My wife asked if I would like her to get it, as she was sitting opposite me, it would be easier for her to get it. It was NOT premeditated, butas she leaned forward her head was in my lap BINGO! I could not pass is up! The other couple and I were laughing, my wife was not 😃 !

BTW I could be BI in a nanosecond, and would LOVE to give another man a blow job, starting with me sucking and ending with him taking complete control, making me take him deeper and deeper till he gives me my reward!

Is holding her head also known as an "Ear Torque"?

I personally think it is rude to force someone's head when they are making your day.

Maybe everyone is different I guess but isn't the idea to kinda lay back and enjoy, relax without having to work at it, it's the other person's job to do all the work.

I really enjoy fellatio with my husband, especially, and he is the first man I ever 'went down' on. It is something that I can do for him and I usually do it 'out of the blue'. This thread and some of the posts have made me think about the 'why' I perform fellatio and the great majority of times I take a man's penis into my mouth is because I'm feeling affectionate towards them and almost always I feel the touch of their hands and fingers in my hair. I do not get that they are trying to control my head as I am going down on them but it feels like they are stroking my hair, running their fingers through it, and perhaps 'lost in thought' and just enjoying it.

It's not that performing fellatio, for me, is a sexual turn on in and of itself, and their cum is not cherry flavoured with whipped cream, but it's something I can do and control and watch the face of the man whose penis I am enjoying in my mouth. The looks on their faces, and there are three men I am speaking of, as I have them, is something I love seeing. It's almost as if they look at me and are saying, without actually saying it out loud, 'You're doing this for me?' 🌹 Oh yes indeed I am. 🌹 And their holding, or cradling or caressing of my head tells me that what I see in their faces is truly what I feel from them. 🌹

And yes there are times when I am going down on them that aren't altruistic on my part 😈 and sometimes their climaxing can cause them to forget, but I know this and know them not to just be louts. I also do this when I am wanting to feel the taste and texture of a man's penis and excite them for purely selfish reasons 😈 😉 but for the most part I just enjoy these men to begin with and an occasional 'gift' lets them know this. I receive favours 🌹 from them 'out of the blue' the vast majority of which have nothing to do with sex but their little acts of kindness and consideration strike a deep chord within me.