How are diapers most typically used in M/F D/s relationships?

I have never contemplated wearing a diaper, but have an interest in a Dom who seems to include this in his repertoire. Advice?

Well happy it does not get more sub then to be helpless and into a diaper. Its not so much the wearing he wants you experince its humiliation you will get out of it, thus making you more loyal to dom then before. See if dom makes you wear a diaper and then go out on the town, in your head you think everyone will see it and know and think your a freak or incontinent. Thus making you closer to dom for help to make the situation go away. Kind of like a parent child type deal. baby has diaper rash and daddy/mommy can comfort them by making it all go away. It realy does not get more helpless tehn to be placed into diapers and made to think of using them (the thought can make for some fun in the mind)eventualy. Or being made to realize sooner or later you are going to use your diapers for their intended purpose and only teh dom can make it not happen or give you comfort by changing you. Its realy all about dom sub in the diaper fetish. Sub has no say so whatsoever over clothes worn (if any) if your going to actulay use the diapers (probably for discomfort reasons) or if or when you can get out your diapers. That is all the dom's decisions to make for you now. you are a helpless sub to him and thus this makes you even more dependent on for comfort and care. all part of his/her master plan. total worship from you for them, just like a child to their parents

I have always been turned on by the thought/sight of a girl in a diaper. AndI like the thought of playing the loving father OR the male domme making sure that diaper was put to good use.

That would be a Dom if you're male. To be a Domme you have to be female (and both are capitalized).

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That would be a Dom if you're male. To be a Domme you have to be female (and both are capitalized).

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Thank you Chester, i haven't known that!

@ oldfashioneddaddy,

I wish I was diapered and age regressed from a Daddy/Dom in cyber but I have never found someone loving and caring enough.

I want my Dom to spank me and then give me an enema, then put me in a thick diaper and plastic pants and make me stay in them until he says otherwise. I love it when he refers to me as his little girl or his princess.

My wife is my babyslave. We find the BDSM/Ms lifestyle compliments the ageplay lifestyle perfectly. Depending how I feel I can control how much or far we go each way. One thing is always constant though. She wears diapers, I am Daddy (when she calls me Daddy she is really saying Master) and she does as she is told. We've been together for almost 15 years now and couldn't imagine living any other way.

she's my diaperv darling. There is a very large BDSM community where we live, and they are very supportive of how we do things. I love the fact that I can at anytime baby her like a toddler and the next have her hanging from chains and caning the diaper off her butt.

My naughty girl will be in diapers for first time this week both of us are looking forward to this new opportunity to try new experiences out and it will be a chance to see how she responds to this new situation

Well my naughty girl has wet and messed her diaper for the first time and she loved every minute of the experience. And is looking foward too the next time

Way to go samgin, its always great when you get yours to push past their limmits and try something new. its one of those things they never forget. Having said that though, getting one to go past their limmits is a fantastic way to reinforce domination and solidify the bond.

I am hoping to find a female diaper sup here in the Kitsap County area of Washington state. I would diaper her, give her her bottle, change her wet and messy diaper when I am am ready. Give her spankings when she is naughty. I would be very careful of her health and take her temperature anally with my special thermometer. I also have a very special pacifier for her to suck on! I would love to dress her in frilly short party dresses with frilly plastic panties and tight shiny black babyjanes. Who knows we might even be able to find a nice Mommy or Babysitter who would breastfeed her (all the Drs. say that babies need breast milk to be healthy!).

Hello all:

I am new here, so please excuse my ignorance.

I am exploring both my "little girl" side as well as my sub side, I guess, based on my readings. But my interest has always been to have a strong woman "take care" of me ....I guess because I relate to a Mommy doing that rather than a Daddy (no disrespect meant). But I don't see a lot of women domme's on here, at first glance. Maybe I should post at ad ...not sure if I'm even allowed to, as a newbie.

For me, I am straight but do have some bi-curiousness I guess ...I'm a little uncomfortable with the idea of meeting men strangers. I guess it's the age old fear of rape, etc. How can Daddies make a little girl feel comfortable about meeting? I would apreciate any advice

thank you

First off mary welcome to zity.biz. As far as feeling ok with meeting men, it needs to be done in public for the first time or two or even more untill you feel like this guy wont kill me. I suggest you meet people on here first thru chatting in the chat room or private mesg them for a long time. There are many men on here who have met with the ladies from this site. But one needs to be carefull for sure.

I am sure you being older and wiser like me knows how to weed out the cookoo people very fast thru chatting or whatnot.

But like i said if you go into the chatrooms here (fun fun fun) and talk with others you will find the guys who have the diaper and med-fet interests as you. Then thru slow and carefull chatting with them you will find out who is sane in the head and who is not sane. Good luck finding what you are looking for.

I used to, I haven't been diapered in over a year and I haven't been regressed for longer than that, since my last relationship. Its something I miss and I enjoyed but its not something I have to have either.

I enjoy the power exchange of being told that even my bodily fluids are controlled in a manner. I also enjoy the comfort the diapers make me feel.

First, I suggest a few weeks of exchanging e-mails. Then a vanilla meet & greet in a safe, public place. While I almost always do this with my sub girl, I never tell them everthing that will happen in the first few sessions ....it's always best to leave some mystery to the sessions.

I can't really see myself being a sub without incorporating diapers.

I am constantly diapered and age regressed by my daddy. The best thing is punishment because it sure puts a sassy baby like me in line!

I had problems with my last bf for a variety of reasons. I didn't think of it then, but I guess I freaked him out on several levels. the part I never thought about was how "abusive" many of the things i wanted him to do to me were. And I wanted it DURING regression. It's probably a big enough hurdle to get a non ABDL guy over the whole age regression thing without adding a whole lotta abusive stuff in there on top of it!! Wow.... what an idiot I am. That never occurred to me til' just a few min ago. (I was abused and as a result like harsh stuff done to me on occasion)

@diapereddaughter: Really sorry to read that you were abused. I know just how it feels.

As an adult-toddler diaper boy/Daddy switch, I totally understand and agree with what you wrote. When I'm a dominant Daddy, I feel most comfortable either with purely adult dl role-play (Daddy erotically dominates and disciplines his adult diaper-lover daughter/girl, sternly but calmly, within prescribed limits) or with purely regressive ab role-play (Daddy nurtures and diapers his adult-baby or adult-toddler or adult-little girl with love and caring -- nothing sexual). I have no problem with a submissive adult girl or little or daughter who elides between ab and dl play, or between wanting to be nurtured and wanting to be dominated and disciplined. I know that erotic ab or regressive play (which I enjoy myself as an adult-toddler diaper boy, just as I enjoy erotic adult diaper-play as a lifelong dl) is acceptable between consenting adults, and that the divide between such play and anything illegitimate is of course absolute. I would never judge you or think less of you for wanting to be disciplined or more while regressing. But I can understand how a role-playing Daddy -- especially one new to age-play, diaper-play, and regression -- might feel conflicted about going beyond sexless ab nurturing or sexual dl discipline into the conjoined, intersecting realm that lies between these domains. Obviously, I see nothing wrong in any wise with consenting adults' combining ab and dl role-play and age-play, or combining nurturing, non-erotic regression with erotic play, including dominance and discipline, but I can understand how a Daddy might be uncomfortable with what such combined play might evoke or suggest. To me, the key is reminding yourself and your partner that this play is both exciting and helpful to you, and that it affords you a safe and healthy opportunity to conjure and to revisit awful past experiences, and to begin transforming and transcending those awful experiences and their terrible legacies by securely creating new experiences that you can control by surrendering control, within D/d or D/s limits, in your own realm, in your own time. It can be both immensely liberating sexually and deeply therapeutic emotionally "to go all the way" with such play and exploration, but it can be confusing and upsetting too -- especially for a partner who cares about you and who shrinks from any conduct or treatment that smacks (no pun intended) of predation or abuse. I know the dynamics well, and again I applaud you for your perspicacity and self-awareness and honesty and courage in facing and exploring your past and for sharing your stories and for pursuing your dreams in your all-grown-up present. You deserve to be cared for, in all the ways you desire. I know there are Daddies who know how to do so, and who would long to do so. Best wishes.

Wish I could answer this but don't really have a Daddy/Dom.

Let me share a roleplaying scenario ive used that was seriously hot. It might spark something for you.

I had a playmate who played the role of "uncle" to me. The roleplay went like this. I was his naughty teenage niece who was staying with him for a month while my folks were out of the country, bc they didn't trust me alone at home. It started innocently enough, until I had my friend over while he was out one evening. We got into his beer and I drank only 2 bottles but that was enough at my age to get me good n drunk. Drunk and with a full bladder. He came home and caught us. He made us get in the car and he drove my friend home. Then he took me back in the house and Made me stand in the corner while he lectured me. I kept trying to interrupt to tell him I had to pee but he told me to be quiet. Then he pulled me over his knee to spank me, with my skirt up and my panties down. I tried to keep my legs together because I really had to pee at that point, but he forced my legs apart and started the spanking. Well that did it! I started kicking and crying and lost control, peeing on his lap while he spanked me (yes, I did this, he loved it). He got seriously mad and told me I was just a kid, pretending to be so grown up. He said I wasn't ready to be grown up. And that I couldn't hold my pee like a grown up. So he put me in diapers. The adventures in diapers continued on from there, including such fun as having suppositories and butt plugs inserted in my anus, to being fingered while being spanked, etc. the diapers continued until the month was over (that was a long month!). We picked up where we left off the last time. He was loving but very strict with me. I get wet thinking about it now.