Why do people beg to be spanked?

Agracier I do wish to apologize to you for my comments below... I did think about editing them or deleting them, but people have seen them I am sure and one can't unspill water of the ground. I may disagree with your comments at times and they sometimes feel snarky to me but for the most part I do believe you want to be helpful. even if sometimes it is to point out the bloody obvious. I apologize sincerely. I still do feel you have a bias against our play, but rooted in a deep concern over what you see as abuse in our past for those of us who were raise with corporal punishment. .

It's OK. No big deal. We're on a discussion board so it's only normal that there are different opinions on many subjects.

Personally I have nothing against adults playing, far from it. My wife even started to like some modest spanking many years ago. And I am even a sucker for a movie like '50 Shades of Grey' which i seem to end up defending to my other friends, trying to explain what little I understand of the psychology behind arousal by means of physical punishments (even though the movie is more a romantic love story than anything else).

And maybe I am not always clear on the distinction I have in my mind about corporal punishment as sex play as opposed to a way of parenting. I was never spanked as a child, nor any of my siblings, but by golly could my mother ever make us all behave by her words, demeanor and tone of voice - and that while my father was away at sea for months on end. She managed on her own, so I wonder why other parents had to resort to spankings and the belt. She was a master sergeant-at-arms in the comportment department.

But whatever, best of friends. Frank discussions make for better understanding. 😃 If I can go for rounds on end with Suzie and still hand her 'likes' as if they were M&Ms, no big deal about anything. Thanks for your post

Just like there are different styles of sex , rough, sensual, erotic, sensual etc. meet certain wants or needs there are also different styles of spankings to have needs met . A playful spanking can be a form of foreplay as an erotic spanking can be a prelude to arousal .

While I think some people can not understand how a hard spanking can actually be a turn on for the spankee I completely agree with DST "Because they want to feel the Love. They know that their partner has taken the time to spank their naughty bare bottom in order to make them feel loved and secure in knowing that they are being cared for."

It takes alot of trust to totally submit to your spanker , its that intimate , vunerability you experience , you can just let go , be taken to that place in your head that you no longer have to think .

Ive yet to be brought to that place , while yes it sounds like it could be very painful but its a safe pain. From what I have heard others describe about getting into that " headspace" its close to nirvana .

It's oh so erotic to be spanked.

I reallly can't speak for other women here, but i really have not idea. Perhaps, the spankings i got from my mother triggered something inside my mind. Was I born a submissive, or what? When I was in my mid-twenties, my mom, after a few drinks, admitted that she enjoyed spankings and that dad sometimes, "Took care of business back there", when she did something wrong, or whatever. Is it genetic? You never said whether or not you enjoy spanking your gf. If you do, stay with her and stop trying to figure out why. I gave up on that a long time ago. My husband enjoys spanking as much as I do. You might consider doing the same! -Gabi

Spanking a bare butt involves exposing, and exposing leads to high emotional release. Cry, yell, squirm, and anticipate what's next. Submission can be highly stimulating. The sting. Bring it on.

Bridgette You are so right. I love my husband deeply because of our many years together and all we have shared. We are not compatible at spanking play because to him it's just to laughable. Ruins the scene for me. But when I get a good spanking I am happier than if I have had a dozen orgasims and the first thing I want to do is thank the man who did it. I do verbally but also want to do it physically too, at that point a Dad could ask anything of me and I'd do it. Subspace as it has been called by others is powerful. Thankfully I have only had good experiences..

She has a spanking need or want. Some people will always want one after their first spanking. There is the submission factor and loss of control.

Age old question. I’ve talked to hundreds of adult spankos over the years and there are some similarities among them.

I have my own ideas but don’t want to be crucified for them by the holier-than-thou “spanking is never ok unless it’s kinky sex” crowd that dominates here.

@oldskoolotk This is a fetish site correct?

I have my own ideas but don’t want to be crucified

We don't do crucifixions anymore, not figuratively either.

So why not let us hear your ideas?

And btw: from what i read here, the overwhelming notions about spanking seems to be from members who look back fondly on their correctional spanking experiences when youngsters.